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Sometimes it’s meant to be…
HOW TO WRITE ROMANTIC ATTRACTION FOR DUMMIES
For anyone who wants to learn
Requested by the lovely @darkandstormydolls
Alrighty! Welcome back or welcome to my blog! I'm dipping my toes back into the category of posts that gained me my exposure!
So if you're here, you want to know how to write romantic attraction/romance!
Strap in and let's begin!
(Pls spread this to people you think would benefit from seeing it, or anyone who requested it bc I forgot)
Step one -
Your characters must admire one another at the beginning, Romantic feelings usually do not present themselves as obvious until you really think them through, meaning your characters may not notice they have a crush until it's too late
These are general statistics and light stereotypes. So feel free to not use this tip:
Male characters usually tend to notice physical things first, like body shape, hair, skin, clothing, the way their lover moves, ect
And Female Characters Generally tend to notice more small things and personality-based traits first, like their lover's humor, speaking mannerisms, shifts in expression, ways they fidget, emotion in their voice, ect.
And someone who is in love will generally show more interest in this particular person's movements, actions, words, and anything in general.
Step 2 -
The character will show more interest in sharing their love language with their lover/crush
Physical touch - People with physical touch love languages may want to hold hands, cuddle, hug, or just lean on their crush whenever they are close to them moreso than they want to with others
Gift giving - Gift givers will want to get more gifts more often for their crush, probably thinking of them whenever they see little trinkets or wanting to get them big gifts for special occasions or signs of appreciation
Acts of Service - Acts of service people will offer to do extra favors and a bunch of extra stuff they don't have to do twice as much as normal
Words of Affirmation - Flattery, they will generally flood their crush with kind words and compliments
Quality time - Quality time people will want to spend time with their crush at almost every turn, and when they want company, will turn to their crush first
Step 3 -
After a while, these urges while become very prominent and more noticeable to the person having them
They may find themselves fantasizing about their crush or having them show up in their thoughts more and more, feeling nicer and happier when they're around, or when they're thinking about them
Smiling when they think about them, cutsey little fluff thingies like that
A crush is essentially: I want to date that, I want to be near that always, I want to marry that, I want that to snuggle me (or other love languages)
Or in simpler terms: if that asked me out, I would say yes (or at least want to say yes if your character is in denial)
Step 4 -
The character's urges to be close to this person grows strong enough that they do smth about it, whether prompted by another character. Or they just don't know I how to not anymore (like when you wanna eat candy and you don't want to, but you do anyway bc I JUST NEED THE CHOCOLATE OKAY?)
(Or for Aro/Ace, garlic bread)
People who are in love are generally very prone to be all dreamy and poetic and VERY EXTREMELY BIASED towards their crush
Then Yada Yada they kiss & shit
You're welcome, BYEEEEEEEE 👋
Happy writing!
Love you!
Have a good day! :]
What Your Love Line Numbers Reveal About You
In the Matrix of Destiny, your Love Line reveals how you love, who you attract, and what lessons you’ll face in relationships. It’s your soul’s script for romance ✧
https://matrix-destiny.com/ ( Use this link to get your chart )
The first number ( 3 in the picture ) : How you love The second number ( 18 in the picture ) : Who you attract The third number ( 15 in the picture ) : Lessons in love
Love Line of 1
How you love: Independent, fiery, a little bossy but very loyal. You show love through action, not clinginess. Who you attract: Partners who admire your strength but might feel overshadowed. Often people who need your leadership. Lessons: Learning compromise, not controlling the relationship, balancing independence with emotional vulnerability.
Love Line of 2
How you love: Gentle, nurturing, deeply romantic. You crave emotional connection and partnership. Who you attract: Stronger, more dominant personalities sometimes partners who take advantage of your kindness. Lessons: Learning not to lose yourself in relationships, setting boundaries, finding balance between giving and receiving.
Love Line of 3
How you love: Fun, playful, expressive. You’re flirty, charming, and bring excitement to love. Who you attract: Partners who either adore your charisma or feel insecure about it. Sometimes emotionally unavailable people. Lessons: Learning to take love seriously, grounding yourself, not running away when things get “too real.”
Love Line of 4
How you love: Stable, practical, deeply committed. You believe love should be built to last. Who you attract: Partners who need grounding but sometimes “chaotic” types who disrupt your stability. Lessons: Avoiding over-rigidity, learning flexibility, not treating love like a job or duty.
Love Line of 5
How you love: Passionate, adventurous, freedom-loving. You hate feeling trapped and need constant excitement. Who you attract: Magnetic but unstable partners; sometimes “bad boys/girls” or commitment-phobes. Lessons: Learning balance between freedom and loyalty, resisting temptation, not chasing thrill over substance.
Love Line of 6
How you love: Deeply responsible, nurturing, family-oriented. You love hard and take relationships seriously. Who you attract: Partners who rely on your caretaking sometimes emotionally immature ones. Lessons: Not carrying all the weight, letting partners take care of you too, avoiding “martyr” tendencies.
Love Line of 7
How you love: Introspective, spiritual, mysterious. You need deep emotional + intellectual connection. Who you attract: Fascinated partners, often broken or “lost souls” seeking healing. Lessons: Learning to open up emotionally, not staying too distant, balancing solitude with intimacy.
Love Line of 8
How you love: Intense, passionate, and ambitious. You love with power and devotion, but control issues may arise. Who you attract: Strong-willed partners or ones drawn to your authority/charisma. Sometimes power struggles occur. Lessons: Balancing dominance with partnership, avoiding manipulation, learning vulnerability.
Love Line of 9
How you love: Emotional, idealistic, humanitarian. You love in a selfless, big-hearted way. Who you attract: Partners who need healing, or dramatic types who mirror your intensity. Lessons: Letting go of toxic cycles, not sacrificing yourself, learning realistic expectations in love.
Love Line of 10
How you love: You seek independence and stability at once. You love boldly, but also fear losing control. Who you attract: Partners who are either too passive or too dominant — extremes. Lessons: Learning to balance individuality with partnership, avoiding perfectionism in love.
Love Line of 11 (Master Number)
How you love: Extremely intuitive, almost psychic in relationships. You sense energies and moods before words are spoken. Who you attract: Soulmate vibes, but also partners who test your boundaries through intensity. Lessons: Avoiding emotional overload, not idolizing partners, grounding your love in reality.
Love Line of 12
How you love: Dreamy, imaginative, artistic. You crave passion, magic, and storybook-level romance. Who you attract: Creative or eccentric partners, sometimes emotionally unavailable ones. Lessons: Learning discernment, not confusing fantasy with reality, balancing romance with practicality.
Love Line of 13 (Karmic)
How you love: Hardworking and reliable, but sometimes you overthink relationships and over-carry burdens. Who you attract: Partners who push you into “fixing mode.” Lessons: Letting love flow naturally, not turning it into a chore, breaking karmic cycles of control/responsibility.
Love Line of 14 (Karmic)
How you love: Wild, magnetic, freedom-driven. You crave passion and experiences over routine. Who you attract: Tempting partners, thrill-seekers, commitment-phobes. Lessons: Resisting destructive patterns (cheating, instability, toxicity), learning balance in love.
Love Line of 15
How you love: Deeply magnetic, seductive, sensual. You pull partners in like a flame. Who you attract: People obsessed with you, sometimes toxic attachments. Lessons: Learning healthy attachment, using your seductive energy wisely, not falling into manipulation or obsession.
Love Line of 16 (Karmic)
How you love: Intense transformation in relationships — you love in ways that change both you and your partner. Who you attract: Deeply karmic connections, sometimes painful, always transformative. Lessons: Letting go of ego, healing heartbreak cycles, learning true intimacy through vulnerability.
Love Line of 17
How you love: Inspiring, uplifting, often the “light” in your partner’s life. You love with hope and optimism. Who you attract: People who see you as a guide or muse. Lessons: Not losing yourself in saving others, learning equal give-and-take.
Love Line of 18 (Karmic)
How you love: Emotionally deep, but prone to illusions and misunderstandings in love. Who you attract: Partners with secrets, confusing dynamics, or hidden agendas. Lessons: Trusting intuition, cutting through illusions, breaking karmic triangles (love triangles, betrayal).
Love Line of 19 (Karmic)
How you love: Independent yet desiring recognition in love. Sometimes pride or ego blocks intimacy. Who you attract: Strong-willed, stubborn partners. Lessons: Dropping ego battles, embracing humility, learning true partnership.
Love Line of 20
How you love: Sensitive, intuitive, emotionally rich. You seek deep soul connection. Who you attract: Nurturing, spiritual partners (or sometimes clingy ones). Lessons: Balancing your own needs with others’, not losing yourself in emotions.
Love Line of 21
How you love: Social, charming, playful in love. You crave connection and adventure together. Who you attract: Extroverted or worldly partners. Lessons: Avoiding superficial bonds, learning depth, staying true to self in social dynamics.
Love Line of 22 (Master Builder)
How you love: Big-dream energy. You want to build an empire with your partner, love = legacy. Who you attract: Ambitious or visionary partners, but sometimes unstable ones. Lessons: Not overwhelming relationships with “big plans,” grounding dreams into daily love and care.
It's really important to me that you guys understand that Grace most likely won't just suddenly get romantic attraction upon meeting Rocky, Adrian or Simon.
Its really important that when you write charaters that you are portraying as aro, they don't Disney style or hotel transylvania style get romantic attraction.
Love? Sure, because Grace can 100% love or be in love with someone without being romantically attracted to them. There is more love then just romance and it is completely valid if your grace specifcally is more on the grey or demi side of the spectrum or just not aro entirely, but if you are trying to portray Aro Grace, you have to show his love and commitment in non traditional media ways.
Think of it like being touch adverse. In my fic right now Grace is touch adverse. Carl isn't, and because Grace knows Carl enjoys physical contact like cuddling even though Grace doesn't, Grace is more tolerant of the touching because he wants Carl to feel loved. Same thing with Carl accepting the fact Grace doesn't like being held as much as he'd like too.** Both of them make a sacrafice for one another in their preferences to show each other love.
Grace does not suddenly have romantic attraction for carl, but he does hold love for him and wants Carl to be happy.
**This works really well with Rocky too because I think Eridians are social creatures and it makes both Grace and Rocky upset that they cant touch each other, So Rocky makes the ball, making a sacrafice of space so that they can interact.
Its similar in the romance aspect. Maybe Grace dosn't enjoy kissing but tolerates a kiss on special occasions or initates a kiss when he feels like he can handle the discomfort. He most likely wouldn't suddenly enjoy kissing after meeting Simon if he was disgusted by kissing his entire life beforehand. But he can definitely become less disgusted or tolerate a couple smooches.
Communication and compromise are huge in all relationships, whether it be friendships, dating, marriage, co workers even.
If you want to make Grace feel that sudden romance (perhaps he's demi aro and Rocky makes him feel romantic attraction for the first time, thats a decent trope, esspecially in red string or soulmate aus) at the very least express his confusion and fear of the feeling. In Disney, there's usually a 'love at first sight' aspect that doesn't work well with Aros for obvious reasons. Plus I just in general feel like if you suddenly are hit with a massive romantic crush after only having friend crushes for 40~ years youd think you are dying or sick at the minimum. Why else would you be so sweaty and nervous and warm around a person?
TLDR: Write what you want, but be sure you're writing conveys your aro charaters in a non disney-esc way ❤️
—.ᐟ ROMOSEALED
for those that desire romantic relationships/connections but struggle due to an aversion to being emotionally vulnerable and generally feeling closed off or as if their emotions are sealed away
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