#tw amatonormativity

[chalroe]

From Lost In Translation by @quekerahkerah (which is so fun, go read it rn!!!)

[imhere-imqueer-ilikedeer]

To those of you who say/imply we shouldn't have an issue with Valentine's say because it's for all forms of love, not just romantic:

That's not really the point. I don't dislike Valentine's Day because it symbolizes people's relationships. I'm happy for all those relationships! I'm happy you've got a day dedicated to the love you have for each other, platonic, romantic, familial, whatever! That's awesome!!

It's the amatonormativity that the day perpetuates.

Imagine you're allergic to flowers. And one day a year, everyone celebrates flowers in excessive amounts. You literally cannot go outside without some company shoving flowers in your face and telling you to buy them, you can't go to your relative's house because your aunt will throw a flower garland over your head. You can tell them you're allergic, but they'll always smile and say "oh, well that's okay!!! It doesn't have to be just flowers! You can enjoy trees as well!!!"

But that doesn't change the fact that you're still going to be surrounded by the very thing you're allergic too all day!!! It doesn't matter that you can also love the trees, because you're going to spend most of the day drowning in flowers and allergies! Because society is so hell bent on having flowers all over literally everything, including you!

That's why I don't like Valentine's day. Yes, I can enjoy it outside of romance. But it doesn't change the fact that the world is hell bent on drowning you in it.

[aspecmemesdaily]

Source | Day 59

[nomaschanclas]

[Start ID: A cropped screenshot of a Tumblr text post. The text reads,"I wish what was pointed out more is because of Caine’s repulsed aroace coding: almost all ships with him should be depicted as platonic or, at least, a form of queerplatonic. Plus more fanworks should be made/prioritized of the crew being non-dating platonic to Caine, in particular from aro and ace people themselves. But then you’ll have people claiming you’re queerphobic and 'policing', when all you’re asking is people to acknowledge his queer coding as an aroace man, like they would do if he was implied achillean or genderqueer"./. End ID.]

I have no idea why the original post won't show up in the tags.

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[Start ID: A cropped screenshot of the tags from the original post. The tag reads,"#This is the only time I'm going to be tagging the majority of these ships. #Also don't get me started on the sexualization of Caine and the lack of nuanced approach for his character in sexual works."/. End ID.]

[memory-of-stargazing]

I think there’s some allos we need to put queerplatonic relationships for fictional characters on the high shelf for. Idk

I’m kinda sick of characters that are all “I don’t want sex or romance or to be in a relationship like that I just love my friends and want to keep being friends without them moving on to care more about a romantic relationship” and then 90% of the fan content of that character is “HERE’S VERY EXPLICITLY AROACE CHARACTER IN A QPR!!!!” and treating it as just allo dating that’s acceptable for aroace characters

QPRs can be ‘romance lite’! But also I feel like there’s something really odd when a good chunk of the content I’m seeing for a very explicitly aroace character is just “let me force them into a romance lite monogamous relationship that is considered by the characters to be of higher importance than platonic friendship!! But it’s fine its the aroace version!!!”

Like. Hm. I’m putting QPRs for aroace characters on the high shelf until you make a QPR for non-aroace characters thats not just romance lite and understand it’s actual allonormative-breaking fluid truth. Then you can have it back for aroace characters when you’re not just using it for ‘acceptable’ erasure

[our-arospec-experience]

my arospec experience is correcting ppl that I'm not dating my friends and them asking how (???) and me explaining the concept of doing what feels good ig???

it’s crazy, right????

[skriblee-ksk]

From Someone Who Wishes to Become Love:

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“… would he ever accept that type of love…?”

A/N: TEEHEE HI YALL!!!!!!! sorry this is less twst angst and more kiyuu’s aromanticism angst (OOPSIE). I have a whole 2nd part confession scene dialogue written down but I dunno if I’ll be able to get enough motivation to finish it tbh. I WROTE THIS DURING PRIDE MONTH ACTUALLY!!! FOR AROMANTICS!!!! I’m not an aroace who has ever felt that my lack of attraction was a problem (bc i’m non-partnering either way), but I thought Kiyuu would panic in that regards because…. like, that’s what she does regarding the people she cares about.

Anyways, something something, Kiyuu and Jack talk about it, it’s aight, they get into a healthy, communicative QPR!! Is the gist of the 2nd part. I may post it one day. Perchance. Anyways yeah JacKiyuu wins again!!

How did she not have this issue w Ryoko? That’s because she was already comfortable with her current relationship w Ryoko and knew about her orientation, so she could wholeheartedly just accept any feelings as natural.

Anyway, to all aromantics who may potentially read this post: YOU ARE VALID!! no matter what gender you may be or if you’re favorable or repulsed. Loveless aros!!! Aroaces!!! Aros who aren’t ace at all!!!! You are all valid!!!!

Taglist (ask to be added!!): @kathxrat-01 @distant-velleity @scint1llat3 @elenauaurs @boopshoops

@lumdays @ven4t1c4l @jewelulu

[failed-verification]

saw someone respond to people being mad at valentines with 'can't you have a little joy' yeah no, how am i supposed to have joy when essentially everyone is rubbing in my face that i am abnormal to them for not being interested in a romantic relationship