#theyfabs

[andrinoaddiction]

The term theyfab is only misogynistic if you believe that " afab " and " woman " are synonymous

[trash-and-trash-accessories]

the thing about the term "theyfab" is not that it's the most offensive slur I've ever heard or been called. It's not particularly creative or interesting or vicious. The main thing about "theyfab" is that it's cringe. every time I hear it I think wow, it's so fucking cringe that you just used that unironically. are you serious? are you okay? because that was the most cringe thing I've ever seen. And I'm literally a furry.

[uncle-fruity]

I think if someone says, "Hey, the things you're saying are really hurtful and I don't like it when you call me names," you don't just get to say no to that. You don't get to define someone else's pain, and you don't get to decide what should or shouldn't be hurtful to them. All you get to decide is how you're going to react when they tell you that you've hurt them. No one can really stop you from doubling down and ridiculing their feelings -- you're free to do that -- but don't think for a second that it makes you look like a good or safe person to be around.

[bees-made-from-solid-gold]

I'm not necessarily hostile to nonbinary identities but I find myself much less dysphoric having cut out the 'queer' spaces from my life. A few years ago when I first started coming out I was fairly gung ho in defense of nonbinary and I still maintain, theoretically, that a 'third' or 'middle gender' is a sensible extension of transgender.

However over the past couple as I've gotten to know multiple, AFAB NBs as acquaintances and fellow members of certain groups or social spaces I've found very little empathy for actual *transsexual* experience. I couldn't count on both hands the number of times I've had someone who presents as a woman, is received as biologically female in public and even uses 'she/they' pronouns has felt the need to lecture me about my own experiences.

I know quite a few binary trans woman, some of whom have been legitimate activists who feel similarly. It's easy to dismiss the feelings of a lot of binary transwomen as the bigotry of transmedicalists or 'truscum'.

I am happier for having cut out the *genderqueer* end of the 'trans spectrum' from my social life. It's too frequently that NB people are unpleasant to deal with and domineering when it comes to discussing trans experiences.

[imoga-pride]

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TheyMAB(s): a term reclaimed by some they/them and/or non-binary (C/F/I)AMAB/DMAB individuals.

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TheyFAB(s): a term reclaimed by some they/their and/or nonbinary (C/I/F)AFAB/DFAB people.

I’m not sure if these are considered slurs/derogatory but they are often used as offensive/pejorative.