#transmis

[thisis-intersexism]

i'm perisex but i just remembered something really intersexist that i've heard like 2 years ago

so, i had biology class, the topic was reproductive systems, and my teacher was talking male and female genitalia. then, he told us that "some people are born with genetic mutations but they're still male or female and if they won't get it corrected, they die" and me and my friends were in such disbelief.

he was also saying really transphobic stuff on that lesson but that's besides the point.

This is intersexism.

They'll die??????? I'm sorry what?????

[ashenmind]

tumblr please fuck all the way off

[thisis-intersexism]

Saying that anyone who was assigned female at birth can't have any connection to transfemininity "even if you're intersex", as if AFAB = girl or automatically reflects how you'll develop as you get older. Neither sex nor gender are binary.

This is intersexism, exorsexism and transmisia.

Have these people never considered that maybe transfem people who were raised feminine/as women feel that their femininity is trans because it's different from their pre-transition selves? I'm sorry but as someone who was raised as a woman, my femininity and womanhood is LEAGUES different from the gender I was raised to emulate, therefore, in that way, I am transfeminine. The masculinity I emulated as a child is different from the masculinity I emulate now, and in that way I am transmasculine. Gender, presentation, sex, all are so nuanced and subjective. It really is up to the singular person.

[thisis-intersexism]

is it intersexism to wish i was born intersex when im not? for context im a transmasc who's been out for a few years but i still get told that 'i've always been their girl'. i wish i could say that i never was

This is intersexism.

While it is completely fine and natural to desire sexual characteristics and traits outside of the gender and dyadic binary, wishing you were born intersex because you want your family members to see you as a gender other than girl is borne from the idea that all intersex people are easily clocked as outside of the gender binary and/or aren't forced into a gender at birth.

Plenty of visibly intersex people are either socially, hormonally, surgically, or all three forced to either be a man or a woman, and if you were born intersex (assuming you have a visible variation that would cause you to be clocked as outside of the dyadic binary, which is not true for every intersex person. There is a very very wide spectrum of intersexuality) there is a very high chance you would still be forced to be a girl or a boy.

There is nothing wrong with being dysphoric of the gender you were assigned at birth. In fact, that's a very very true story for basically the majority of the trans community and why we transition in the first place, but assigned gender isn't as simple as that. Hell, I'm intersex and transsexual and I get told "you'll always just be my little girl" by my family. wanting to be born intersex just so your family members don't use your assigned gender for you isn't going to fix everything.

I hope your family comes around, and if they don't, I hope at least you'll find healing, anon. Misgendering is awful and I understand where you're coming from.

[petalsandbridges]

MyChem vocalist Gerard Way's coming out on Reddit as AMAB trans is interesting to me for reasons other than my excitement that someone who I identified with in teen girlhood was in fact going through something very similar to me. It's interesting because he didn't "come out," he just casually answered a question. He said he has "always identified with the female gender." I don't believe you will see magazine headlines that look like this: "Gerard Way is a trans woman!" You may, may see some mention of him being gender variant somehow. I believe the media, and many fans, will likely play right along with however small of a deal they can make this.

The truth is, this small deal obscures a larger truth that people are not yet interested in picking up, which is that all AMAB trans people go through a lot of the same things (though it varies based on race, class, ability, and other factors), and there's a fucking lot of us. I need to credit the trans women of color here on tumblr for helping me understand that most trans women will not come out. Most trans women will not walk up to their friends and say "look, call me she/her pronouns so I don't feel like you're talking to a paper mache shell that other people invented for their own comfort." No. Gerard Way did not say this. He worried about not being able to fill the role of a good father just a bit down the page, and every one was happy to tell him that "all fathers feel that way." I can't help but notice how easily people will move on from that answer he gave. I can't because that was my whole life. When I told my parents I was non-binary, they didn't know or care to understand what that meant. It was only when I told them I'm a woman and told them again so they couldn't erase it that things started to happen. My former partner, a cis woman said "I knew you were genderqueer, but I never know you were going through this!" When in fact, if I truly was non-binary (which I'm not especially) the dysphoria would be just as terrible, if not worse.

The first thing that happens when trans women come out is that people pretend like they don't hear what we just said. And that's a horrible act of erasure. So as a trans woman existing in this world, I don't do that. I will not be the woman to hear a closeted AMAB trans person say as much as then paint right over it. I use pronouns immediately if they specify. I don't beat around the bush - because I know that makes it even worse.

I will reserve my energy to not think about how we can change cis people here, but I believe that we trans women can change how quickly trans women recognize ourselves. I believe we can be there to say, "Oh, you feel that way? That's relevant, it's not naughty, it's beautiful, let's talk about that. You are welcome on this planet - says me." So let's be that change - with sensitivity, grace, and patience. We don't need anyone's permission for this. The next time you meet an CAMAB trans person who isn't fully out to themselves, let them know you heard their words, and let them know that their process of self-revelation is valid - regardless of how anyone else will treat them. You can be that change.

My Chemical Romance - I'm Not Okay (I Promise) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-qv8SSGa8c

[viniciosantillan]

Getting to some "almost unreachable" places in a MERCEDEZ BENZ UNIMOG 

The truck is loaded with gravel for a concrete foundation for a transmission line pylon

This picture was taken from the construction of the transmission line between Alao and Guamote in Ecuador.

(Note the Tungurahua volcano on the back)