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@jones7659 I canāt believe you daughter is fifteen now! Thatās so awesome! :D Also, how sweet that you found your husband without having to wade through a bunch of losers and players first. Canāt say that Iām not jealous, lol. But yeah, life is short, and it only gets shorter. Even if this turns out to be nothing, at least I got to have some fun. Anyway, thank you for your encouragement. ā„
@muses-circleĀ Reply #1: You called me adorable, and now I canāt stop blushing. XD But really, I am so grateful for your support. Youāre right, too. I should try not to be so concerned about getting in over my head with this guy. Heās cool, and he seems to like me in spite of myself. Thatās what matters here, and I need to stop psyching myself out wondering what he could possibly see in me. Although I still donāt know what he could possibly see in me. Regardless, I am going to try. Today was a snow day here so I didnāt have work, but if I make it into the office tomorrow I might go visit him again. Maybe. I donāt want to seem desperate, though, so maybe not. Why is this so hard?! XD
@muses-circle Reply #2: *hugs back* How are you so wonderful?! ;-; Iām glad he apologized, but at the same time it really wasnāt necessary. I was giggling and flirting and enjoying his attention... right up until he almost kissed me. But he truly didnāt do anything wrong. I should not have encouraged him when I wasnāt sure how I felt about the situation. I think thatās why it was so freakinā awkward.
@amuhav Yeah, going in casual is precisely how I want to approach it, but Iām terrified of falling for a person who doesnāt feel the same way about me. I donāt handle rejection well, lol. Still, thatās no reason to avoid him, right? I mean, I canāt let my fears dictate my decisions. Also, you make an excellent point aboutĀ āhotā people, one that I hadnāt considered before. I still get the feeling that heās interested in me more for sex than a relationship, but the fact that heās so incredibly attractive may be coloring my perceptions. And thatās not fair. Anyway, thank you for replying! *hugs*
@opsims I laughed so hard at your comment that I think I actually snorted. Out loud. In public. But it was so worth it, ROFL! Thank you for the laugh! :D
@hunterthewriterworld I have been beating myself up about that (almost) kiss practically since the moment it happened. I feel like the worldās biggest loser. I mean, what are the odds that a man will try to kiss the same person twice? Itās like that old proverb,Ā āFool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.ā He is not a fool, so... sigh. But anyway, your comments have been such a comfort to me. Thank you for your kindness. <3
@pudding-parade Oh, how I wish that were true! But he did see it as a straight up, flat out rejection. Iām sure of it. :( Nevertheless, I am still holding on to a faint glimmer of hope. Like you said, he may have noticed how nervous I was and realized that things were just moving too quickly for me. I hope so anyway. And yes, the fact that we were just hanging out in his office, that (almost) kiss took me by complete surprise! Admittedly he kept flirting and inching closer to me, but I didnāt think heād risk something as intimate as a first kiss when we could have been interrupted at any moment.
@sweetpyxels You are amazing. Thank you so much for your advice. Half of me wishes that he would ask me out on aĀ āproperā date (not just office lunches, lol), but the other half of my brain thinks that that would be a huge mistake. Iām not sure Iām even allowed to date him, and I donāt want to lose my job. (I mean, I donāt think there are any rules against it, but my boss is very, very strict and very, very old-fashioned.) But more than that, what if I actually fall for him? A little flirting is easy to shrug off, but a real date? Yikes. Anyway, thanks for listening to me. I really appreciate it!
@wannabecatwriter *hugs* You are the sweetest person! You always say something that makes me feel so much better. I probably shouldnāt be glad about this, but you telling me that my situation is relatable... I donāt feel so alone now. So thank you. ā„
@nornities Thank you. I really, really appreciate your advice. I must admit that it did seem incredibly forward of him to try and kiss me in that situation, and it does concern me. As you mentioned, heās probably used to getting exactly what he wants, especially regarding women, and that does not bode well. I will have to keep it in mind for sure. I donāt want a broken heart.
@mysimsloveaffair Aw! *blush* To be fair, he asked me to stop by. I almost didnāt, but I wanted to see him again so badly. I am my own worst enemy, lol.
@simlicious You give the best advice! So thoughtful and supportive and kind. Thank you. ā„ Iām glad that you think it was okay for me to take a step back. That makes me feel a bit better, although I must confess that I am still beating myself up about it and wondering what it would be like to kiss him. I am such a mess, lol. Also, your comment about the importance of sharing my feelings and insecurities really resonated with me. I just... I donāt know how. I donāt want him to get the idea that Iām expecting anything serious to come out of this, but he deserves to know that Iām not exactly an easy person to date. :/
@lilidebergerac I am so flattered! Thank you! I felt anything but cute after that (almost) kiss though. He just looked so ashamed and embarrassed. It was mortifying. I hope tries again someday, but I donāt think that he will. Iām sure this man has his choice of women, so why would he bother chasing the one who flirts with him and then rejects him for no good reason? :( :( :( I need a real life time machine, lol.
@curmudgeonness Aw, Rob! ;-; Youāre too sweet! Thank you so, so much for your comment. I cherish our friendship (youāre one of my longest/oldest mutuals on here), and your support means the world to me. But yeah, youāre right. Iām not in a rush, but it does make me wonder if perhaps he is. And if so, why? Ugh, now Iām back to questioning his intentions again. When did life become so damn complicated. XD
@batsheba Okay, what an awesome word!!! As for asking him out, though, please donāt think less of me, but Iām not sure I have the courage to do it. What if he says no? D: But I will think about it. Anyway, thanks again for the encouragement. You are amazing. <3
@ktarsims I kind of wish that I was okay with just having a fling because this guy would be the perfect person for it, but honestly I donāt think that I am? Iām not saying that I need this to turn into something serious, but I donāt want just no-strings-attached sex either. But yes, I agree with you that if he pushes my limits and oversteps my boundaries and refuses to be patient, then heās not worth it. Also, yourĀ āfriendā sounds awful! Itās not fair that he put you in such a difficult position.
