I’m not saying women who are conventionally feminine don’t make good friends, but I do tend to connect more easily with women who have a less conventional relationship to femininity. They often feel more interesting to befriend because they’re willing to step outside traditional expectations of womanhood and define themselves on their own terms. That doesn’t mean they can’t have internalized misogyny or be bad people. It’s just that there’s often less pressure around gender expectations, and I feel more relaxed being myself around them. Things like shaving, appearance standards, or other expectations tied to femininity tend to feel less important in those friendships, which makes it easier to connect authentically.
i am a very TYPE A GIRLY at my heart, so it’s in my nature to plan goals for every month before hand! i believe that if i decide how my upcoming month will look like, i’ll be prepared for ANY CUREVBALLS that may come my way..💬🎀
❤︎ refine my attention span: i checked my screen time after avoiding it for so long, and can you believe i’ve been averaging 7 hours a day? in this day and age, it’s so easy to get absorbed into the fun of the internet but we also need to be able to spend time with ourselves. i’m imposing a MAXIMUM OF 2 HOURS on weekdays and 3 HOURS on weekends rule on my phone.
dopamine menu: this has been all over my pinterest feed! it looks so adorbs to make + will def benefit me. basically, you create a menu of activities you can do that give you dopamine that aren’t stuff you do on your phone
❤︎ workout consistently: have you ever experienced the absolute GLOW after an intense workout? it’s a high i love chasing! my goal is to workout regularly rather than once a month, to feel my fittest and healthiest. it’s so easy to get sucked into working out for that small waist big bum ideal body look, that we forget to workout for our own health!
treadmill: the treadmill is my fav gym equipment ever, it’s so easy to use even for beginners. TIP: walk on incline to burn that extra fat, you’ll thank me later
gym: i am 16 and a girl, and my parents are super strict! i’m manifesting that they will allow me to go the gym alone. i’d love any tips!
❤︎ study study study: i seriously lack motivation and discipline to study. yes, i am a SERIOUS PROCASTINATOR. my exam block is coming up late april, and this is my time to lock in and rank high in my subjects. luckily for me, this year i’ve chosen subjects that i truly do like, so i’m hoping that i will do better academically this year. for example, i take economics which i love as a subject so much.
❤︎ regulating the nervous system: i am unfortunately a very very anxious girly (i even got diagnosed!) i find myself getting stressed over the smallest decisions ever!
meditation: a quick morning session of meditation does WONDERS to my body. one of my favs : meditation for balancing the nervous system
breathing: taking a moment to ground yourself and focusing on your breathing is what i’ve found to the quickest calm down my anxiety
❤︎ consuming more protein, potassium and hydration into my diet: this may be weird but i’ve never felt thirsty, i don’t drink enough water AT ALL! no skincare routine will fix that. my goal is to drink more water, have more protein than carbs, eat leafy greens and fish.
sometimes when we think of changing our diets, we automatically jump to restricting rather than adding! from a recovering girly, we need that energy especially as females with our 28 day cycle. instead of cutting out all carbs in your diet, start including more protein to feel fuller.
❤︎ a mental diet: as much we should take care of what we eat, we should take care of what we think too! a mental diet is the practice of monitoring and regulating your inner monologue. just as a physical diet involves choosing what food to put into your body, a mental diet involves choosing which thoughts you allow to "digest" in your subconscious.
the post i’ve linked to this point explores it in more depth! credits to them for the explanation of a mental diet
❤︎ self concept work: i’ve only just found out about the law of assumption this year, so i struggle with my self concept. developing your self concept is so helpful to manifesting and to your life in general. my self concept is still a work in progress but so far it’s made my life and manifesting so much easier
❤︎ lymphatic drainage: i recently started lymphatic drainage and i’m not even joking when i say the results are THAT GOOD! i just use any serum i have and massage, you don’t even need a gua shua
my favourite so far is: lymphatic drainage, face lifting massage
❤︎ pinkify my life: can a girl ever be TOO PINK? my goal for april is to buy more pink decor, clothes, accessories, anything really! i am simply not satisfied with the level of pink i have in my life yet!
this is my first post so i’m a bit nervous. enjoy angels and stay sweet inspo: honeytonedhottie 🪽💞🧁
Women are the ones labeling caring, empathetic, or nurturing men as “feminine,” and then turn around to complain about toxic masculinity. Those traits aren’t gendered, they’re human. Men can embody them and still be fully masculine. I also think people don’t realize that masculinity and femininity need each other to balance. Just like women have masculinity to balance out their femininity, men need traits traditionally seen as feminine to balance their masculinity. Toxic dynamics come from suppressing one side or forcing narrow definitions of gendered behavior. Embracing the full range of traits in everyone is how we reduce toxicity.
creating habits that actually stick isn’t about motivation, its about planning in a way that works for you. too often, people say, “i’m going to eat better” or “i’m going to workout more” and then.. nothing happens. the missing piece? a plan thats realistic and enforceable.
if you try to start something that’s way out of your current routine, like working out everyday if you never do. or completely changing your diet overnight. there’s no wonder why it’s almost impossible to keep up. and thats why your motivation dips, and the cycle repeats ..
the key is starting small, staying consistent and giving yourself a routine and structure that actually fits your life ! .. ♡
MONTHLY GOALS;
at the beginning of each month, i love sitting down with my google calendar, notion, or cute little planner and mapping out the month ahead.
i like to include:
big deadlines and events.
long term goals.
mini tasks for each event so i know exactly what i need to do.
you’re basically giving your month a cute little blueprint , so when you look at it, you feel calm and prepared.
WEEKLY PLANNING;
every sunday, i break down my monthly goals and plans into weekly steps. what can i realistically do this week that moves me closer to my bigger, long term goals? i make a little to do list using the eisenhower matrix to help me prioritize, because it makes my life feel so much easier. it uses 4 quadrants, categorized into whats urgent, what's important, and what can wait.
then each day, the night before i start to get ready for bed. i narrow it down again to the little wins. its all about realistic steps loves, you dont need to overwhelm yourself !
WHY PLANNING WORKS;
planning isnt just about ticking boxes. it takes the pressure of your mind and replaces it with direction. it turns chaos into structure.
small wins build momentum , so even tiny accomplishments make you feel so amazing.
writing it down, or saying it out loud, makes your brain take it 10x more seriously. once it’s out of your head, its wayy more easer to follow and youll most likely follow through.
it reduces decision fatigue (the tired feeling your brain gets when it has to make wayy too many choices.
ROUTINES AND HABIT STACKING;
habit stacking is honestly such a godsend and amazing trick. you basically build a new habit around something you already do.
for example:
after i brush my teeth at night, i’ll do 10 minutes of meditation.
i’ve shared my morning and evening routines before, and most of the time they stay pretty similar. the key is to make them realistic for you, so you can follow them if your life gets a little bit messy.
PROGRESS CHECKING AND CELEBRATION;
i love journaling my progress, and checking off tiny victories. even the smallest wins deserve a celebration or gift. celebrate yourself! you're doing amazing just by showing up for yourself!
QUICK REMINDERS !
do not plan for things you can't maintain, you're just asking for added stress.
flexible planning is okay, its okay if things shifts.
use the 80/20 principle: focus on the 20% of actions that give 80% of your results !
