#transmisandry tw

[one-hell-of-a-showtime]

Hey, a blog I used to follow (nonbinary support) reblogged a post talking about how “trans men are the men of trans people” and I really advise all of y’all to stay away from them. It scared me, because I’ve been following them for some time, and they’re supposed to be for nonbinary support. You cannot support nonbinary people while also being transandrophobic. You can’t. I unfollowed them, and will probably block them like I did with another blog, a popular sex ed blog, and I’d really advise y’all to do the same. Trans men are men, but they are NOT privileged over other groups because of them being TRANS MEN. Nobody is privileged for being trans!

[gor3sigil]

One day, I'll talk in depth about how it felt to be the only trans drag king in my local scene surrounded by radfem cis kings who only wanted to make fun of masculinity and how it led to me giving up because I faced more transphobia and misgendering in the few nights I performed, by cis queers, than ever in my life.

It was AWFUL. I just never wanted to perform anymore because the TOXICITY of it all was disgusting.

And I love drag with all my heart, but when you get she/her'd IN DRAG KING, spend your time being belittled because you're a drag king (because let's face it drag kings don't get the credit they deserve) by other performers or because you're transmasc by cis drag kings and you can't find any place in the scene if you do anything else than mocking masculinity, fuck it. I hope I can perform in the future but it won't be in this scene.

[trans-masc-madness]

"trans men have Male Privilege and are at the top of the patriarchy due to being Real Men, so they cannot be oppressed on the basis of gender alone."

I see this SO MUCH from TIRFs trying to excuse their claims that trans men have a "victim complex" when we talk about transandrophobia, to which I say this:

that is a cis man. what you just described is a cisgender man. "trans men are real men" means "trans men are real men". it DOES NOT mean "trans men are CIS men". the fact that you think "real man" is synonymous with "cis man" is a you problem.

[x-rds]

=Wow ok! Love that someone sent us a picrew and was like “oh it’s so cute!” and then there are multiple options to have it say shit like “kill all men” “why do men breathe” “I hate men”

And the creator of the picrew had the audacity to make a statement in the beginning about trying to be inclusive and non harmful and how they included all these flags and stuff. It SUCKS too because it’s the only picrew we’ve ever seen that has a lot of inclusive plural stuff and it does have a lot of options but like god damn. Really? Really with that shit? We gave up on it because it was just too much

How many times to trans/intersex/black/indigenous/men of color/mentally ill/abuse survivor/traumatized/otherwise marginalized men whose identity and existence is constantly held up to a strict social standard that degrades them for who they are have to tell you that shit like “kill all men uwu” is not the epic feminist take you think it is before you get it through your fucking skull?

And I severely doubt that any white cishet men are using this picrew specifically created for MOGAI and minorities. So who is going to see those messages? Literally ONLY marginalized men who are already held up to an abusive standard by society.

Fuck You. Seriously fuck you. The only men who will see those messages are the ones who are harmed by it. Fuck off and don’t ever talk to me again.

[rlainarin]

nsfw vent text

like, trans guys are supposed to be living cunnilingus machines. that's our only redeeming quality to these people. trans men are a fucking sex object because we're ~men who know where the clitoris is~. men who understand period cramps. men who BLAH BLAH BIOLOGICAL ESSENTIALISM

we're supposed to be fucktoys for cis women who want to be political lesbians. that's what they want. and that's why no transmasc femboy will be enough for those assholes

[mx-t4t0]

i’m getting mcfucking tired of the shit people in the community are giving to TME people.

just because we don’t deal with transmisogyny doesn’t mean we don’t have other problems. transmisandry is extremely harmful to our mental health, and seeing people perpetuate it in the name of transfem rights is deadass ✨digusting✨

stop talking over transmasc and afab transneutral people, stop treating us like second-class trans people, stop pretending we have it easy.

[gor3sigil]

"Transandrophobia is just an online issue, you need to go meet trans people IRL"

Meanwhile, trans spaces IRL:

I'll add my own experience in a nutshell:

As a transmasc person who tried to be an organizer in my local community: I'm exhausted.

I've experienced more bigotry, transphobia and abuse from other trans people than from cis people. I wish it was an exaggeration but it's not.

My friends and I tried time and time again to take part in orgas, events, to help.

But every step we made was heavily scrutinized, every time we had a Transmascs only meeting, it was always called a "cult", we've been insulted and called names just for having our own spaces while we were asked not to take too much space in shared ones.

So we just left. One of the only trans orga that exists in our town. After trying to talk things out and be understanding and make things better for months, we ended up so drained and feeling so defeated we collectively concluded that it'd be better for our mental health to remove ourselves.

I still do some translation work here and there, but I can't bring myself to go to events anymore.

For me, this is the second time something like this has happened. I'm tired, dude.

I'm glad I have my friends, but I feel like it's so fucking harsh to be in queer spaces as a transmasc. But at the same time, I hear this also from trans women friends and non-binary ones, especially POC ones. I think that, like a lot of other leftist/activist spaces, trans spaces became this weird third-spaces that aren't for anyone anymore apart for the people who are running them and their friends.

For me, this is the second time it has happened, I had already left trans spaces a few years prior for more or less the same reasons. But I went back, hoping it had changed, because I was isolated as fuck.

I'm so so glad for the people I met and the wonderful friends they became. I don't think I'll go back to organizing, nor meetings. It's so disheartening.

[gor3sigil]

Cis Queer Bitches be like "Yeah I'm an intersectional feminist, I want everyone to feel safe and want to create a space for radical love and acceptance !!" then basically put a bouncer at the entry of the LGBTQ+ center to make sure the people coming to the "women and enbies ONLY" event are, indeed, women and enbies.

Edit: disabling reblogs since terfs decided to tear me down lmao