#romance-averse

[flora-tea]

no romo 😖❌

yes homo 😏🌈

[corelliaxdreaming]

Some little edits for @arospecfanworksweek day five "aro stereotypes." (Areotypes?) Some lean toward the stereotypes themselves while others are more about the trend of fighting against said sterotypes to the point of excluding aros who do fit them.

(Flags: bellusromantic, romance-averse, aroace, uniromantic, heartless aro, straight aro)

[aspecpridecalendar]

Happy Pride to all romance-averse aspecs!

Romance-averse - Someone who is repulsed by the idea of personally engaging in romantic interaction. They may find the idea uncomfortable or unwanted while feeling favorable or indifferent toward romance as a concept. Romance-averse individuals may be fine with or interested in discussing romantic topics or consuming romantic media. Commonly used among but not exclusive to arospecs.

[thearoacemoon]

Is it too much to ask for a fantasy book with no romance? Please!

I just want to have a break sometimes. My romance-averse being is fed off relationships that can be easily written off. Or the ones that simply happen with no warning.

Me: "Oh, they're in love? Where did this come from?"

Author: "From inside my ass!"

[werewolfpurfect]

A new proposal for the aspec community 🖤💜💚

Recently, I was discussing personal attitudes towards romance with my QPP, and we thought about how personal attitudes towards romance/sex shouldn’t only be about whether one finds them disgusting, unsettling, uninteresting or enjoyable, but should also include other feelings. It is how we came up with the term romance/sex-wrathful.

Now wrathful might refer to a series of feelings that cause anger, irriation or burning rage at the way our amatonormative society constantly shoves romance/ partnered sex in our faces, in ways that present them as the ultimate goal, the ultimate pleasure, the cure-all of all problems in life and something everyone desires and should strive for. 

This can manifest for a number of reasons for the people who feel it:

a. They might feel it is unnecessary and overrated

b. They might be angered at the importance the world puts at it and the pressure to fInD a RoMaNtIc/SeXuAl PaRtNeR

c. They don’t understand it, and that pisses them off because it’s EVERYWHERE

d. They might be angered at the way it is portrayed in the media, and the stupid limitations/expectations they spread about it

What do yall think about it? Share your opinion and other points, we would like to hear from you. 

P.S One of the reasons I enjoyed this conversation was because I am using the concept of linguistic becomings for my thesis. 

By the gay way, if you wanna check my QPP’s work out, her instagram is: https://www.instagram.com/cyrill.tate/

[grapeflavord]

while there is a part of me that really loves romantic love, another part of me absolutely hates it as an aro person. i hate that everyone treats romantic relationships as more important, and i hate that friends will ditch each other for romantic partners. i hate that being aro makes making friends harder, because everyone talks about romance, everyone wants to talk about their crushes and partners and if you cant then youre considered boring. i feel like allo people really underestimate how romance-based everything is

[unleashed-salt]

Its pretty wierd when non-averse/repulsed aspecs talk about how seperate aversion/repulsion is experinced with other aspecs. Like really, repulsed aroace here, i definentely can say that i experince my repulsion as a wider part off my aspec orientation, dosent mean its the same for everyone ofc, but that dosent change the fact its like that for *me*, i exist. and yes i do primarly indentify on basis off having no attraction. But that still dosent change the fact i experince repulsion as a part off my indentity and not some seperate factor.

[avenpt]

Is it normal for a person who identifys as Aro to feel very uncomforable at the prospect of a romantic relationship. Every time that a person has approached me with romantic feelings and the intent to date I feel like four walls are closing in and start to feel like I have no way out. Like claustrofobia. I just panic completly.

Yes, it’s normal! Not every aro person feels discomfort about romantic relationships, but certainly some do (even non-aros can feel this way). I think it might be best to refer to what you’re speaking about as “romance-aversion” or “romance-repulsion.” I felt the exact same way the very few times a friend brought their romantic feelings to the table…so I would say I’m a romance-averse aro, too. You’re not alone.