Hi, it's hyperestrogenism anon :o the sequel! Thank you so much for responding, I really appreciate it and learning about your experience made me think about myself a lot more. I sought out other intersex experiences and read them too, and maybe I'm finally putting together the dots.
Whenever I've got a physical done by my hospital's nurses (I have the most base insurance, on account of my homeless disabled bio-mom), they never seemed to acknowledge the black dot, EVER. It made me feel crazy, how is no one else seeing this?!?
Following the experience of other intersex folks discoveries, I (tmi) watched myself use the bathroom and realized I might actually have. Two urethral openings? I know that's a rare condition, but I don't know what else to call it. I always felt strange compared to my peers, and have difficulty feeling anything inside my vagina using my fingers, so now I'm REALLY suspicious.
Would it be okay for me to call myself intersex? I know you aren't the end-all, but I'm nervous that because I don't know everything about my potential conditions, I don't have a "claim" or something...
Okay, that dot being a urethral opening actually makes a LOT of sense! On my end, before, when you described this black dot, I had thought that it could either be melanoma (which is why I recommended you get it checked out) or a freckle. But it being a second urethral opening would explain why it was ignored. Urethral variations are often ignored and brushed under the rug.
Urethral variations are actually more common than you'd expect. Especially considering all the gaslighting and ignorance that the intersex community can face from doctors and nurses, urethral duplication seems like it's more prevalent than previously thought.
With your potential urethral duplication and highly likely hyperestrogenism, I don't see a reason you shouldn't call yourself intersex if you feel the label fits.
