OnYourLeft

Just an Aroace Agender trying to find their community :)

[team-gallavichh]

Intro post

Hey, I’m Alex

Last time I took the test, I got Infj

I don’t really wanna share my age on here, but I am between 14-17

I’m Aroace and Agender

She/her, they/them, and he/him pronouns are all acceptable

**I’m an undiagnosed autistic. Please keep that in mind if you dm me. I try to use emojis and tone tags but sometimes I forget**

Likes:

- Binging random shows on Netflix

- Baking

- Making friend ship bracelets/ keychains

- Reading

- All Alice Oseman books

- Marvel (not really the new stuff tbh)

My current favorite shows:

- Arcane

- Bojack Horseman

- Heartbreak High (2022)

- Game of thrones (haven’t finished it yet)

- Heartstopper

- Jessica Jones

My favorite Books by genres:

• Depressing realistic fiction: Every last word, Speak, Solitaire, and Radio Silence

• Romance: Letters to the lost, Tell me three things, Blackout, and Whiteout, Heartstopper

• Mystery: Stalking Jack the Ripper series, That’s not my name, and Tell me what really happened

• Classic: The picture of Dorian Gray, Animal farm, 1984, and To kill a mockingbird

• Miscellaneous: Loveless, Shatter me series, Our chemical hearts, The poet X, and How she died, how I lived, Radio silence

(I’m a bit of a book nerd if you couldn’t tell)

One fun fact about me is that I am currently trying to learn French

DNI: MAGA, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, or any hate towards any other marginalized groups, or anyone in general for that matter.

Thanks :)

[sapphicseymour]

we need more asexual, aromantic and agender representation and we need it STAT

[chronicintrovert]

heartstopper forever

july 17 ❤️

[n-alcuadrado]

I see you as you see yourself through all the books you read

[pessimist-and-insomniac]

Netflix post the fucking trailer 🙏🏼

I miss my children (all the heartstopper characters) ❤️‍🩹

[shadowstar745]

almost!!! ✨🏳️‍🌈💖

[pessimist-and-insomniac]

HEARTSTOPPER FOREVER TRAILER TOMORROW!!!!!! 💜💜💜🍂🍂🍂

[the-king-of-beans-offical]

homophobic people when they realize they bought m&ms instead of m&fs

[red-room-studi0]

NEW SCAM ALERT!!!

If you get mentioned under ANY blog that says they're Tumblr staff. DON'T FALL FOR IT!!!!!!

Reblogging this would help spread awareness to prevent ppl from getting their accounts hacked and such.

[team-gallavichh]

I love the way that the first 2 were described, I’ve never seen them that way before

[capricornluna-deactivated201810]

this blog hates donald trump

[pearlmarley]

Look how many people hate him. I’m pretty damn happy about that 😁😁😁😁😁😁

[aggressivetapdancing]

I’ve never reblogged something so fast

[parappa-raps]

This blog hates, donald trump!

[akitoran-vbs]

we yes WE are all reblogging this

[nihilisticentity]

WE ARE INDEED REBLOGGING

[shadowstar745]

✨💖

[letters-to-lgbt-kids]

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

If you accidentally find out someone is queer, what do you do? 

You didn’t mean to snoop but you overheard a conversation that wasn’t meant for your ears, or they forgot to close a tab on a shared device, or a third person told you behind their back - no matter how it happened, you now know something they didn’t tell you. How do you act in this situation? 

This question was asked to me recently, and I think it both has a clear simple answer and a lot of nuance. 

If we break it down to its bare bones, the situation is really just „I know someone’s secret, what do I do“ - and the answer to that is a clear „Nothing“. You do nothing with secret information that you obtained by accident. It was never yours in the first place! You are definitely not entitled to share it with anyone else (that part is hopefully obvious) and I’d also argue you don’t tell the person. 

The reason for that is simple: They didn’t tell you that information themselves - so there’s no indication that they currently wish to talk to you about this. It’s safest to assume they don’t want you to know. That doesn’t necessarily translate to „they don’t trust you“ or anything like that. They may need more time. They may not feel ready to tell anyone yet. They may want to explore their feelings without other input for now. They might just not want to talk about it. Take no personal offense, but assume that it’s not up for conversation as of now. 

If you had a painful time in the closet yourself, it’s natural that you might feel a desire to „save“ others. But it’s generally best to not make any unfounded assumptions on why someone is in the closet. Real people aren’t fictional characters, we shouldn’t assign them dramatic backstories. Do not automatically assume they are struggling with self-acceptance or need to be „rescued“ in any way. There’s a big difference between „They are depressed and lonely and don’t have anyone to help them“ and „They just prefer to not share this with me“ - do not conclude the former from the latter. 

That’s the clear answer - and here’s the nuance: 

Safety comes first. The way you found out matters here. If (for example) you found out because a third person has forwarded you a private coming out message or shared intimate pictures they sent them, then disregard everything I said above. Do assume that this is a potential safety risk for them and tell them (in a gentle and private conversation). Outing someone behind their back can be dangerous, they deserve to be made aware that this is happening. 

On the complete opposite end of „the way you found out matters“: if your friend never told you she’s a lesbian but puts up a small lesbian pride flag pin on her backpack, you do not need to pretend you don’t see it. Still do not automatically assume anything (she could just be an ally!) but consider that some people never come out in words. It’s okay to go „Cool pin!“ and leave it up to her if she wants to take the chance to say something. 

Same goes if your coworker never said „I am gay“ but puts up a wedding picture of him and another man on his desk. Some relationships (especially more superficial ones, like coworkers) do not require a coming out in the sense of sitting you down and going „I need to tell you something“. Obviously still don’t go around introducing him as your gay coworker to every customer now (that’d be inappropriate and overstepping) but it’d be silly to treat it as a deep dark secret here. You can safely assume that it’d be fine to say „What a beautiful picture“ in a small-talky way. 

What if it’s not quite as obvious as a pride flag or wedding picture but you feel like someone keeps dropping hints to gauge your reaction? You feel like they left that tab open on purpose to see if you’d say anything, you feel like maybe they wanted you to overhear that private phone call because they don’t know how else to tell you… that can be a tricky situation because firstly, you could still be wrong and secondly, it’s easy to overshoot your reaction. You’ll want to assure them you’re a safe person without scaring them off. Suddenly going on and on about how being gay is okay may have the opposite effect you want. Do not forcibly steer the conversation towards homosexuality if it doesn’t go there naturally, do not go „Is there anything you want to tell me?“ as that may put them on the spot. The safest approach is usually light and gentle: consider what would’ve made you feel safer back when you were in the closet. It can be something as simple as putting your own pride flag pin on your backpack or casually mentioning you’ll go to Pride this year! 

In any situation, the key is that you can’t „unlock“ a coming out. You don’t go investigate and you don’t pry that door open for them specifically - all you can do is gently signal that you’re a supportive, trustworthy person, so if anyone did want to come out, they wouldn’t have to do emotional acrobatics to figure out whether you’re safe first.

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

[team-gallavichh]

I’ve been on 🏳️‍🌈 TikTok a lot recently (cause it’s pride month) and keep seeing this trend where people show themselves before and after ‘receiving the blessing’ (realizing they were queer). Now im questioning if I’m on the aromantic spectrum or not. 😭

[ftmtftm]

Gender is like a playground game where the schoolyard bullies are in charge of constantly changing rules and if you don't follow their rules exactly at all times they're gonna kick the shit out of you.

It doesn't matter if you're a gnc masculine cis woman or a gnc feminine cis man — you're not playing the gender game right. It doesn't matter if you're a binary, gender conforming trans man or trans woman — you're still not playing the gender game right. It doesn't matter if you're a feminine, gnc binary trans man or a masculine, gnc binary trans woman — you're really not playing the gender game right. It especially doesn't matter if you're nonbinary or intersex — you somehow "decided" to play a completely different game and wow do the playground bullies hate that.

The only way to survive the gender game is to be a binary, cisgender, perisex, gender conforming, typically white person and EVEN THEN!!! You are under constant scrutiny by Da Rules of the gender game. The way leftist men will joke about right wing men being "low T" is someone getting shit kicked in the gender game. The way cis women will scrutinize each other wrt just exactly how much femininity and sexuality or lack of femininity and sexuality is acceptable is someone getting shit kicked in the gender game. The way people of color experience completely different modes of gender policing that an uncomfortable number of white people can't even conceptualize is someone getting shit kicked in the gender game.

There is no way to win the gender game.

[reasons-to-not-end-it]

REASONS TO NOT END IT:

"currently my will to live is set on the third into the spider verse movie"

-anonymous

#960

[impuls1vity-is-a-virtue]

“I don’t want people to be worried about me. There’s nothing to worry about. I don’t want people to try and understand why I’m the way I am, because I should be the first person to understand that. And I don’t understand yet. I don’t want people to interfere. I don’t want people in my head, picking out this and that, permanently picking up the broken pieces of me.” - Solitaire, Alice Oseman