#shamed

[ghost-eses]

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[gentlewordsdaily]

Craving comfort but feeling guilty when you actually receive it is such a confusing kind of pain.

Because a part of you wants softness so badly. You want reassurance. Understanding. Someone being gentle with you for once. You want to feel emotionally held instead of constantly carrying everything alone.

But the second someone does care about you, another feeling appears almost immediately.

Guilt.

Suddenly you feel like you are being dramatic. Too emotional. Too needy. Too dependent. Like you are taking up too much space just by needing comfort in the first place.

So instead of fully relaxing into being cared for, you start apologizing. Downplaying your feelings. Pulling away. Acting “fine” too quickly because vulnerability starts feeling embarrassing once someone actually sees it.

And honestly, a lot of people learn this guilt somewhere.

Sometimes from growing up feeling like your emotions were inconvenient. Sometimes from being comforted inconsistently. Sometimes from only receiving care when things became severe enough to “deserve” it. Sometimes from being treated like a burden for needing support at all.

So now even kindness can feel emotionally unsafe.

Not because you do not want it, but because part of you still believes needing comfort makes you difficult to love.

But human beings are meant to need each other sometimes.

Wanting reassurance does not make you manipulative.

Wanting gentleness does not make you weak.

Wanting someone to care when you are hurting does not make you “too much.”

And I hope one day comfort stops feeling like something you have to apologize for receiving.

I hope one day you let people hold your feelings gently without immediately trying to shrink yourself afterward.

You deserve softness too. Not only when you are easy, useful, independent, or perfectly okay.

Just as you are 🤍

[jayveesim]

193GB of cc..

like.. like have i ever deleted anything. My game runs beautifully though.. but let's do better.

[1introvertedsage]

People don’t realize how their own ill intent towards another increases poor outcomes in their life.

Moving with a pure heart and pure intentions will protect you from so much negativity.

[hisuncontrollableanger]

If I sexually embarrass myself one more time I'm actually going to explode. I'm gonna go boom boom. and all of you are gonna watch. goodnight.

[thesharkandthesnout]

…We all like to feel proud 🥲 🤦‍♀️ 🤦 🤦‍♂️

[dk-thrive]

We weren’t built to be calm, cool, and collected

We need to move away from this constant need of coming across as calm, cool and collected. We weren’t built to be calm, cool, and collected. If we were, it wouldn’t feel so fucking exhausting all the time. It would, you know, come naturally to us. You know what comes naturally to human beings though? Being open, being messy, being raw, being unfiltered, having lots of feelings. Why should we have to stifle our true nature? Let’s go after the things we want, let’s love each other brutally and honestly, and not worry about the consequences. Let’s release the feelings inside of us and let them land somewhere special. Otherwise, we might have a lifetime of longing in front of us.

— Ryan O’Connell, from “You Need To Go After The Things You Want” (Thought Catalogue, December 4, 2012) (via Last Tambourine)