"I'm a mono lesbian/exclusively wlw, what term should I use?"
Hey all. This post is a bit different than my usual ones. I'm making this for people who are exclusively wlw, and what terms are safe for them to use.
First, let's go over what's not safe: vixenamoric. Not to be confused with trixenamoric, which has a different meaning. Vixenamoric was coined by lesbian exclusionists to mean "she/her binary women who exclusively love she/her binary women." They claim to have made it because they no longer felt connected to the lesbian label since it started to include nonbinary people. However, vixenamorics constantly try to redefine lesbian to be the vixenamoric definition. They're exclusionists and constantly cry about how much they hate nonbinary folk for stealing their label. It was made in bad faith, and as such is not safe to use.
So what can you use as an exclusive wlw?
Lesbian: The lesbian definition, although more inclusive, still allows for women who exclusively love women. If you don't feel a need to specify your identity further, lesbian does the trick.
Lilaen: A term for an exclusive lesbian. Lilaen refers to a lesbian who uses the modern, exclusive usage of lesbian rather than someone who reclaims it's historical nonexclusivity. It can also refer to a lesbian who places more emphasis on her lack of attraction to men rather than her attraction to other genders. A lilaen may or may not be attracted to people who are only partially men, depending on if they see lilaen as a term for any lesbian who doesn't like people who are primarily or solely men or if they see it as a term for lesbians who don't like men at all. Lilaens may have split attraction or they may view lilaen as a clarifier that their attraction is congruent
Rosaen: Rosaen is a term for a lesbian who is a woman, at least partially, who is exclusively attracted to women. The degree of exclusivity ranges from "exclusively attracted to people who are only women and nothing else" to "exclusively attracted to people who are women to some degree." Rosaens, like lilaens, may have split attraction or they may use rosaen to clarify their attraction is congruent
Trixamoric: Exclusive, static attraction to binary women.
The most safe and accurate alternative to vixenamoric is rosaen. I coined rosaen on my main account. It's not exclusive to she/her binary women but it is exclusive to women. Vixenamoric was made in bad faith by longsword lesbians to signal to each other that they're "one of the good ones." Lilaen and rosaen are both from inclusionists and were made in good faith.
