Not on days off. Not at work. Not when i’m hanging out w/ friends. Not when i’m sick. Not on trips. Not on holidays. Not on dates. Not during self care. Not when i’m stressed. Not in community & movement spaces. Not when i’m home. Not when i’m out. Never. . If you have disabled people in your life, chances are, they are also thinking about, planning for, worrying about, negotiating, scanning for access. all. the. time. Don’t let us have to carry the entire load of access alone. It is exhausting & though we do it because we must for our survival in an ableist world, we shouldn’t *have* to. . Access is & should be a collective responsibility. (And I know most people reading this will “like” this sentiment, but actually do nothing to put it into practice in their lives & especially re their relationships w/ disabled folks.) . Access intimacy is key to any kind of work that involves access. Build access intimacy w/ the disabled people in your life & do it intentionally. Invest in it because it takes time & doesn’t happen over night. It requires building trust & relationship; conversation built upon conversation. And don’t let the work of building (& teaching about) access intimacy fall solely on disabled folks either. This is also exhausting & ableist. . Do your work & learn about ableism, disability, abled supremacy, access, & especially how they play out in your life. Support each other in your learning & your accountability around your abled privilege. . Pro tip: if your disabled friend is always the one doing the labor to bring up or initiate conversations about access, disability or ableism, you’re failing at being a good accomplice/ally. Do better. . . Link to “Access Intimacy: The Missing Link” https://leavingevidence.wordpress.com/2011/05/05/access-intimacy-the-missing-link/ . . [screen shot of a tweet from [@]miamingus that reads, “i'm disabled and i don't have the option of not thinking about accessibility or ableism. ever.”] #disabled #disabilities #disability #spinabifida #ableism #ableist #disabledlife #actuallydisabled #wheelchairusers #accessibility #accessible https://www.instagram.com/p/BzlM4MchX5f/?igshid=1soq4lio3kr3s
