Vivere Militare Est

Academia side blog

[lelif]

on living a simple life

@cheruib referencing someday I'll love ocean vuong by ocean vuong// ?// ?// @ashstfu // @flowerais-archive // ?// the orange by wendy cope// love in the heart of everything; the correspondence between vladimir mayakovsky & lili brik, 1915-1930// @stuckinapril // winnie the pooh by a.a. milne// on my own, niall horan// @shhhitsfine // niall.breen.comics on instagram// @selfhealingmoments

[lelif]

On Love and Community

@princes-heels // ? // @inkskinned // mitski, my love mine all mine//@littlespoonsokka // @boymiffy // @2aminhouston // ? // @theviralwitch // @noodle // @criterioncollectiongirl // @fatsoupy // ? // @mjalti // george saunders, congratulations, by the way// @jb-blunk // @ponchopeligroso // @headspace-hotel // everything, everywhere, all at once(2022) //@cheruib // ? // ? // @tordenvejr

[stargirldotcom]

-despite everything, there is still love

@arthoesunshine/ @artsheila/ @daisies-on-a-cup/ @gayarsonist / @hjarta/ @yunawinter on twitter/ @bakwaaas/ @death-born-aphrodite/ anon on gentleearth/ @classicnymph on twitter

[nofearforthesettingsun]

Maybe it's so hard for us to love ourselves because we think of love as a feeling, and when we look at ourselves in the mirror we don't feel that spark. But Love is also a choice. You have to choose to continue to love someone 30 years into a marriage, and you have to choose to love the person in the mirror. All love is work but its also always worth the work

[thechekhov]

The popularity of the slow burn fic trope in the LGBTQ community is a direct reflection of the persisting need to side-step every direct confrontation of your romantic/sexual feelings for the sake of your own survival. This coping tactic of avoidance of clear communication, although hindering, becomes familiar and homely when it is continuously associated with stories we ourselves relate to and reflects our own experience of never feeling safe enough to fearlessly barge into relationships. In this essay I will

[cryptiboy]

hey op this is a really hot take but you’re right and you should scream it

[acadumbics]

Slow burn fics take the background trauma of our lives, where our need to hold back and hide our feelings and avoid direct communication inevitably led to a sense of missing out, either by losing out on time to be your whole and complete self with the person you love or by delaying and avoiding until it’s too late and they’ve met someone else or passed away, and soften it into something sweet and romantic. Slow burn fics take some of the worst and hardest parts of our romantic lives and offer it back to us with the eventual but guaranteed happy ending that we want so desperately for ourselves but that we so rarely and painfully receive in real life.

[owlyjules]

Third one!

realised I made an error on the window just as I was finishing it so sadly no way to correct it now BUT it still look not too bad.orz 

Those have been really fun and god warm up for me this week.:)

[famousyellowraincoat]

On a completely different note I have been reading some guy’s dissertation on homosexuality in ancient greece and. he has completely re-translated Plato’s Symposion to ‘do the homoerotic elements justice’. I don’t think I’ve ever enjoyed an academic text as much as this one. Pure, dry facts. On anal sex, art about anal sex, love between men, sex and love between men, art of sex and love between men, statistics of sex and love between men. I’ve been checking his sources and it is extremely satisfying. Literal hundreds of ancient dic pics are shown and/or referenced. The Power Of Eros, by Charles Hupperts. I warmly recommend it. 

[ganymedecatamitus]

Link it OP, don’t be a coward

[mermaidenmystic]

Leopold Schmutzler (Bohemian-born German painter, 1864-1941)

[protectingstucky]

when atla said “as long as I’m confident with who I am, it doesn’t matter what other people think” and when atla said “life happens wherever you are, whether you make it or not” and when atla said “the greatest illusion of this world is the illusion of separation” and when atla said “some friendships are so strong, they can even transcend lifetimes” and when atla said “the true heart can touch the poison of hatred without being harmed” and when atla said “hope is something you give yourself, that is the meaning of inner strength” and when atla said “love is a form of energy, and it swirls all around us” and when atla said “sometimes the best way to solve your own problems is to help someone else” and when atla said “love is brightest in the dark” and when atla said- 

[gaywrites]

“Straight and cisgender people are the most visible people on planet earth, not just because of their sheer numbers, but because their relationships, sexuality, and gender expressions are seen as the ‘normative’ expressions, and therefore, uplifted and repeated in every community around the country. Straight, cisgender people hold hands as they walk down the street without fear of getting accosted. They watch television shows and movies, listen to music, and read books that center on their relationships and gender expression. The majority of advertisements on billboards, websites, and television center on heterosexual and cisgender people. And our government is set up to privilege and favor heterosexual relationships above all others. In short, straight people flaunt their straightness all day, every day, in every part of this country. And despite the far-right narrative that the 'gays’ are taking over our country, for a majority of LGBT+ people in America, it is still incredibly uncomfortable at best, and dangerous at worst, to express ourselves in our communities. In a majority of states across our country, our rights and dignity are not fully protected by the law, and, in fact, there are fierce movements that seek to oppress and marginalize us and our relationships.”

— Why Pride? An Explanation For Straight People | Brandan Robertson for the Huffington Post 

[lovestrucksuggestion]

I'm not friends with you because you serve a purpose to me, I'm friends with you because I just like you. That is to say, there is no one who can do what you do for me because what you do for me is just be you

[boysaints]

we stood in the room with the ugly green wallpaper, the one you always hated because you said the walls looked like vomit, and i imagined so many saccharine romance novels taking place in the space of one second that it nearly killed me. i think i’m supposed to say something witty here, about the dip of your waist or the jut of your ribcage, but i’m still not sure if those things only exist in my imagination, that i didn’t dream you up like life support for my aching lungs. we stood in the room with the ugly green wallpaper, and you didn’t say you loved me. you just grinned and i thought of sappho and virginia woolf and richard siken and every poet that put pen to paper about three stupid words that just happened to mean far, far too much. you said kiss me and i thought maybe that was the most beautiful confession of them all, even if you had said it a million times before, because the laugh i let out that sounded more like a sob was mine. because the goddamn ugly green wallpaper and the way your eyes crinkled at the corners as you squinted at me in mock indignation and the way we danced all night were mine. the memory, the moment, the whole nostalgic, sappy, nightmare. we just stood there, smiling like two lovesick fools, and i thought, take that, world. 

-love letters, love letters. 

[ololygas]

[soracities]

Ramona Ausubel, How To Be a Writer: The Map Is the Territory

[enoughtohold]

on a sincere note though, you guys do know that 22 is not old and 30 is not ancient, right? like yeah by 30 you will hopefully have matured but hearing some of you talk like life ends at 30 is a little worrying. one day, not as far away as it may seem, you will be 30 and you will still be a person with value, you will probably still have a lot of the same interests, you will still use the internet, and you will still be you. you have your whole life ahead of you

[writingvenusian]

The saying my dad always uses to describe th stages of life is “30 to learn, 30 to earn, 30 to return.” This means that in the first 30 years, you’re figuring out how the world works, what the systems are, who you are, etc. During the second 30 years, you’re establishing yourself in the world and determining how you fit in with the people around you, usually also becoming more secure financially and relationally in the process. During the final 30 years of your life, you’re giving back to the world, usually by taking up a mentoring position in a family (or a bunch of adopted vagabonds/neighborhood kids/younger employees at your job, whatever suits you) and by using the resources you’ve gained during the second thirty years to support them and your community.

By age 30, you’ve literally only just started.

[hollowtones]

remember: ghosts are typically immune to physical Things, such as fists or spears, because their bodies are not made of things. experts suggest using un-things when facing them in battle, like an un-spear, or a mildly breezy afternoon, or Concepts

[sketchdeath]

*sucker punches a ghost with the feeling of longing*

[butterflypeaflowertea]

trees are very 🥺 because sometimes i’ll stand under the shade of a tree and look up at it and it’ll sway its branches about in the wind and i’m like oh my God i’m alive and YOU’RE alive. we are alive together and made up of the same starry stuff and standing right next to each other in this moment on this earth. do u feel it when i reach out and press my hand to your trunk? can you hear me? i think you’re so neat. and then the sunlight filters through its leaves just so and that lovely green color leaves me dazzled. it’s just very nice to be an alive thing next to a different sort of alive thing

[thoradvice]

you're important. you're in stories that people tell. people see you at the grocery store, school, the park and think how cool your hair looked. a passing driver admires your shirt. your coworker misses you when you don't have a shift together. your fourth grade teacher still thinks of you sometimes. you're significant in people's lives and you live in their stories that they tell to others. you impact them i meaningful ways, no matter how small. even if you feel alone, people notice you. you're more important than you believe.