#unburning primary

[wisteria-lodge]

When it comes to "What Characters Do You Tend to Love," I just really adore the characters who are (idk if this is the right word) antiheros? Like they're not really villians or if they are they're minor villians. They tend to be jerks but its just so clear that if they had had better they would be better. That they have a good heart under all of that. Even better if they're trying to be good or just characters who are lost and acting out cause of it. Watching them find themselves is wow.

You just have to love a really good un-Burning arc. 

[sevilemar]

How does a primary unburn?

Very slowly. And I'm not even joking.

First step is finding out who or what made you burn, and maybe continues to do so. Second step is to put some distance between whatever it is and yourself; emotional, maybe geographical. Try and get yourself out of survival mode as best you can.

After that, it's a very personal journey, as any kind of healing always is. My general advice: get help when you need it, build a support network if you can, celebrate small victories when you find them, and be kind to yourself whenever possible.

It's a lot of work, and you can't fast forward through it, or bullshit your way out, and it's a lot easier with professional help. If you already know your primary, it might give you some clues to what the goal is; if you don't know your primary, you might find it along the way. Maybe you'll find a model on your journey. If you like it, embrace it, it is part of you.

Wherever your journey takes you, know that we are rooting for you, nonny, always.