and when the dolls say they don't trust us, shit like this is why (thankfully, oop is normal but most people in the comments are either encouraging this or being swerfs). like. "my friend is pretending to be a trans woman to take advantage of the transmisogynistic nature of popular sex work platforms"... who the fuck thinks this is okay??
[ID: A screenshot of a Reddit post with the title, "My trans man friend is presenting himself as a trans woman to be a sugar baby, how do I tell him it's a horrible idea, do I try to stay friends with him?". The post is tagged as NSFW, and reads as follows.
"Sorry about the length and coherence, I’m frustrated)
I’m a trans man and I’m friends with another trans man. He’s been really awesome because he’s been transitioning longer than I have and has given me a lot of support but I don’t know if I can be friends with him anymore though because what he’s trying to do.
For a background on me I sold photos on OF before I came out so I’ve had a minuscule experience in the sex industry. This friend has confided in me that he’s made profiles on sugar baby websites where he’s presenting himself as a trans woman because he’s strapped for cash and thinks it will be easier for him to make money presenting himself as a trans woman instead of a trans man. He passes really well as a man and hasn’t put in any effort to feminize himself, so these dating profiles look like a very clocky trans woman. I told him that if he wants to pursue sw he should present as his own gender because theres a market for trans men and do online options because presenting yourself as a visibly trans person irl (especially as a woman) is dangerous but he dismissed me and told me it would be the quickest way to make money.
I think it’s messed up and weird that he’s trying to present himself as a trans woman, but what really pisses me off is the idea that it’s just “so easy” to be a sex worker, because I put in tons of time when I was on OF and I had to deal with stalkers and shit so I don’t want to think about how much work it takes to be an irl sex worker. I can’t say if he’s being offensive to trans women because I’m not one, but I feel like this weird caricature of a woman he’s trying to present as along with his attitude is going to blow up in his face. I want him to be safe but it is so unsavory and I don’t know what to do, has anyone else has experience with people thinking sw is easy and ignoring the danger?" /END ID]
