#transmisogyny tw

[kirbyofthestars]

> “mannish features”

> look inside

> literally just common physical traits among women of colour

[rimonoroni2]

“a penis is Ontologically Evil because it’s technically capable of perpetrating sexual violence” damn, wait till you hear about hands!

[communistkenobi]

this is not an original observation by any means, but it’s infuriating to see people casually throw around the argument that pre-colonial societies all had these expansive and accepting gender norms, and their evidence for this is from anthropologists who “discover” trans women existed throughout history and proclaim look! this culture has an ambiguous third gender of cross-dressing [slur that hasn’t been used in fifty years]. it’s so beautiful how primitive—uh, I mean pre-colonial societies had so many mysterious and diverse genders

[medusamagic]

They've done it, y'all.

They made T4T pickup artistry

[sapphichivemind]

I think about how autogynephilia is an official DSM diagnosis for “crossdressing men” (transvestic disorder with autogynephilia), how the section explicitly calls some trans women men, how there isn’t a parallel “paraphilia” for AFAB people, and how the entire paraphilia section of the DSM-5 was headed by Blanchard himself

[closet-keys]

every time someone angrily claims that TME/TMA is “about genitals”..

tell me your sole mental association with trans women is “penis” without telling me

[cattyraejepsen]

PSA #TaylorCasey

[tittyinfinity]

I was hanging out at the karaoke bar, chatting with a beautiful woman, and we were really hitting it off. I threw a couple of flirtatious comments her way. She giggled nervously, but abruptly stopped and looked at the floor.

She told me that she was too nervous to hit on people because she's trans and worries that people will view her as a predator and that she might get hurt.

My heart sank. I let her know that she could hit on me in whatever way she wanted and I would LOVE it. We spent the rest of the night hanging out and flirting. We ended up making out. It was great.

But I can't stop thinking about how that wasn't the first time a trans woman has said that to me. About how unsafe it is for some women that they feel the need to give out fucking disclaimers to have normal interactions with people.

We have GOT to make the world a safer place for trans women. It pisses me off that there are men at the bar who are openly predatory towards me without fear of consequence, yet a trans woman is too scared to even fucking call me pretty. And that's because she IS more likely to face worse consequences for lesser things! Like what the fuck!

You need to always check on your internalized biases. Being queer yourself doesn't absolve you of transmisogynistic thoughts and behaviors. Being bi/pansexual doesn't mean you don't hold those biases either! If you feel differently about a trans woman hitting on you than you feel about a cis woman or a man hitting on you, you need to evaluate that.

Trans women, I love you so fucking much. You should be able to express attraction and love as freely as everyone else. I hope you can always feel safe around me. And I'll never stop fighting until you can feel safe period.