The idea of “self-love” has kind of been trending all over social media for a while, and the tips normally reek of a certain aesthetic that only people that live in a filtered photo experience. We have all tried meditating, or gardening, or buying succulents, but sometimes that isn’t enough to remind us of our individual greatness. Which is why i’ve compiled a list of tips that apply to all people of all walks of life.
1. Acknowledge your greatness!
Many people, including ourselves, think it to be selfish when we pat ourselves on the back for what we have accomplished, but when we completely overlook the good things we do, we also overlook our talents and our unique abilities. It also isn’t fair to make yourself look worse than you really are, because at some point, you might begin to believe it. So own your talents and your skills and show them off once in a while! This isn’t to say toot your horn in everyone’s face until they slap it out your hand. Just don’t forget about your skill set so other people can feel better, and that way, you can be like “damn, sis! you’re talented!”
2. Write positive notes for yourself
I’m not talking about putting cute quotes all over the place (which is cool if you do that, and keep doing it if you like it!) i’m talking about little notes that you can hide in planners or around your house, so when you find them, you’ll be happily surprised! I do this a lot within my planner, which already has cute, positive notes printed on them already, but if you don’t have printed notes, you can surprise yourself with notes weeks in advance. It’ll motivate you and hopefully lighten up your mood.
Whether you equate beauty with confidence or not, a nice spa treatment or manicure can help you feel cute and important. Splurging on something for yourself allows you to put yourself first, and it’s a reminder that you are the main thing to focus on. Do things that heightens and accentuates your inner and outer beauty, and you will likely love yourself even more. We normally focus on the gift for our friend’s birthday, or the perfect book for your sister, and in that we, yet again, forget our interests. If you make money, you made it through your hard work and dedication, so there should be a sum of that money dedicated to you, regardless of that thing. Take yourself out on a date because you’re the most important person and you don’t need anyone else to show you that. You may even learn something new about yourself!
4. Put your life demands before other’s
This sounds hella selfish, but i couldn’t word the title without writing an entire paragraph, so hear me out! I used to, when i would be doing something, drop everything to go and do something else for someone. Of course, it’s always good to help others, but when you are sacrificing your sanity and the quality of your work, now you’re hurting yourself. Therefore, never give yourself up to the needs of others when you aren’t in a position to do so. Trust me, no one will get offended and no one will hate you if they’re a real friend.
When you hinder yourself so people like the cropped version of yourself, you often lose a piece of yourself that you cherished. So please, embrace the weird, queer, and unique parts of you and don’t let it go. This is the key to your individuality, and your individuality is what you love. Trust me when i say, that when someone denies your personality and yourself, they don’t like you and they are not your friend. It may sound negative, but it’s true, and we need to hear it for ourselves.
Fasting is for yourself not for anyone else, showing off
