#society's problems

[savvyinpink]

[wonderingwhytho-blog]

They love you, but they don’t want you better than them. Literally every person in my life.

[hiddensideofthem0on-blog]

Society's problems.

A couple sit down in the couch with their kids and with a smile on their face they tell their son and daughter how an old fat men dressed in red is going to watch them everyday of the year to see if they are good or naughty and during the night of December 24th while they sleep he's going to get down the chimney carrying a sack with presents for them. A couple sit down in the couch with their kids and with fear in their eyes they think about how are they going to explain to their son and daughter what homosexuality is. Little did they know that their kids couldn't care less because for them love is love, regardless of sex or race, because they are too young for society to corrupt their minds.

[tragicmishap]

White people are deemed as more beautiful in society. People can deny it but it's the truth.

[hippieekitten]

Express yourself.

People with their such formal, stereotypical thinking habits just need to shush. People are just (physically) well….humans! We are like animals. We are mammals. If you think about it in more of an anatomical way, we have a body and yeah. It’s just a body. Mentally and emotionally, we take our bodies and we express ourselves by doing things such as wearing makeup, dressing certain ways, etc. SO, people who say things such as “omg that’s inappropriate and not socially acceptable because… (fill in the blank)” need to just stop. If somebody feels like to express themselves they want to dress with minimal CLOTHING (which is just a THING, an ITEM used TO be expressive), then go for it! If someone wants to wear just a baggy sweatshirt and sweats, go for it! School’s need to stop shaming people for dressing a certain way because ITS LITERALLY ACTUALLY JUST A SHOULDER/LEG/BACK. There is literally no RIGHT OR WRONG way to express ourselves by just dressing a certain way! We can dress our little bodies up how ever we please and that should be okay with people! No, that girl is not a “slut” because she dresses that way. No, sorry, that boy is not “emo” for dressing that way. Try to express yourselves and support how others choose to express themselves. Doing this physically is just one way out of a lot of others, man. It’s OKAY to wear whatcha want and look how you want because it’s your body. People need to stop taking bodies as a sexual thing ALL THE TIME. If that person wants their back to show, cool. If they want their cute lil thighs to be present, awesome. No shave April, so? If they don’t wanna wear a bra, who in the hell cares?? STOP BASHING ON PEOPLE BC THEY WANNA WEAR WHAT THEY PLEASE BC IT’S JUST CLOTHES/MAKEUP/HAIR/WHATEVER AND YOUUUU DON’T THINK IT’S SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE.

(I kinda praise Miley Cyrus for this reason, only because she literally wears whatever the hell she pleases and just like won’t shave bc she doesn’t have to and doesn’t give a damn about if she’s wearing a bra or not or what have you…yes. You go girl. Show em how it’s done.)

\hippieekitten\

[dontshootmespence]

You ever catch yourself thinking that society in general, their ideas, totally suck, but you wished you could conform (physically, mentally, whatever) because life would be so much easier?

[jessthequeenofstories]

What's your opinion on people coming out?? Like why should I have to tell someone like surely they shouldn't just make an assumption that you're straight or whatever. Why do we have to fit into labels?

Well, I haven’t come out (away from the internet). Sometimes I just casually mention my sexuality to people, like “he’s hot, but I wouldn’t sleep with him” and “sex is a bit weird”, but personally I think coming out is overrated.

Unfortunately we live in a society where we’re “straight at birth” (which- of course- is untrue, but this is what society believes) so “coming out” is kind of a thing… :(

I think when talking to strangers, coming out doesn’t exist. You’re not coming out, you’re just saying “hey, I’m not straight, fyi…”

With friends, well, if you’ve been friends for a while and you discover a sexuality, then it is a bit coming out, but friends should really accept you anyway… If you’re confident with you sexuality before you make friends, then it’s not really coming out, it’s just “yeah, fyi…”

I think truly coming out is to people you’ve known for a long time, such as your parents and siblings. But, there again, I think parents should be open-minded about their children possibly not being straight, so they should really sense the non-hetero behaviours before their children come out. But if they don’t realise, then yeah, I guess it’s coming out.

My parents don’t know I’m asexual; in fact, I’m never going to come out to them. They don’t need to know that my sex life with my future partner is non-existent or minimal (that’s my sex life, none of their business) but with other people I think it’s a bit harder.

Like, if someone if gay, then their parents are gonna find out when they’re dating someone of their own sex, whereas with me I can date a guy and my parents be none-the-wiser (but in all fairness, they’d probably be okay with me dating a female…)

The other problem with coming out is the labels, like you said. If I told someone I’m ace, then they’d all be like “well, don’t ever bother to ask xim out,” but if someone who I was very-very-very best friends with asked me out, I’d probably say yes, just they’re not gonna get laid by me! (Tbh, I wouldn’t mind if my partner cheated on me… Okay not cheated, but if they had sex with other people and was open about it with me, I’d be okay with that, because I know that dating an asexual could be sexually frustrating, and, you know, non-ace people need to get laid!)

If a gay man came out as gay, but had a romantic attraction to a female, then people would question whether or not he was truly gay; even worse, they’d label him bisexual. He’s not bisexual, he’s gay, because he only wants to have sex with males, but wants to be in a romantic/non-sexual relationship with a female. (Reference to my Attraction Theory)

So, yeah. Coming out is stupid, but it’s something that people still feel like they’re forced to do in this society. I think it’s stupid, it always makes me cringe when I read coming-out-moments in fanfictions, and generally it sucks to be in a world where we have to stand up and declare what sex/gender we like to fuck in our own private sex life. Like, could you image a world where you had to tell your parents what you favourite sex toy was? Seriously, it’s sick that you have to declare who you’d rather have sex with….

Coming out is stupid—————ly still part of society… :(

As I once said (wow, that sounds bigheaded…):

Coming out is a declaration of sexuality. So either straight people have to come out, or there is no such thing as coming out.

*sigh* Rage fit over.

Thanks for the question :)

x

[kerianh]

My Two Cents - About Me

Hey there, I am Kerian, Kerian Halcyon.  My real name, well my first name is Will, but you probably will never learn my Surname because I'm insecure.  I'm 23 years old as of this Thursday, I live in the Pacific Northwest and have grown up in small towns.  I am Catholic, born and raised, and I am the oldest of a very big family, and on my mother's side that is commonplace and has been for generations.  I also have Aspergers, tend to have homophobic thoughts, and shy away from society.

Automatically I am now stereotyped that i am ignorant, controlling, backwards, or niave, that I am hateful and anti-social, and that I and others like me should banish off the face of the Earth.

I give you a smile, a nod, and flip the bird at you.

I am a Catholic, yes.  I also like Dinosaurs, and have for my entire life.  I believe that we were made over the course of a couple of billion years, our world was made in several billion, and the universe around us was made older than that.  I believe Genesis's creation story is a metaphorical one, and that taken into perspective does not apply to real-world physics and sense of time or space.

I am the oldest of a big family.  You see that as backwards.  I would never trade it for anything else.  We are a big family that has had to deal with a lot of hardship and problems, and I have learned a degree of patience around my siblings that anyone who has ever been an only child can never fully comprehend, and don't worry I won't ask you to.  To say my way of life is backwards is just as phony as saying your way of life is unproductive; I can at least say I can take my whole immediate family and make a baseball team, I bet you can't.  Can yah/  Thought not.

As said before, I live in the Pacific Northwest, and grew up in small towns.  "I bet he's never seen hardship," you say.  "I bet he's a hick who never left Backwater Wyoming USA in his life."  Before you get into it, I bet you've never gone a day of your life outside of the United States or wherever you call home, let alone live in a foreign country.  And I'm not talking about somewhere easy like Mexico or Canada...Try Egypt.  For 3 years.  Yeah, big culture shock.  Gave me perspective, perspective that I'd recommend anyone to try if they had half a brain to comprehend it.

Last but not least, aspergers and homophobic thoughts.  "Well, he's got autism, he's automatically-" if I was Steven Hawking would you make fun of me for having ALS??  And on the homophobic thoughts, you may think that I want to stand out in the street waving a sign saying "Homosexuality is a sin" or something like that.  Let me tell you something.  Ever heard of Androphobia?  It's an irrational fear some people, often girls, get.  It's the fear of men, fear of men in society and fear of the male sex in general, usually in a sexual sense.  That's how I feel about a LOT of homosexual men.  I fear them, I fear the idea of them cornering me and having their way with me because I am a wimp and being unable to stand my ground or report to the police, because not only is he a protected minority now, but I'm also a Christian, a straight male Christian, his immediate opposition.  A jury would eat me for lunch without even giving me a chance to defend myself, even though I'd be the victim.  I am no different than a woman who has Androphobia, or a fellow man with Gynophobia.

I also have family who happen to be homosexuals.  Do I treat them like dirt?  No I do not, I love them to death.  They are my family, and as such I treat them like family.  I treat them how I want to be treated, as I was raised to treat others, as my faith tells me I should treat others.

Wanna continue judging me and others like me without even knowing us first?  Then go fuck off.  This pseudo-culture of mass stereotypes and blaming ethnic and religious groups over the actions of a strict minority of that group, especially when the rest are not at fault has got to stop.  It hurts, and it affects all of our lives equally regardless of who it is or for why.  Just because there are people who follow my God, or people who are my race, or people who follow my political views that have caused pain and suffering to you, your family, or your friends in the past, they are NOT me, and they are NOT the rest of us.  Simply choosing to be assholes to a different group of people just because you feel sorry for the victims of the first assholes does not make you any less of an asshole.

Now good day, and God bless.  I tire, and i must sleep.

-Kerian