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[nothingspecialjustasoul]

What doesn’t kill you makes you cry during intimacy.

[edersondeaquarian]

Love as a Sanctuary or a Leash?

02/15/26

Watching The Loved One, my biggest realization is that sometimes, love fails not because there is a lack of it but because of a clash in how we survive.

While we can look at Ellie as an Air Sign (Gemini) from a purely human perspective, she represents the Fear of Erasure. Marami sa atin, kapag pumasok sa isang relasyon, natatakot na baka kailangan nating isuko kung sino talaga tayo para lang maging isa sa partner natin. Ellie’s flight to Nepal and her constant need to extend her stay isn’t just about travel… it’s about proving to herself that she still exists outside of the relationship.

• Jericho’s character represents the kind of love that wants to build a home … a roof and 4 walls. Safe but closed. Pero si Ellie, she represents a love that needs a horizon. Neither is wrong but they are fundamentally incompatible if they don't learn to compromise. The tragedy is that the more he tries to build walls to keep her safe, the more she feels like she’s in a prison. Nakakasuffocate mahalin ang taong ang tanging hangad ay ikulong ka sa loob ng safety niya.

• We often romanticize the partner who stays and waits (like Jericho) but the movie shows the toll that takes. Being an anchor for someone who wants to be the wind is exhausting. It turns love into resentment and that’s where the storm comes from.

• The movie suggests that for a relationship like this to work, both people need to be okay with being alone while together. If you can't handle your partner being in … physically or mentally for a while, you aren't loving them… you’re loving the idea of them being yours.

The writer seems to be challenging the audience to ask… Is your love a sanctuary or a leash? Most of us think we are providing a sanctuary but to someone who values their independence above all else, even the most beautiful house can feel like a cage.

The movie is a reminder that the greatest gift you can give a free spirit isn't a promise to never leave… it's the permission to go, knowing they have a safe place to return to.

[ctrlgrlblog]

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💍 “What a Faithful Man Looks Like”

(Because good men DO exist — they’re just rare and consistent.)

Let’s shift the energy.

Not every man is a liar, a cheater, or a walking bare minimum.

Faithful men still exist — but they don’t look like what society glamorizes.

A faithful man isn’t perfect.

He’s intentional.

Here’s how to spot one:

1. His consistency doesn’t fade after the first month.

Faithful men don’t “switch up.”

Their attention stays steady because their intentions are steady.

If he wanted you, he still wants you.

Period.

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2. He makes his relationship clear, not confusing.

A faithful man doesn’t give:

• mixed signals

• half-answers

• vague stories

• emotional distance

He gives clarity because loyalty thrives where confusion ends.

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3. He respects you behind your back.

A loyal man protects:

• your image

• your reputation

• your dignity

• your name

Even when you’re not in the room.

Especially then.

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4. He has boundaries with other women.

Not because you asked —

because he chose to.

No flirting.

No emotional cheating.

No secret messages.

No “work wife.”

No “she’s just a friend” but he hides the texts.

Faithful men don’t play in gray areas.

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5. He communicates instead of disappearing.

If something’s wrong, he talks.

If he’s stressed, he tells you.

If he needs space, he says it with respect.

Men who cheat avoid communication.

Men who are faithful prioritize it.

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6. He’s predictable in the best way.

Not boring — dependable.

You know his habits.

You know his routine.

You don’t have to play detective.

You don’t have to compete with random women online.

Loyalty feels calm, not chaotic.

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7. He doesn’t make you question your worth.

A faithful man values you, encourages you, reassures you.

He doesn’t:

• make you insecure

• ignore your needs

• dismiss your feelings

• make you feel replaceable

He CHOOSES you — every day.

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8. His actions mirror his words.

Promises mean nothing without proof.

A loyal man follows through because integrity is his personality, not a performance.

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9. He takes accountability.

When he messes up, he says it.

He corrects it.

He grows from it.

Cheaters lie, deflect, blame.

Faithful men own up and improve.

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10. He makes you feel safe — emotionally, mentally, and romantically.

Not anxious.

Not unsure.

Not confused.

Safe.

The right man won’t make you wonder if he’s faithful —

you’ll feel it.

Because loyalty isn’t loud.

It’s consistent.

It’s quiet.

It’s steady.

It’s intentional.

Real men do still exist — you just have to stop entertaining the ones who show you the opposite.

[ariesnotes]

Funny how we ration our tenderness—generous with those who bruise us, frugal with those who heal us.

🌘 follow @notesaries for more uncomfortable truths

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[lavender-lattte]

Good morning fam, my boyfriend moves in with me today after 3 years long distance. Hope you have a blessed day 🥰

[nothingspecialjustasoul]

What does love mean to you?

[ctrlgrlblog]

🔥 Why Men Come Back After You Leave

(Because “I miss you” is not a redemption arc.)

Let’s get something straight before we start romanticizing nonsense:

Men do not come back because they suddenly “realized your worth.” They come back because something they were benefiting from is no longer available.

That’s it. That’s the tweet. Now let’s break it down.

1. Because you closed the 24/7 access pipeline

When you were around, he had:

emotional support on demand

validation

sex or sexual access

someone to text when bored

someone to fall back on

When you left, that pipeline shut down.

CTRLGRL logic: Men respond to consequences, not conversations. Men don’t miss women — they miss benefits.

Once access disappears, suddenly he’s “reflecting.”

2. Because the replacements were not what he thought

Men always think:

the next girl will be easier

more chill

less demanding

lower standards

Then reality hits:

she wants commitment

she doesn’t tolerate nonsense

she leaves faster

or she’s using HIM

Now he’s nostalgic.

Not because you were special — but because you were available.

3. Because his ego took a hit

Men hate rejection — especially when it’s quiet and final.

You leaving without:

begging

crying

threatening

chasing

does damage.

So he comes back to check:

“Do I still have access to her?”

Not to commit. To restore ego.

4. Because you stopped overgiving

The version of you who:

stopped checking in

stopped fixing

stopped accommodating

stopped being endlessly patient

is FAR more attractive than the version who stayed.

CTRLGRL rule: Men value what becomes scarce.

5. Because silence forces accountability

When you were there, he was distracted. When you left, the silence got loud.

Now he has to sit with:

his choices

his delays

his indecision

So he reaches out.

6. Because other women didn’t baby him

You understood him. You were patient. You gave chances.

Other women? They did not.

So he circles back to the woman who made life comfortable.

That doesn’t mean love. That means convenience.

7. Because he thinks you’ll fold

Most men come back assuming:

you still care

you’ll hear him out

you’ll give him another chance

They come back with:

nostalgia

vague apologies

“I’ve been thinking”

But no plan. No clarity. No change.

CTRLGRL logic: Apologies without behavior change are manipulation.

8. Because loss feels different than absence

Men don’t feel loss until it’s final.

Distance makes you:

more valuable

more mysterious

less accessible

Now suddenly he’s ready to “talk.”

Too late.

FINAL TRUTH

Men come back when:

access is removed

comfort disappears

ego is bruised

options dry up

Not because they evolved overnight.

CTRLGRL says: Never let a man come back just to waste more of your time.Judge a man by results, not emotions.

And your homegirl says: If he didn’t choose you when he had you, don’t let him return when he’s bored.