it’s alright to accidentally misgender someone you don’t know!! as in accidentally saying the wrong pronoun when first meeting them or saying something and not meaning no harm to it! (while also being oblivious to your mistake)
but whats NOT alright is purposefully saying the wrong pronoun AFTER the person corrected you! its not funny or cute. instead, it’s rude and pretty disrespectful and definitely puts said person in an uncomfortable position.
If someone doesn’t ‘look like a boy’ and goes by he/him pronouns and you continue using she/her pronouns because of that reason. DO NOT INTERACT
if someone doesn’t ’look like a girl’ and goes by she/her pronouns and you go ahead and use he/him pronouns. DDDOO NOTTT INTERACTT
it’s not hard to respect people and their pronouns. if you can’t do it , BE QUIET and move on. good grief
If you have to preface a statement with “I’ve been holding this back because I don’t want to sound transphobic,” maybe you just shouldn’t say it. It costs zero dollars to not say something you know is hurtful to someone’s face.
- it found it used in a piece of fiction and it really resonated with it
- it associates it with an outward androgyny that draws stares and comments, unavoidably recognized even (especially) by transphobes, and it wants that visibility
- it has a friend who uses it pronouns and it’s really cool and it was kind of inspired
- it wants to push back on the expectations of well meaning allies who find it improper
- it’s just trying stuff out from the wikipedia list of third person singular pronouns
- it’s sick of arguments about singular they and it wants to start a new, different fight
- it feels that identifying with it defuses its power as an attack
- it didn’t anticipate this level of pushback, but now it’s digging in its heels
- it feels edgy and countercultural and anti-assimilation, and it likes that
- it’s very simple, and it likes that
- it challenges people, and it likes that
- it likes the sound of it
- it suits its relationship to gender
- it suits its aesthetic
- it suits it
Prompt: There is a string tied around your pinky the end of which leads to your soulmate.
Word Count: 2,647
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Note: I modified the prompt a bit. In this world, everyone can see the string tied around the finger. When the string is intact, it’s red like normal. If the string has been cut, it will turn gray and both soulmates will be seen as ‘lesser people’ for denying their destiny. If a soulmate dies, the string will turn black. Another thing to note is that Logan is asexual. It’s briefly alluded to in the beginning but not brought up again.
Virgil wandered the campus, shoulders hunched in a clear indication that he didn’t want to be seen. He was glad to be able to be here at all after what happened in high school. Even so, he made sure to wear the gloves and stay out of people’s ways. The first semester was hell as he still wasn’t sure how to do anything but still tried. It seemed all his teachers had it out for him on day one as soon as they caught sight of those gloves.
It wasn’t until his second semester that he met someone who wore gloves just like him. He was sitting by himself during the time he’d scheduled for lunch, reading a fanfiction off his phone and trying to block out the world. Someone sat beside him and started watching a nature documentary while eating. He glanced over and frowned in confusion. Before he could gather his things to move to a different seat, the person spoke.
“I see you’re just like me.”
Virgil’s frown deepened. “How is that?”
They held up a gloved hand. “How did yours happen?”
Virgil relaxed into his seat. “I don’t know. I was in the middle of math class in high school.”
They winced, nodding. “That’s tough.”
“You?” Virgil didn’t know why, but he felt a burning need to know their story, to know he wasn’t alone in his struggles.
Their wince turned sour, a look one step away from a glare entering their eyes. “I cut it myself. She wasn’t willing to treat me right, didn’t accept my pronouns and sexuality, so I cut it. I know my worth and she didn’t deserve me. As far as I care, she still doesn’t.”
Virgil nodded, almost in awe of them. “I never met mine but they’ve stayed with me for a while now. I’ve always wondered if I was ever going to be good enough for someone or if I was simply too damaged.” He had no idea why he was telling a random stranger his life’s story but it felt too right to stop.
The stranger shook their head. “They cut it, you didn’t. It’s their fault but you’ve had to live with it. That shouldn't have been the case.” They turned to look at him, a fierce expression in their eyes. “If they didn’t want you, they didn’t deserve you, simple as that. You never got to know them or be known by them, thus it is their fault for cutting it. Never blame yourself for the actions of others.”
With that, they put their headphones back in and played their documentary. Virgil felt his phone buzz and looked down to find that he had ten minutes to get to class. He hastily ripped out a paper from his notebook, scrawled his number on it, shoved it over to the stranger, and ran off to get to class.
He didn’t see the stranger again for a few days but got a text from them that night. They chatted late into the night, talking about classes and life outside of soulmates. They commiserated over their lack of soulmates and the shunning it causes. Virgil was able to complain about his gloves and how much he hated them and have someone agree and understand, something he’d never had before. He was able to understand when the stranger, Logan, complained about the stares they got while washing their hands, how they hated everyone looking at the gray string that hung limply from their finger.
Virgil soon found not only a soulmateless companion, but a companion in academic pursuits as well. They seemed to be intellectual peers so Virgil understood most of Logan’s science babble. Logan seemed to have taken a biologist major as they spoke of creatures found in rainforests constantly. Virgil, on the other hand, was in an arts major, focusing mainly on building models of commissioned structures.
Slowly, brick by brick, Logan rebuilt Virgil’s self confidence. They helped him regain his self love, told him how strong he was for surviving the most grueling years of his life. Logan would never let Virgil apologize for the simple things like running late or using the wrong pronouns for them. They always made sure to let him know that they were not upset and were proud of his progress. Virgil’s sense of self worth grew stronger and larger, finally allowing him to see what Logan had known from the start: Virgil’s soulmate didn’t deserve him.
Over the semester, they grew closer, their bond growing strong. Virgil’s panic attacks lessened, he could stand to hear the word ‘soulmates’ without wanting to curl into a ball and cry, he didn’t jump at the sight of a math textbook, didn’t feel the need to hide his high school passions. He grew enough that he could look at the gloves he had to wear with something other than disdain.
Soon, they had decided to room together the next semester. Luckily, their requests were easily approved as it seemed the faculty were more than happy to have the two students without soulmates room together.
They finished their degrees and managed to graduate without dying, which Virgil counted as a plus. Logan simply said Virgil was being overdramatic. Once they graduated, they found an aquarium with a rainforest section that allowed Logan to work with the animals they loved and gave Virgil a lot of opportunities to make or upgrade different terrariums and enclosures. He was also able to design more enrichment activities for certain animals. They saw each other in the back rooms and in the halls. Most times, they ended up sitting with each other to eat lunch as not many people wanted to interact with them.They still lived together in a small apartment as they didn’t feel the need to move.
Over time, Virgil got to know Logan better and knew he was falling for them. One night, he’d accidentally had too much to drink. He leaned against Logan, who’s arm around his waist was the only thing keeping him upright and relatively stable. Logan deposited him on the couch. “Stay here, I’ll go grab you some water to sober you up.”
Virgil whined, reaching out for them. Once he took hold of their hand, he pulled his roommate close. “No! Don’t go!”
Logan sighed but sat down on the couch anyways. Virgil leaned heavily to the side but before Logan could catch him, his head landed in the other’s lap. Virgil wiggled a bit before he managed to throw his legs over the arm of the couch, fully laying down now. He giggled, looking up at Logan. “You’re really handsome.” He muttered.
Logan smiled fondly, a hand reaching out to stroke through Virgil’s hair. “That’s nice, Virge. How about you try to sleep now?”
Virgil shook his head. “No, no sleep. You’re too nice to me.”
Logan’s smile turned into a frown. “How am I too nice to you?”
“You’re very patient with me, never getting angry at me for jumping at small noises, or randomly leaving a room. You take such good care of me when I’m sick. You’ve treated me with more basic human kindness than most people did during college.” Tears started to slide down his temples but Logan brushed them away. “I love you, L.” Virgil curled up, his face pressed against Logan’s stomach.
Logan stayed still the rest of the night, eventually falling asleep. When they woke, Virgil was moving around in the kitchen. “Sorry, did I wake you?” He asked genuinely.
Logan groaned but shook their head as they stood. “No, but I think we need to talk about last night.”
Virgil nodded, turning the burner off so he didn’t burn the scrambled eggs. “Is this about my drinking? I promise that was a one time thing.”
“No, I trust you on that. I’m talking about what you said to me before you fell asleep.”
Virgil nodded again, shakier this time. He put the dish towel he was holding down. “Oh, that.”
Logan nodded. “I only really have one question for you.”
Virgil looked at the counter, pretending to wipe at the already clean surface. “Sure, shoot.”
Logan put a hand on his arm, staying his movement. “Did you mean it?”
Virgil’s head shot up so fast he was sure he popped something. “Of course!”
Logan smiled, leaning over to kiss Virgil’s cheek. “Good, because I love you too.”
Virgil stood there, dazed, for a few minutes while Logan walked away to shower and get ready for the day. When they came back out, they had a discussion of what their relationship was and decided that they were datemates.
As time went on, they stopped sleeping in separate rooms for one reason or another. Sometimes, one of them couldn’t handle the pressure of the world anymore and ended up crying themselves to sleep on the other’s bed, sometimes they were cuddling and talking before falling asleep. Eventually, they simply decided to share a room. With their combined savings, they toured apartments and found one they liked, with a bedroom they could both make theirs.
A few more years went by and they were happy. When around Logan, Virgil could almost forget about the grey string tied to his finger, the string that decreed he was unlovable, unable to marry, unable to adopt. The string and all implications that came with it ceased to exist the moment he caught sight of Logan.
It was in one of those moments that he knew: he wanted to marry this beautiful human beside him, the one holding him close, the one who makes him forget the world, the one who loves him just as much as he loves them. He also knew that the gray strings hidden under their gloves denied their marriage. Only soulmates bound by a red string could get married, adopt, love.
Virgil raised his head from it’s position on Logan’s chest, looking them in the eye. “Marry me.”
Logan chuckled, a hand running through Virgil’s hair. “I’d love to but you know we can’t.”
Virgil shook his head. “If our marriage would never be legal, why should we use legal means?”
Logan’s smile slid into a frown. “I don’t follow.”
“How does a wedding go, babe?”
Logan’s smile returned at the pet name. “It usually involves the soulmates saying vows and swapping their soul strings, which proceeds to glow golden around the base of the finger while the rest of the string stays red.”
Virgil nodded, his smile growing. “So, let’s do that! We don’t need any witnesses if we’re not able to make it legal anyways. What do you say?”
Logan had gotten a look in their eye while Virgil was talking that he knew all too well. His datemate was plotting something. “Well,” he said finally, “if we’re doing this, I’d want to do it as best as we can.”
Virgil nodded, moving to sit up so he could see Logan better. “Like what?”
“You mentioned vows?”
Virgil smiled, feeling excitement and just a bit of anxiety growing. “That’s doable.”
“I could pick up cupcakes instead of a wedding cake?”
Virgil nodded, grinning. “Would it be too much if I were to wear a suit?”
Logan smiled, leaning in to kiss his cheek. “Not if I wore a dress.”
They continued to plan their ‘wedding’ over the course of a few days, both preparing vows in their free time. Virgil was once asked about what he was doing by a coworker but said he was giving a speech at a relative’s wedding, not wanting to give away that what he was doing was technically illegal.
The day they’d set arrived. It was a joint day off so neither had to go into work. Virgil woke up before Logan did, depositing a kiss to their forehead before slipping out of bed. He ate breakfast, making one for Logan to find when they woke up, before heading to the spare bedroom to prepare.
A few hours later, he walked out to the living room they’d decorated the night before. He stood at the arch of paper links, his gloves discarded and suit on. He fidgeted with the edges, wanting everything to be perfect for Logan.
When they walked out, it felt like his breath was sucked out of him. His eyes swept over Logan’s frame, their dress accentuating their features. Logan’s smile could have sent birds singing when Virgil’s eyes finally made their way back up. He held out his hand for them to take as they arrived. “You look gorgeous.” He murmured in awe.
Logan chuckled, dropping their bouquet gently onto the couch. “Thank you. You look amazing as well.”
Virgil gripped Logan’s hands tightly, knowing he was first. He looked directly into their eyes while he spoke. “I’ve chosen you. To be no other than yourself, loving what I know of you and trusting who you will become. In a world that is based on who you were destined to love at birth, I’ve chosen to love you. It is free will but that does not mean it is false love. I will gladly share your name and care for you, in sickness and in health, in fair weather and storms, in every battle life throws at us. I will stand by your side and fight with you. We shall always be equals in this marriage and I would never wish it any other way. I love you and take you, Logan Croft, to be my unlawfully wedded spouse.”
Logan smiled, squeezing Virgil’s hands before beginning. “All I have in this world, I freely give to you. I promise to love you every second of every day, not just for a moment, nor for an hour, nor for a day, nor for a year, I will love you until eternity ends. Until the mountains crumble into the sea, and the oceans rise to consume the land, I will love you with everything I have. I will put you back together when you are falling apart, I will laugh with you, grieve with you. Our love is unique and something I will cherish beyond anything. I found you without the aid of a string, without anything tying our souls together, and our love is stronger for it. We have fought to love, fought to live in a world that does not want us, and we have grown and clung to each other through it all. I cannot tell where I end and you begin and I would have it no other way. I love you with all my soul and take you, Virgil Storm, to be my unlawfully wedded husband.”
They both carefully untied the gray strings around their pinkies, Virgil tying his around Logan’s left ring finger before Logan tied theirs around Virgil’s. Once they did that, they shared a kiss. Logan was the first to pull back, their eyes going down to look at the soul string tied around their finger.
The part tied at the base was now a glowing silver instead of a muted gray. Following the ends, one ended as normal while the other had grown and now connected to one of Virgil’s ends. His own string was also glowing a bright silver while the connecting string was a soft pink.
Virgil stared in shock before locking eyes with Logan. “Do you know what this means?”
“That people who have cut strings can choose their next soulmate? Or that the prejudice against those with grey and black strings is no longer justified? That we could probably go register at a courthouse and be lawfully wedded now? That-”
Virgil surged forward and captured their lips with a kiss. “It means that no one can tell us we are broken. No one can rip us apart.” He whispered before Logan tilted their head up for more kisses.
Original anon that brought up the issue here. It was kinda really bad faith of me to assume the worst possible interpretation. I saw your clarification and I've been thinking a lot about it.
Having Patton and Virgil as trans would be really cool. Especially since they serve very different story roles. Transmen who aren't all one stereotype is definitely a step better than a lot of stories manage.
If misgendering happens in the story, accidental or purposely, it should tagged and generally treated with a lot of respect. I trust you're not malicious about this and I'm really sorry for sapping the fun out of it 😔
It’s understandable that you would at least feel slightly offended as I did not word that as well as I could have.
Honestly, I can only see one or two situations in which misgendering would occur. It those were to happen, I’d make sure to tag it appropriately (as both misgendering and transphobia) and treat it as a very serious thing to happen.
Thank you for responding to me on this! I’m glad we could have a civil conversation about this!
my url will be changing in the next week if robin skinner / cavetown doesn't address his antisemitic and transphobic past professionally without skirting around the topic or saying that it was in the past.
Hey I need some character writing advice but 1) What's a good way to write pre timeskip Nami? 2) And how would Luffy react to another crewmember not feeling safe/comfortable on the ship because of something another crewmember said/did that wasn't exactly kind? I'm asking cause I'm trying to write a fanfic about Sanji's canon Transphoic/Homophic views affecting another crewmember badly. I'd think he'd probably confront him about it if it was really bad maybe call him stupid idk wdyt? -rabbit
IM SO SORRY I DONT KNOW HOW IT POSTED I DIDNT ANSWER IT LEMME RECTIFY THE SITUATION
1. How to write Pre-time skip Nami: I'd say shes the same as the 2 year time skip Nami but the pre-luffy nami would definitely screw people over to benefit her and to survive but Nami is like that. Shes a thief so she swindles and bargains and steals. I think if you stick to that mindframe for her you can write her wonderfully. Of course shes fiercly loyal when she decides to devote herself.
2. This one is tricky because Luffy doesn't seem like the mediator for his crew. Thats a little more up Nami and Robin or even Jimbei and Usopp. If it were someone outside the crew he'd just punch em in the face and it would be done but inside the crew puts people in different positions. Hes definitely observant so nobody would have to say anything but i think he would draw his hat over his eyes and say something like "oi, knock it off" very calmly and not even really pointedly looking at them. But he isnt the type to pull them aside and ask them to knock it off with a detailed explanation of why its bad. If the said member kept it up im sure it would result in a fight with Luffy and the crew member or the two crew members.
Of course if that doesnt feel right go with your gut!!!
Also I'd love to read and support the fic rabbit!!!
trans booster who is from, you know, the future, so he’s just baffled by all the backwards thinking around him that he’d only ever read about!!
trans booster who doesn’t even realize he could be a role model to young trans men because in the 25th century there were lots of other “better” more visible trans men and women to look up to
trans booster who encounters transphobia for the first time in the 21st century and has no idea how to handle it because he’s never had to deal with it before
trans booster who sees the binders of the past and freaks out because the ones he used before he transitioned were futuristic and safer and he’s like what old timey bullshit is this????
