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Your local non-binary and trans pals making trans positive userboxes. No TERFs, truscum, or racists allowed, you will be blocked. Do not start ace discourse here (or any other kind of discourse for that matter). It's not a discourse blog.

[transsafeuserboxes]

Please stop usingtags that dont apply, you trigger some people :/

hello. so sorry that this is happening. can you please give me an example?

[butterflikisses]

[astargatelover]

For those who have trouble reading that:

Imagine being a black, gay drag queen in the 1800s after being born into enslavement AND having the style and cachè to throw soirées that the girls had to come to! That’s why I don’t want to hear this “we’re not our ancestors stuff.” You’re right!

From The Very Black Project Page- William Dorsey Swann was a gay liberation activist. Born into slavery in 1858, he was the first person in the United States to lead a queer resistance group and the first known person to self-identify as a “queen of drag”. Imagine the queenery of this icon.

He was a slave in Hancock, Maryland and was freed by Union soldiers after the Emancipation Proclamation went into effect. During the 1880s and 1890s, he organized a series of balls in Washington, D.C. He called himself the “queen of drag”. Most of the attendees his gatherings were men who were former slaves, and were gathering to dance in their satin and silk dresses. William was arrested in police raids numerous times,including in the first documented case of arrests for female impersonation in the United States, on April 12, 1888. In 1896, he was falsely convicted and sentenced to 10 months in jail for “keeping a disorderly house” (running a brothel). After his sentencing, he requested a pardon from President Grover Cleveland. This request was denied, but but he was the first American on record who pursued legal and political action to defend the LGBTQ community’s right to gather.

He was known to have been close with Pierce Lafayette and Felix Hall, two men who had also both been slaves and who formed the first known male same-sex relationship between enslaved Americans.

When William stopped organizing and participating in drag events, his brother continued to make costumes for the drag community. Two of his brothers had also been active participants in his drag balls.

Imagine how intelligent and ambitious this man had to be to come up with drag balls in the 1800s! Imagine how many terrible concepts he had to unlearn by himself to be a confident gay black man who does drag in the 1800s! Imagine how courageous he had to be to fight for lgbt people as a former slave in America in the 1800s!

William Dorsey Swann is the original queen, the original drag mother, the original activist. Tell his story!

[vague-humanoid]

[paulnewoman]

Gay USA (1977) dir. Arthur J. Bressan Jr.

[ledbythreads]

The text is from a poem by Black Lesbian poet Pat Parker (pictured) . My copy is from Naming The Waves Contemporary Lesbian Poetry - ed Christian McEwan 1988.

[spidaerman]

this is extremely important for everyone to understand

[warmbrightedits]

Southern Comfort (2001)

A beautiful scene featuring transgender man Robert Eades and his transgender girlfriend Lola.

[vulpeculavolans]

[TRANSCRIPT:

Robert: – and now she’s coming out, full blown… she is something else.

Lola: Oh, please, stop it.

Robert: What? I’m just telling her how wonderful you are, and how beautiful, and how organised, and…

Lola: Actually, you know, I really should put all of this on tape, you know? For when I’m not feeling so great.

Robert: Sweetheart, it is on tape. 

[BOTH LAUGH]

Robert: Just in the last couple of months now, it’s come on real strong, but she just really blushes! I can get her to blush all the way from head to toe. See? And she can’t deal with it! She’s never blushed like that before!

Lola: [SIGHS]

[BOTH LAUGH]

Robert: All my life, I’ve been looking for the perfect woman… and all this time, she’s been right there in front of me, and I didn’t even realise it, ‘cause I never thought I’d have a chance with her.

Lola: Why? You’re like… completely loveable.

Robert: To be loved by you, that’s… that’s…

Lola: I had no notion, to think that we would have this little fling.

Robert: That’s what I feel - we have this nice friendship, we can’t go out, we have fun together, we got no entanglements and stuff and then - bam! Just… all of a sudden, next thing I know, we’re in love with each other and we can’t stop it.

END TRANSCRIPT]

[crass-and-crusty]

Well, looks like I'm going to actually be homeless in a few months.

[crass-and-crusty]

Okay I'm actually really scared lol. My parents are incredibly transphobic and I won't be able to stay here long after I turn 18. My only friend lives in another country. I'm disabled and mentally ill and I have no where to go. I'm fucking terrified.

If anyone has resources on for homeless LGBTQ teens or just surviving homeless please hit me up because I don't know what I'm going to do.

[enlon]

my top surgery is supposed to be in november and my financial situation is pretty bad. im working my ass off with no days off until the date of the surgery but i'll still be $1200-2000 short. if anyone could throw a few dollars at me or reblog this post, i would greatly appreciate it.

paypal: @ gabrieljb

[straightboyfriend]

there is no medical component to a trans kid transitioning

if a little trans boy comes out to his parents & is like 4 all youd do for his transition is cut his hair, buy a new wardrobe, & switch pronouns & possibly change names

no one is gonna put a little 4 year old on testosterone OR puberty blockers until theyre actually about to start puberty & then they give them a few years to really decide if they want to start hormones

a trans kid existing isnt “child abuse.” child abuse is refusing to let your kid live their lives as they truly are & forcing them to present as a gender they arent

[straightboyfriend]

radfems who interact with this post will be blocked & your argument will not be read or even considered. i do not care about the opinion of a transphobe & my original post still stands.

[anarchistmemedistro]

[coast-modern]

Free Clothes for Trans Girls!

I’ve created the blog @havenscloset where you can look through a list of free clothes that I’m giving away.

My goal is to provide good, feminine clothes to girls who are early in their transition, cannot buy feminine clothes for fear of being outed, or cannot otherwise afford them. 

I will be adding more items and accessories in the future!

Please give it a look and spread the word!

@havenscloset

@havenscloset

@havenscloset

[sistertaxon]

How to make a gaff, a step-by step tutorial for transfeminine people

You will need:

Scissors

A sock OR Length of pantyhose

A pair of underwear

Step One: Cut a 6-inch/15cm segment of the sock or pantyhose. You can throw away the rest, or keep it to use in making another gaff.

Step Two: Cut off the elastic waistband from the underwear. Throw away the rest.

Step Three: Thread the waistband through the sock.

The gaff is now complete! To wear it, put your legs through the waistband on either side of the sock and pull it up like a pair of panties - lots of other posts have covered tucking, but even if you can’t tuck “properly” (i.e., with the testicles in the inguinal canals), it still works if you just kinda smush everything under. Put a pair of panties on over it, and you’re done!

cc @transgenderteensurvivalguide, @relatabletransgirlthings

[dreamyfreakout]

Happy Monday! Thanks for being yourself!

[jinxz-deactivated20210223]

i dont think tme people get, or ever will get, how deeply affecting the experience of transmisogyny is. will elaborate later.

[jinxz-deactivated20210223]

okay I drank more coffee and I'm ready to get into this.

so transmisogyny is the intersection of transphobia and misogyny, which should be obvious but some people don't like to listen. its another layer of oppression past the transphobia that transmascs have. every transfemme I've talked to and befriended has had some experience with feeling predatory for having feelings for someone (generally affects trans wlw more) or infantilized themselves and acted very gentle and passive in order to not feel as though they're predatory. (I'm still working through the first one and used to deal with the latter)

we're taught to be afraid of our own bodies, especially our genitals. it's as if we're monsters for being women born with penises, as if that in itself makes us gross. there's a reason that all the transphobic bathroom arguments come down to a "man dressed as a woman" preying on women. this goes a million times as far for black trans women, who have the added intersection of blackness. that paints them as even more masculine and aggressive despite how far that is from the truth.

I developed my eating disorder because i felt like my body was too big and masculine, that i would look more feminine if i were skinnier. thats obviously something cis women face, but its not the same for us. we're told we have male bodies and that we need to make ourselves smaller to fit in with "real women".

we're excluded from women's spaces for "not having the same experiences" or "invading" or whatever other transphobic reterric they want to use to allow trans men in but not us. we're alienated from trans/LGBT spaces due to the heavy focus on transmasc and tme nonbinary people in discussions of transitioning. for every 20 resources on how to bind and its dangers i get on my dash, I see 1 or 2 on tucking and its dangers. for every 20 binder giveaways i see I've never seen a gaff giveaway. I bet some of you don't even know what a gaff is. (its what we use to tuck)

the amount of times I've seen jokes about men in dresses, the amount of times i've heard words like femboy and tranny thrown around by tme people as if they're not harming us by doing so sickens me. every time you make genderbent fan art, draw a guy looking embarassed in a dress, or make a femboy friday joke, you are contributing to the stigma that follows us wherever we go.

I'm probably gonna lose followers for this and get told in the notes "I would reblog this but your tone is so aggressive :/" but I DON'T CARE. WE USED OUR POLITE VOICES AND YOU DIDN'T LISTEN. BLACK TRANS WOMEN BUILT THIS COMMUNITY AND NOW THEY'RE DYING ON THE FUCKING STREETS. WE AS A GROUP, ARE BEING TURNED AWAY FROM HOMELESS SHELTERS AND BEING JOKED ABOUT ON THIS AWFUL WEBSITE. IT'S OUR BLOOD ON YOUR HANDS.

[level20lesbian]

Not to mention the fact that people barely understand anything about our transitions. I almost never see any kind of informative posts about what to expect from hormones/surgery/etc., and even the doctors that prescribe my meds hardly seem to know anything about them. The six page long informed consent document I had to sign to get my hormones listed like a hundred possible effects, all of which came with a “this may or may not happen we’re just kinda guessing” disclaimer, and I’ve STILL found TONS of things that no one EVER told me while they were busy stressing over and over that I’d probably be sterile after a while.

Did you know it’s not uncommon to lose a shoe size or two? Or to shrink a couple inches because your entire pelvis rotates after a while (which hurts like a motherfucker, I might add)? Or that it’s very possible that you’ll suffer some of the symptoms of PMS every month even though you can’t menstruate? Did you know your tastes in food might change because your sense of smell changes? Probably not, because barely anybody researches or published information on this stuff. And who even fucking knows what you can expect after surgery because hearsay reports vary wildly and there’s basically nothing out there.

It gets so much harder to stay healthy when it’s so hard to find information on how our bodies function.

[jinxz-deactivated20210223]

reblog this version actually

[precioustranswoman-deactivated2]

There’s so much info about tucking and gaffs (less so) but to all new trans girls.. just get some cotton panties like boyshorts style and push it back gently.

 Like you might have to do slightly (slightly) more for tighter clothes or different fabrics but like… ya don’t need to tape yourself every day… or ever… and gaffs are good but unless you’re wearing something tight n thin cotton boyshorts or some other strong underwear will do the trick.

 Like all this info pretending like you need special gaffs, tape, to shove ur testes up into your inguinal canal, etc. is classist, physically harmful, and preventatively daunting information to be spreading without disclaimers like this.

[polyhedralprincess]

Idk if this has been said before but a long time ago another trans lady and I kinda realized we could just wear 2 pairs of underwear and call it a day without taping or anything fancy. Its definitely a cheap alternative and Ive been doing it for 6 years 👍

I wear jeggings to work and when im out and about and I never get looks or comments, idk if this is helpful to anyone tho 😅

[drumandbassdoll-deactivated2023]

to every transfemme person: please read this it will save you so much time, money, and energy

[low-or-no-dyspho-ria]

I had a friend who wore some layers compression shorts and called it a day

[remy]

hey actualy everyone shut up my best friend just started his gofundme for the top surgery hes been desperate for for years now. 

[remy]

donations have slowed a TON and kue isnt even 10% funded, if you can donate please do, he’s my best friend and he deserves to be able to transition. if you cant donate reblog! sharing this means it might get more donations!

[transed-deactivated20210424]

i never see enough tips for trans women/transfem people so. here’s a video that came up about tucking :] (don’t worry she doesn’t use tape at all despite the thumbnail)

[remy]

hey actualy everyone shut up my best friend just started his gofundme for the top surgery hes been desperate for for years now. 

[remy]

donations have slowed a TON and kue isnt even 10% funded, if you can donate please do, he’s my best friend and he deserves to be able to transition. if you cant donate reblog! sharing this means it might get more donations!