#same-gender attraction

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

OSA Pride Flag

OSA: other-sex attraction (or opposite-sex attraction); the counterpart of SSA (same-sex attraction/similar-sex attraction).

SSA Pride Flag

SSA: same-sex attraction/similar-sex attraction.

SGA Pride Flag

SGA: same-gender (or similar-gender/s) attraction.

OGA Pride Flag

OGA: other-gender(s) [or opposite-gender(s)] attraction; the counterpart of SGA (same-gender attraction).

These definitions are neutral in nature and are older than the discourse surrounding them (gatekeepers still use then, so use with care).

Though "opposite" may imply a gender/sex binary, it's not always the case since many use it as the attraction to their antigender(s)/sex(es) [e.g.: enanteic]. These terms includes those who are exclusively attracted to such gender(s)/sex(es), and those who are attracted to multiple sexes/genders. Sometimes, being attracted to multigender or agender people can make the attraction blur into neither or both (mestric/diamoric is useful for that).

It should be said that "sex" isn't necessarily indicating biological sex. As sex is a biopsychosocial construct and may include social/brain sex (according to one's intrapersonal identity narrative). For example, a Wolffian dating a Müllerian Wolfadic can still consider their attraction SSA if they consider the altered/modified sex or psychosocially sexed traits in this attraction. However, another person can consider their attraction as both SGA and OSA, as they see sex and gender as distinct concepts interpersonally [unleashed from the binomial/biaxial].

Image transcripts input is appreciated. These flags can include intersex and altersex people as long as they consent individually.

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Homosocial Homosexual Pride Flag

Homosocial: experiencing social attraction to one's own gender; socializing or having interpersonal interactions with people of the same gender of yours.

Homosexual (homorose): experiencing same-gender attraction, sexually and/or romantically (homoromantic); being attracted to individuals with genders similar to one's own.

[looselyhere]

I have a serious question

Do people actually think that people who experience same-gender attraction don’t talk about it all the time? I’ve seen some jokes about straight people thinking like, a gay character is more accurate because they don’t talk about being gay all the time, but I’ve never actually seen a post where someone is actually saying it. Is the belief that bi/gay/etc people don’t talk about liking their same gender a lot actually a thing?

[asexualxbisexual]

I'm 21 and have identified as ace for 3 years. Despite never being interested in anyone in high school, I id'd as straight. After coming out as ace, I figured I was het-romantic. Now, out of nowhere it seems, I feel romantically interested in girls. I'm not sure how to interpret this, like if my interest in girls is genuine or not, since it came on so suddenly.

The thing about attraction is that you can’t tell yourself who to be attracted to; it just sort of happens that way that it happens. Even if this interest came on quite suddenly, I think it deserves your attention and consideration. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you must instantly scramble to relabel yourself, though. You can take all the time you need to process this new-found attraction before telling a soul. If you feel that it warrants new words, find them! If you don’t, stick with what you’ve got! And remember, it is always acceptable to identify as questioning, -flexible, or whatever else you need in order to best convey your identity to yourself and whoever else you deem worthy.

I hope this helps!

~Arin

[biromanatees-like-cats]

random aside. i wanna write something where a same-gender Pokemon gets caught by Attract or Captivate and the entire battle stops as the attacking Pokemon and both trainers stare in disbelief. BI/GAY POKEMON YES PLEASE.

suggestions?

[actuallunalovegood]

i noticed that you are mormon. i am too! what are your thoughts on same-gender attraction? what would you do if one of your friends of the same gender told you they had a crush on you? would you ever go on a same gender date?

I LOVE THIS QUESTION. And I love you random citizen. *high five*To my other, non-Mormon followers: Yes. I am Mormon. No, I do not have more than one mom. My parents (remember, one mom, one dad) have been together since like the 70's and yes I have lots of brothers and sisters who have already procreated. It makes for a big bouncy annoying family that I love, a lot.Now that we've settled that.

My thoughts on same-gender attraction are perhaps more liberal than you would expect from a girl raised in Mormonville. My family (*cough cough PARENTS*) and most of my friends are very conservative in their views, so it's sometimes frustrating to talk about this, since most of them think that gay people "choose to be gay" and other really freakin' dumb stuff. However, this is what I know:

I have a very close friend who is bisexual, and she has openly told me she finds me attractive and has a "crush" on me. It's seriously not a big deal. We're best friends, and we both want it to stay that way. We both know each other inside and out. I don't feel uncomfortable talking to her about it. It helps that she invites my questions when I need to know things. Maybe it's because I spent a lot of time in the theatre growing up that I'm totally used to the idea that "some people are gay and some people are not." But I am perfectly at peace with that. Most Mormons like to pretend that gay people don't exist because they can't handle thinking about it. I find this response childish. If someone told me they had a crush on me, I would be totally sympathetic and would talk to them just like I would talk to a guy who had a crush on me that I didn't reciprocate. Same-gender attraction is not something you need an exorcism for. I believe that same-gender attraction is just their body - just like I have certain kinks or things that I'm attracted to in other people. And to get a little religious here (I'm a very religious being, other non-mormon followers, it's gotta happen): I think that same-gender attraction is part of someone's body. Yes, it's part of their personality. But I don't think it's part of your spirit. I believe that after resurrection, the body will be perfected. I don't believe that same-gender attraction is morally wrong. I believe that gay sex is morally wrong, just like I believe sex outside of marriage is morally wrong. Does that make sense? That being said, I love people for their personalities, not their choices. I've made mistakes (and same-gender attraction is NOT a mistake, it isn't a choice and therefore can't be a "sin") that I don't wish to be judged by, and other people should have that same courtesy from me.

I don't think I would ever go on a same gender date. Not a serious one. My bi friend and I joke about going on dates and holding hands and making hetero couples feel awkward, which I would totally do for laughs. (Trust me, it's gonna happen soon. I've been out of the country for 2 months, so we haven't done it yet. YET.) However, I feel like it's unfair to go on a date with someone you know you're not interested in, homosexual, bisexual, or heterosexual. I am confident about my sexuality, and so I know I'm not interested in someone of the same gender. It'd be unfair to them to go on a date and give them reasons to think otherwise. I hope I've been clear and also fair, and if I've been vague or worded something weird, I welcome more questions or clarifications.