#work relationships

[xo-indulgence]

I don’t like it when men assume I have trust issues because of my romantic experiences ONLY from men. It wasn’t a collective group of men that made me feel like that. It was from loved ones who broke promises after another and didn’t take accountability. It was friendships that ended because of jealousy and intolerance. It was professional work relationships with people who I thought had the best intentions for me but they didn’t. That’s where my trusts issues came from. This is why I have boundaries. I’m not going to overwhelm myself to prove to someone that I’m a good person but, they don’t respect me or my feelings.

[pratchettquotes]

"There is a favor I need to ask, to tell the truth," said William. Vetinari smiled.

"Of course. If I can do anything for the Ti--"

"Will you be going to Harry King's daughter's wedding on Saturday?"

To his secret delight, the look that Vetinari gave him seemed to be blank because the man hadn't got anything to fill it with. But Drumknott leaned towards him, and there were a few whispered words.

"Ah?" said the Patrician. "Harry King. Ah, yes. A positive incarnation of the spirit that has made our city what it is today. Haven't I always said that, Drumknott?"

"Yes indeed, sir."

"I shall certainly attend," said Lord Vetinari. [...]

"In return, however," said the Patrician, "I must ask you not to upset Commander Vimes." He gave a little cough. "More than necessary."

Terry Pratchett, The Truth

[karihighman]

Canon Chenford: on the job edition 👮‍♂️👮‍♀️

[mejcinta]

Dear Hollywood,

There’s a difference between inclusivity and domination. At no point should anyone dominate by means of excluding others. But at the same time, inclusivity shouldn’t aim towards domination.

There’s a sweet middle-ground that creates a balance where everyone can be content and stories can be told wonderfully while maintaining the source material and character essences. 

In short, everyone should stop trying to be dominant and be humble instead. That will give rise to true and fair representation for everyone. And by everyone, I mean everyone.

[harvardbusinessschool]

Ignore This Advice at Your Own Peril

Refusing to act on advice from a respected colleague or mentor can backfire and damage your working relationship, a new study says. Hayley Blunden explains the career implications of seeking counsel from others.

Read more. 

[johariswindow]

"To know that a person is a valedictorian is to know only that he or she is exceedingly good at achievement as measured by grades. It tells you nothing about how they react to the vicissitudes of life. And that is the problem: academic intelligence offers virtually no preparation for the turmoil- or opportunity- vicissitudes bring."

Professor Karen Arnold at Boston University

Reference: (1996) Goleman D., "Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ", Bloomsbury Publishing, p. 35-36

[queerzaza]

PART 1 I have a crush on a guy a work. Like majorly. I want to get to know him better but he only works with me for 1 hour a week. We work in the public sector so he is talking to public which gives me little chance for any small talk. He also isn't much of a talker (I think). I don't know how to get to know him better without appearing needy. He is sometimes there at lunch but sits with members of staff with the same job as him (I have a slightly different job so I feel a devide).

PART 2 I do try to sit with them at lunch. I have never been in a relationship so I'm very new to this. I also have the feeling that I don't think anyone will ever be attracted to me. He's perfect and I'm just well me. (I've grown up with anxiety and my self esteem can be pretty low) Sorry if this doesn't make much sense. I just feel like if I could have the chance to know him better we could atleast be friends. don't know how ask for his number without itout of place as we work in a busy job.

okay turtledove, first things first- he’s not perfect. no one is. the dude’s got flaws and keeping someone up on a pedestal is always going end up crashing and burning. not to say you shouldn’t date him, but remind yourself tht you’re both just people. maybe this will turn into a relationship, or a friendship, or both or neither, but there is no outcome which means you’re not worthy.

hopefully, you’re what he’s into romantically, but if not tht doesn’t mean no one will find you attractive. just cuz something hasn’t happened yet, does not mean tht it won’t. i mean it sounds like you’re pretty shy and reserved so maybe guys thought you were unavailable or uninterested? i dunno, but what i do kno is tht you can ask anyone out to coffee or lunch w/o it being a big deal.

just toss it out there in passing. say something like, you seem cool wanna have lunch at Sandwich shop tomorrow? or hey, you wanna meet up for coffee on tomorrow’s day off? be casual and if he’s interested he’ll say sure, if not, he’ll decline and you can go find a guy who is into you. 

dating is a lot of dead ends, as every relationship ends until you find the one tht doesn’t. ‘course... even tht one ends when someone dies, cuz everything is temporary, but i digress. you’ll never kno how any relationship will develop, but i think it’s better to kno someone’s not an option, tht to sit around wondering forever if something could’ve happened.

plus, there are literally thousands of ppl you can have positive relationships with. so, while i hope he’s it, remember, no one’s perfect, but there are ones who are perfect for you. wishing you all the good luck turtledove! keep your head up!