Hot take— I think we give fan service of women in media too much crap sometimes but I understand why women, afab, or folk along those lines get so hyper vigilant about it.
I think it’s important to reinforce that women don’t exist for the male gaze or men’s validation. The problem is fandom tends to fall into HEAVY black and white thinking that clouds our judgement.
I have an issue when people see a conventionally attractive woman or a woman that even could be falling in the male gaze and immediately decide that she’s “goonerbait” or problematic.
In my opinion people who are involved in fandom discourse need to educate themselves more on how media literacy or social institutions like sexism work instead of depending solely on patterns they may not even know the full extent of. It could fuel a lot more interesting conversations!
Tl:dr Nuance good, please check yourself in fandom discourse
Also if you are going to publicly rant about sexism make sure you’re also checking your own beliefs for sexist patterns


















