#stocism

[niryhelisha]

Most of you know how to love deeply , you just learning how to love wisely

[beauty-is-solitude]

I think the pinnacle of misfortune is to be forced by chance to want things one should loathe

- Seneca

[civanticism]

[bennettmarko]

It is a royal thing to be ill-spoken of for good deeds.

- Antisthenes

[themanlyclub]

Someone sent this to me yesterday. I thought it was great and worth sharing...

[quote-bomber]

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

Frank Herbert, Dune (Dune #1)

[deidreadewitt]

Don't demand that things happen as you wish, but wish that they happen as they do happen, and you will go on well.

Epictetus

[cur-rent-ly-re-dact-ed]

I understand the cognitive restructuring method of, “I don’t have to, I get to.”

The truth isn’t on either side of the “want to / get to” coin as it spins on your mental tabletop. You’ll find it on the edge of the coin, instead.

To be able to see it, though, you’ll have to find the amount of mindfulness that you need in order to be present enough to slow your perception of the spinning coin down until you can see each moment, isolated from one another in existence but still a part of the entire whole.

On the coin edge, when the light catches it just right you’ll see the small shiny flash. In that moment of the flash, you’ll see that the key to the truth isn’t in the restructured concept “have to” into “get to”; it’s in the opposite of the “I get to” statement.

For example:

The truth isn’t that I “get to” worry about money to a degree which is detrimental to my mental health rather than the angry perception that I “have to” worry myself sick over money. The truth is that the first statement’s ignored echo is that “I get to worry myself sick over money because if I didn’t have any money, I would “have to” worry about it consistently.

So why worry? If I can remember to control my perception & continue to work toward realistic goals, I don’t “have to” worry about money, I get to worry about the money do we have & how to navigate the small steps we need to carve into the mountain. Don’t be distracted, as Marcus Aurelius wrote time & time again in Meditations.