here, let’s go a little closer to controversy: i’m not generally attracted to fat people. now, i AM quite fat, and several of my friends are fat, and i think they’re objectively a+++. i’ve been known on many occasions to speak out for ‘fat’ not being a bad word, and against fatphobia. so what gives?
simple: seeing the shapes of bones and tendons is a big turn-on for me. collarbones, elbow knobs, the furrow of the spine, the movement of shoulderblades. when i can’t see that, a person’s sex appeal is much reduced.
by @sarajevski‘s logic, i’m therefore of the opinion that fat people – and thus, i, myself – are disgusting subhumans.
to complicate things, seebs, my spouse, was lanky when we got together, but has a squoodgy buddha belly now. did my attraction wane? well, maybe a bit; i no longer get those “holy shit am i seriously allowed to touch this divine being??” feelings. but the machinery of their hands still shows, which is a major source of boners, and besides, this is my spouse. i’m crazy about them for so many reasons. they could become as soft and puffy as me and i’d still be dtf.
i should hope it’s pretty obvious that, in my example, my attraction is a matter of taste, not politics, and there are exceptions based on emotional closeness.
now let’s translate this back into op’s framework.
some lesbians are attracted to things that are found in cis women. female genitalia is the obvious example, but perhaps also matters of waist/hip ratio, shoulder slope, and so forth. there may be a point in a trans woman’s transition when she becomes attractive to these lesbians, or there may not. some of the lesbians with this particular taste may, themselves, be trans women. you don’t have to be attracted to your own body type!
clearly, being attracted to, for instance, small, soft women with sloped shoulders and slender necks would exclude most trans women, but it’s also in no way a judgement of them. in fact, it doesn’t even require that you be the same type of woman you’re attracted to.
in short, not being someone’s type doesn’t mean you’re being discriminated against, nor have you been ‘friendzoned’, it’s not unfair or cruel, so don’t be a whiny entitled little baby about it.
