luther hargreeves dealt with the waste of so many years of his life convincing himself that it had not been a waste. not only did that coping style make him firmly believe his raising was normal and all that training was needed, but was also probably the reason for his thing with allison.
after a repeated cycle of abuse or exposure to bad conditions, victims may stop trying to avoid it, even when it's possible to. they don't understand why they're keeping the negative stimulus, though, and to make things make sense their subconscious assumes they're emotionally attached to it.
instead of to his troubled childhood, luther became emotionally attached to someone who was there with him, to allison. he was in an abusive relationship with his hurt, and it happened that she was there hurting with him.
what we call incestuous is no more than siblings bonding over their trauma and mistaking it for romantic love.
while i'm on it, trauma victims often hold on to their trauma or things that reminds them of it. that's why he continued to eat the weird spacial food even after he left the moon.
