#tubes tied

[kiddmandu1]

I struggle every day between my love for giving cream pies, and not wanting any more children

#TeamTubesTied

[thjbbrwcky]

[small-puddle-oceanographer]

You know, when I got my tubes tied everyone on earth wanted to let me know I'd regret it (I don't) but nobody not once warned me that I'd regret my bad dental work.

[alex-221-0]

Females shouldn't have to already have children in order to get their tubes tied, that defeats the whole fucking point???

And they shouldn't have to GET THEIR HUSBAND'S PERMISSION. What the fuck??? It's their body? Jesus christ...

[reallesbiancorn]

Link🔗

[all-things-cringe-worthy]

[booksr4ever18]

okay i just filled out a patient history form online for a dr appointment and uh champ

I think those are the same thing

[thescrumblingmidwife]

Are there cons to having your tubes tied? In what places/states would that be easiest as a young unmarried unchildhaving afab person?

Hi Anon!

This is one where I have to speak somewhat generally, because midwives do not perform tubal ligations. I know the procedure can be performed a couple of different ways, and that some of the methods have a longer recovery time than others.

Here are the cons that I can speak to:

Surgical risks - infection, reaction to anesthesia, hemorrhage (uncontrolled bleeding), perforation/trauma to other organs, fever, etc. These risks are not likely, but are possibilities that comes with any surgical procedure.

Surgical recovery - abdominal and/or shoulder pain, bloating, some bleeding at incision site or vaginally, vaginal discharge, risk of incision site infection, nausea/vomiting. Will need to take a few days off of work/school to recover.

Cost may be high or insurance coverage may be limited

Wait times or finding a provider to do it, especially if you are young

Permanent, if you ever change your mind

Regret is a possibility (around 12% report regret... goes down after age 30).

Believe it or not, it's still only 99% effective - there are hormonal birth control methods that are more effective! The failure rate is higher in people under age 30.

If a pregnancy does occur, it is more likely to be ectopic (somewhere other than in the uterus, usually in the tube), which is a medical emergency.

It does not prevent against STIs

Post-tubal ligation syndrome is a not-well-understood outcome in which some people have reported menopause-like symptoms, such as hot flashes, night sweats, a dry vagina, mood swings, trouble sleeping, a lower sex drive, and irregular periods; or heavy, painful periods. It's more likely in people under age 30.

That's a long list, and I don't want you to think I'm telling you that getting tubes tied is bad. It's great for most of the people who do it! But I believe in true informed consent, which means understanding all the possible outcomes.

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This next part is assuming Anon is in the USA. Unfortunately, I cannot offer advice to anyone anywhere else in the world beyond suggesting you talk to your OBGYN.

As far as where to go, Anon, I'd start with your insurance plan if you have one. They should be able to provide you with a list of providers who are in-network who perform the procedure. From there it may be a matter of calling until you find someone who will see a patient your age. If your insurance covers it, and you could find a provider to do it, it could even potentially be free.

If you don't have insurance, I would start with PlannedParenthood:

Considering a tubal ligation? Learn where to get a tubal ligation, and how much a sterilization may cost.

If neither of those produces anything, there is a list compiled by an OBGYN from Rochester, NY, Dr. Fran Haydanek. Please read the caveats at the top of the document carefully so you understand what this list is and isn't.

Gynecologists who will perform a tubal sterilization

United States This list is for physicians who are willing to perform a tubal ligation on patients ages 21+, no matter their marital status

OK, Anon. Hope this helps!