#traugmatic

[war-horseman]

So didn't think I needed to but apparently I gotta say it.

You're a system? Cool! I don't care how or why you became a system or how your alters came about. Imma respect you as a system.

You alterhuman? Chill! I don't care why you are or how it came about. Imma respect your alterhumaness.

You part of the Alphabet Mafia? Awesome! I don't care how you came across that term you're using or ask you to specify or "dumb it down" for me. Imma respect your identity and pronouns.

Why?

Because it is not any of my business why you identify as whatever.

You are always welcome to tell me why, or how, or whatever. I will not judge you. You do not have to prove to me that you are that whatever you are. You do not have to explain why you are whatever you are.

Some of yall might think I'm dumb, but guess what? No body should have to prove they're who they say they are. No one should have to defend who they say they are.

The only time that it should be a problem is if you are doing something that is harmful. And guess what?

Half the shit yall are complaining about isnt harmful.

Now some of yall will come at me and say "But War! Their identity is ruining our community and society isnt taking us seriously!"

Dude SOCIETY DONT TAKE BASIC SHIT SERIOUSLY.

This is coming from a professionally diagnosed system.

This is coming from a transgender person.

This is coming from a spiritual AND psychological alterhuman.

I HAVE THE MOST BASIC ASS "special" IDENTITY AND PEOPLE STILL DONT TAKE ME SERIOUSLY.

Why? Because society doesnt give a FUCK. I could show people my doctor's and therapist's notes and they STILL won't take ME (AN ADULT, GOING FOR THEIR MASTERS IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT) SERIOUSLY.

So stop your bitching and moaning and get on with your life.

[big-gay-bird]

Ok I think walled of text too much in my last try and panicked.

Are there any active system/plural discords I can join?

To give some context for servers that might have more specific community focuses:

-we are traugmatic but not well versed in syscourse, and I don’t really want to engage with it directly while I get my feet under me as openly a system

-we are only semi professionally diagnosed if that is a boundary for your server

-my body is 26, our alters are in their forties, in their late 20s, in their early 20s, and emotionally a young child (but physically a bird it’s weird I know)

-we have two alters who formed as introjects but no longer identify as just their source material

-we likely have OSDD and not DID

-we have an animal alter and a human-ish alter without a specific species

-we have had bad experiences around trying to integrate so that’s not a personal goal right now. I really need it be off the table while we recover

And most importantly

-we are so new to being out to more than just our closest friends but as think it’ll help us work together better and be our own selves.

Any recs at all are SUPER appreciated! Thank you so much community!

[peridotsalien]

On one hand, I want validation

On the other hand, I want to not think about this at all

I just wish I knew what was going on in my head. I wish I could know for sure if I’m a system. It hurts to invalidate and it hurts to ignore my own invalidation and just ughhhhhhh

I know this is all cuz of how the last few days have been but ugh still

[connorlovesrats]

Hey! Crowe here, few things uh one Red/Paris has split into 2 different alters. So now we have Red and Paris seperately. Secondly, I need some help. I run a trans-only server on discord and this server is obviously system friendly. I don't personally believe endos are actual systems, but should just completely ban them from the server? I'm kinda torn, as long as they aren't spreading misinformation or starting arguments about it should I allow them? Or would it be better to just ban endo systems all together?

[hail-is-just-dippin-dots]

does anyone know how to stop splitting cause im trying my hardest to keep us from splitting right now

[dazed-system]

Your friendly reminder that being a system isn’t always sparkles and rainbows- it can be genuinely terrible sometimes!

Arguments within your head, dissociation during important times when you need to be out and focused, headaches from communication and switching, amnesia, hallucinations, and so much more.

Please stop romanticizing mental disorders