I thought this might be a fun reading to do! If you're trying to figure out what you want out of kink, or where you should start, I hope this is helpful! Inspired by a reading I did for someone else on the same topic.
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Pile I
Four of cups, the fool, judgement, two of pentacles
I'm getting a sense of stagnation and disconnect from your sex and/or love life, and this could stem from a lack of balance with other areas of your life, as well as maybe you avoiding your partner or sexual situations because things feel so monotonous and uninteresting. Maybe this part of your life is intentionally unbalanced because you are avoiding sex. It just doesn't feel exciting anymore. Maybe it's hard to advocate for yourself for anything more interesting because your partner or partners are so set in their ways of doing the same thing over and over. And maybe they are perfectly happy with that, but it's clearly not working for you anymore.
I'm not really getting specific ideas for what you should try, it's more along the lines of trying ANYTHING new. You really just need to get kick-started here, you don't need to worry about picking something you'll be into long-term. You just need to become interested in sex again, honestly. This could be anything. It could be something that seems smaller or less intense, or it could be something much more adventurous. It could be as small as new sex positions, even. Of course, please make sure you are being safe as you're starting out, make sure you won't end up in unsafe situations, etc (which is less of a concern if you do decide to just try different sex positions). Maybe looking through websites that list out different kinks and seeing what catches your eye could be a good first step. Maybe there's something you've always wanted to try, but never really felt like you could ask for. Do your research, and then bring some ideas to the table with your partner(s), or seek out folks with similar interests.
Pile II
Ten of wands, ten of swords, ace of pentacles, the chariot, the emperor, the fool
For some reason I felt like I should pull two from the top, center, and bottom instead of just one each like I usually do, which is why there are so many.
What I'm getting from this is that you're a person who really likes being in charge, maybe even need it. Two cards that represent power and control, especially directly next to each other, feels like this is being strongly reinforced here. You might really enjoy being in the dominant position in a power exchange relationship (dom/sub, master/slave, etc). You might even be interested in a total power exchange relationship—but that is a pretty intense dynamic, so it would be best to do this in an already established relationship, as trust plays a vital role in that, even more so than other power exchange relationships.
Part of why I'm mentioning this is because some of these cards seem to be indicating a new relationship. With the ten of swords and ten of wands there, this will either be a relationship ending and then entering another one at some point, or entering a new relationship if you are already single. For those who are currently single, you may have a history of being burned by relationships, or you're just going through something really rough in your personal life right now. If you're currently in a relationship, it feels like you're kind of being run ragged right now. Maybe your needs aren't getting met, or the relationship you're in is just not comfortable or healthy, there's a lot of discord here. These relationship issues could be on top of some really stressful or difficult life situations as well. This relationship has stopped being something you enjoy and has become an obligation, almost a chore. For both those in relationships and those who are single, this new relationship will be a breath of fresh air, and allow you to try some things you maybe haven't been able to try, or haven't been able to try with your current partner.
Pile III
Eight of wands, the hermit, knight of cups, ten of wands, ace of swords
I think you've thought about it for a long time, and you actually have some ideas of what you want to try, but for some reason, something is holding you back. Maybe work, or fear that you won't find someone who would be willing to try, or is safe, or doesn't meet some other criteria that you need. Maybe you feel like you'd have a hard time finding someone who you won't have to teach a lot of things. Maybe you've just been, or feel like you've been, too busy. This reading is telling you to just go for it. You've dragged your feet about it for a while, and you may even be making excuses for why you can't do it that aren't entirely accurate. It might be time to start strategizing ways you can make it happen if you really want to do so. It's also entirely valid if you just genuinely can't right now, or don't have the energy to, or just don't want to. But it might be worth keeping in mind for when/if you do.
people putting that shitty post that goes something like “boohooo media cant make proper lesbian representation they all look like straight women! theyre FEMININE!! terrible horrible lesbians like that DONT EXIST holy shit, they literally look like just some straight girls! learn to make PROPER LESBIAN REPRESENTATION! lean into lgbt culture and learn how actual lesbians look like smh” on my dash
and im sitting here like - dude that’s literally me and some of my wlw friends as well... yeah we look like those terrible straight feminine women yall hate so much... yeah we are wlw we are valid...so SO sorry for not shitting lgbt flags wherever i go and not caring about your “lgbt/lesbian standards/culture” however you wanna call it because I feel comfortable looking like this.. fuck you. yall have no idea lesbians are diverse and not everyone wanna have pixie cut and whatever else is apparently a proper lesbian representation - i literally couldnt care less. i dont care about standards and yet another limiting boxes to be put into
yall should really start meeting lgbt people off internet to realize some of us are very straight passing and we are fine with that
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I’m gonna go buy this book now because the google preview is enough to have me convinced but uhhhhhh @kannclaire looks like you aren’t active on tumblr anymore but hi we should be friends I’m gonna go buy your book now stay tuned for a review of me excitedly screaming some more okay BYE
