This may be a kind of niche question, but do you have any tips for looking/feeling more elegant/dainty when you feel like your body... isn't really? In my case, I'm a bit on the bigger and more curvy side, and whilst I know there's lots of incredibly dainty and graceful fat femmes, I'm also short and tend to just look stocky, so even though I want to be fem, lots of feminine clothes end up making me feel dysphoric or like I'm too masculine to be wearing them
This is an interesting question, and I do need to admit first that this isn’t something I feel particularly well-versed in. I’ve definitely worked with people to help them dress and feel more feminine, but in terms of looking dainty I feel a little stumped! It doesn’t help that a lot of conversation around that idea focuses on looking slimmer specifically, which I don’t think is what you’re asking and wouldn’t necessarily be something I’d be eager to advise on.
I think your overall styling can help in this though, beyond your clothes! The way you do your hair, the jewelry you wear, etc. The cuts of clothing you choose can also be important here—again, not so much in terms of a slimming effect, but a generally feminizing one. A higher waistline is going to help a lot of the time. I’m not going to recommend heels necessarily (if you want to wear them, go for it, but I don’t want to imply they’re needed here) but a thicker sole/platform can help with your overall silhouette if you feel your height is a factor here.
I think honestly “feeling” is the operative word in your question, actually! Because the same outfit/style on two different people is going to FEEL super different to both of them. I definitely think working out what hair and makeup styles feel best for you will bring your outfits a long way towards feeling better. I personally also also feel at my most fem when I’ve done my nails—I’m quite partial to a set of press-ons (trimmed extra short for me, your mileage may vary) but a simple coat of polish can go a long way. The way you accessorize, whether that be with jewelry or a bag or a belt (I think a thick belt worn at the mid waist above the hips can add a very feminizing effect) is something to pay attention to as well.
I think it’ll also help to try and pinpoint what in particular about the outfits you’re choosing is making you feel dysphoric, and what parts might still work for you! This can be a painful and tricky process, but figuring those things out can really help you find outfits you feel more confident in! Please feel free to come back with further questions if need be, especially if you do figure out what it is that isn’t working for you so we can talk about what you might do to resolve that!