I'm following your blog for 1 month, it's very pretty. If you could help me with confidence related any info and also my height is very short, everyone is In the class to very tall.I feel to much insecure, I wanna be an entrepreneur, I feel I'm not doing enough .
hi darling!! thank you so much for following me on here and showing my blog support! 🤍
as for your request, i think it’s important to remember 3 very important things when it comes to having confidence:
1. negative self-talk is an absolute NO
i’ve talked about this in a few other posts, but let me just reiterate this! talking down on yourself allows two things to happen: 1. you’ll allow that same negative/self-deprecating words be accessible for others to use on you and 2. you’ll only continue to bring yourself down & get further and further away from finding true confidence.
also, consider this: think about the hurtful things you say to yourself, would you say those things to someone you love? no, right? so why would you say them to yourself? your loved ones would want you to lift yourself up just as you would lift them up, so always show yourself the same love and kindness as you would to a friend!
learn to say “thank you”! when someone gives you a compliment, don’t try to shut it down with “oh, no i don’t look that great today” or “ah, you don’t mean that”. accept the compliments, even if you force yourself to say thank you you’ll eventually start believing in those compliments yourself!
2. “never compare your behind the scenes with someone else’s highlights”
this was a quote i found through a youtube video i watched on confidence! i believe way too many of us focus so much on what we see on social media and, without even giving it a second thought, we start comparing our own lives to what everyone else is highlighting on their accounts. 9 times out of 10, people are never going to show what their real life is like. they’re always going to show the best parts of their lives, and we as individuals only see the good parts of everyone else’s lives while we know the bad parts that are going on in our lives. understand that everyone has their own struggles, but we just might not see it right then and there.
everyone lives their lives much differently, and that’s okay! just because you see people moving faster in their own life doesn’t mean you’re behind or that you have to catch up. it’s your life! you can go at whatever pace you feel most comfortable! what other people are doing in their own lives shouldn’t be any kind of priority in your own life. focus on you and your own path.
this kind of ties in with the last two points, but reminding and affirming yourself that you are enough will truly do wonders in building your confidence. if you need that reminder from someone else, then allow me to be that person! you are enough. your efforts have been noticed, your beauty is truly unmatched, and you will always be more than enough for yourself and for others.
i believe everyone was put on this earth to provide some kind of purpose, and we may not know what that purpose is exactly just yet, but we have a purpose in our lives. understanding and knowing just that bit of information will motivate you to achieve your dreams and reach that finish line of success! and you will get there, but you have to remind yourself of your worth!
i’m really big on journaling here on this blog, and i believe journaling can help people so much in many aspects of their life. i want you to reflect on yourself!
write down 3 things you’ve accomplished (whether in the past week, month, or year) and, essentially, write yourself a letter congratulating yourself!
what are 3 qualities about yourself that you take pride in? why?
write a love letter to yourself! talk about physical features you love or characteristics about yourself that make you happy!
think about what your loved ones would say to you, write down 5 of things and write them as affirmations (ex: “i am beautiful”, “i am capable and worthy of success”, “i have a delightful and joyful energy”)
some of my posts i’d recommend:
the art of self-confidence
finding & knowing your worth
i wasn’t always a confident person, and there are still days where i struggle finding that confidence i need. but if there’s anything i’ve learned to overcome my own insecurities, it’s that i am the only version of myself there is. i have my own set of accomplishments and i have my own special set of unique characteristics no one else has. you have to learn those things too! there’s no one else like you, no one else who works as hard as you do, no one else who achieves the things you do; there’s only one version of you and that is so, so unbelievably special!
with lots of love, faustina 🌷
