#silverelfmage

[ladyvean]

You're so confident! I envy you sometimes. How do you do it?

I learned when I was very young that if you act like you are supposed to be doing something, people don’t question you.  I despise being questioned.  So, the way you present yourself to the world is the way you are generally perceived and it often has to be tailored to the situation.  You’ve heard the term “fake it til you make it” - well, that’s confidence in a nutshell.  Pretend until it’s true.  It also, I think for women especially, has to do with unlearning a lot of self-hatred that is programmed into us from infancy... which, I’m not going to lie, is a a lot of work.

Expectations are a big part of it too.  People respond to the energy and expectations you put out into the world.  I expect people to do what I say, so they do.  I expect people to get out of my way, so they do.

But also, like, just look at me.  What’s not to be confident about? ;)

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The most wonderful time of the year

This is for @kiranerysismyhero who asked for Kira/Miles/Keiko with Molly and Yoshi

Happy Holidays, Henry!  I hope you enjoy!

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“Mommy, Daddy, Aunt Nerys!  Wake up!  Santa came!” came two small voices from outside the bedroom door.  

Groggily, Nerys turned over, giving Miles a quick shove before wrapping her arms around Keiko and burrowing into her warmth. “More sleep.” She groaned.

Miles sighed and slipped from bed, opening the door to over excited children.

“What did we tell you about waking us up before 5am?” he yawned.

“It’s 5:01, Daddy.” Molly said, hands on her hips while Yoshi nodded from behind the teddy bear he was clutching to his chest, failing miserably to hide his giggling.

“Oh and that makes so much difference.” Miles smiled, winking back at Keiko and Nerys as they peaked out from under the covers. “Well Mommy and Aunt Nerys are being slug-a-beds, think you can wake them up?” Miles whispered to them.

Both children nodded frantically and snuck up to the bed. Miles left the bedroom as dual roars and laughing shrieks filled the air, getting coffee, tea and a raktajino from the replicator, and a finger-food breakfast.  Lots of fruit and toast before the kids dug into the chocolate that was hidden in their stockings.  

A swish announced the arrival of his family in the main room of their quarters, Molly on Nerys’ hip while Yoshi clung to Keiko.  Miles grinned at them and waved to breakfast.

“A lovely breakfast for us, and then…” he paused dramatically, eyes twinkling as the children bounced. “we get to go out and sing carols.”

“Nooooo Daaadddy!” both wailed.

“No?” Keiko asked. “Oh, I know: we go visit Dr. Bashir for flu shots.”

“Noooo! Aunt Nerys!” both children turned pleading eyes on the last adult in the room.

“Oh don’t look at me, this isn’t my holiday.” she laughed. “Mommy and Daddy know more about how things go than I do.”

“Presents!” Molly supplied, crossing her arms over her chest.  “You said we could open them this morning.”

“Yeah, and Santa came.  T’ stockins are all fulled up.” Yoshi pointed to the obviously overflowing red stockings sitting beside their sofa.

“Oh! How did those get there?” Miles jumped in fake-shock, hand on his chest.  “Well I suppose if we did say we were opening them now, we should…now, hold on a minute…let everyone get their coffee and a seat.”

“I want to be giver, Daddy.” Molly said, reaching for a gift and reading the tag out loud. “Oh this one is for Mommy, from Aunt Nerys. And this one is for Aunt Nerys from Daddy.”

Molly handed out gifts and once everyone had their gifts, she and Yoshi tore into theirs in a flurry of shredded paper and delighted squeals.  Toys were opened and hugs and kisses shared all around.

Curling back against Keiko, Nerys sighed happily, watching Miles help Molly put together her new doll house, Yoshi playing with his new ‘dragon’ plushie whose eyes lit up and roared.

“Penny for your thoughts?” Keiko asked, kissing her temple.

“I’m just happy.” Nerys sighed, closing her eyes. “Very happy.”

Keiko hummed in agreement, reaching up for the kiss Miles came over to give her once Molly was settled, smiling as he kissed Nerys too and settled in on her other side.

“Happy Christmas, my loves.” Miles murmured to them.

“Happy Christmas, Miles.” Nerys and Keiko whispered back.

[savorybreakfasts]

I was tagged by @ladyvean to talk about 5 good things that happened in 2018.

1. My granddaughter and my littlest niece were born, two weeks apart so I think I can count it as one event!

2. I started a new job, a bit bumpy but way better than job I was at before.

3. I went to STLV which was such a fantastic experience.

4. Hit some writing goals I’m proud of.

5. Living with my partner and mother-in-law, which every sitcom says should be hilariously awful, has actually been and continues to be an amazing experience.

[zombified-queer]

for the cereal asks: chex and count chocula, please.

Chex- Favorite animal?Oh dude. Axolotls are Wholesome. Jewel wasps are Gross and cool. Hercules beetles have these fat sausage larvae and I just wanna give them a little, gentle slap to their fat fat fat bodies. Also Cymothoa just have the CUTESTS little faces.

Count Chocula- Describe your perfect day.I wake up at 8, brew some coffee and make a grilled-cheese-with-fried-egg for breakfast. I turn that hot coffee into iced coffee and take my breakfast outside to bask in the early-morning Mojave summer warmth. Once I’m sufficiently warmed, I spend the next couple hours writing. I take a break to watch "Murder, She Wrote" and then go back to work after lunch. I make dinner and have a whiskey and coke while eating dinner and watching "Deep Space Nine." After dinner I take a walk around, maybe smoke some Virginia Slims. I get back to my place and post the day's work. Another whiskey and coke and then crawl into bed to a monsoon battering the house.

[izzym-art]

@silverelfmage replied to your post: If I’m applying for jobs through email, should I...

I would do both, because some companies use the email you send as the first layer of screening. If you only send a brief missive along the lines of “please find attached my cover letter and resume….” then they may just delete your email

*nods* Understood, and I agree! I think at the very least I’ll include a polite greeting and a brief explanation for sending the email, then ask them to refer the attachments. Won’t be as extensive as the cover letter, maybe!

I also have an online portfolio and I have everything there including my resume so I’ll provide them the link for it in the mail too!

[galadrieljones]

@silverelfmage replied to your post “nsfw DWC prompt: You have been doing these domestic

May I ask a question (though it's probably been asked before): why does Solas chew hair pins?  He's always got one of her hair pins in his mouth, and 1) that's not good for teeth, and 2) I've bitten a metal pin before and the taste is not good...so why does he do it?

No problem! Solas chews everything. He’s got an intense oral fixation. In my main fic, The Dead Season, Mythal points to it as something that “replaces the smoking.” He used to smoke a lot of elfroot when he was a teenager, and in his twenties. He doesn’t so much anymore.

Tbh, this is kind of stolen from my husband? My husband chews everything, from toothpicks to bobby pins to staples. He chews paperclips and pieces of wood he finds outside. It’s insane. I also think it’s kind of yucky/ouch. But it’s a compulsion with him. He can’t help himself.

So that’s what it is for Solas, too. A compulsion. He carries all his tension in his jaw. The chewing, well, that’s how he makes it go away.

[ladyvean]

For the six characters ask: Sisko, Damar, Ziyal Garak, Jake and Julian

do the sexy love™ with - Garak

sacrifice myself for - Damar (and his rebellion- for Cardassia!)

kick - Jake

take to prom - Ziyal

abandon in jurassic park - the Sisko (he would survive)

push off a bridge - Julian

[ladyvean]

Patron Saint of Badasses.

*flexes*

True.