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hi im ashley | she/her and it/its | 22 | aotearoa | transfem | touhou poser | bass player | mentally ill loser | mutuals feel free to dm

[techsupporthotline]

ashley patchnote: im now trying out using it/its in addition to she/her after it was revealed to me in a dream two or three weeks ago. while i have no memory of the dream itself, i strongly remember waking and knowing for a fact i needed it/its because "it's literally cutes". there is/was no deeper reason

[sononono33]

[kirakirakira2137]

nice natie!!!!

[yorickless]

to the anon who just sent me a link to this proton drive folder I am not publishing that because I don't think you would want the link publicly posted on my blog and also I am not going to watch these

[yorickless]

"I want to like and reblog her"

[moo-rgkg]

[techsupporthotline]

every time i get misunderstood and then simply let it happen and look stupid rather than spending 10 minutes testing the other person's patience by correcting their misconception, i feel so fucking proud of myself. it feels like im not autistic anymore

[ponett]

[touhoudoujinsooc]

Source: Yude Pea Sagashimono wa Nan Desu ka

[yota-tsukino]

霧雨魔理沙 | MarisaKirisame

2024 100 x 148mm pencil photoshop

[autogynophelia]

A lot of transphobia has this underlying assumption that people who transition are a random sample from their AGAB. Like, if you imagine a world where you took all the 10-year-old "boys" in your country and randomly selected 1% of them to go on to transition later in life, then that world would be essentially the same as this one.

And that assumption is useful to transphobes because it means they can uncritically extend properties of the AGAB group to the subset who transitions. E.g. they will say AMAB kids are likely to have behaved like X or experienced Y in their youth, therefore trans women are likely to have behaved like X or experienced Y in their youth. And they can say this without ever checking if it's true about trans women, because if everyone knows it's true of cis boys, they will assume that extension to trans women.

But like, if you took down the details of every 30-year-old trans woman right now, then went back in time 20 years, and studied that group of 10-year-olds, you would find they already had properties that differed from the 10-year-old-AMAB average in 2006. Perhaps they would be a little quieter, perhaps they would have a couple more female friends, perhaps they'd have fewer friends in general, perhaps they would have more anxiety, perhaps they would have more depression. Perhaps none of these and something else, idk.

But, the point is, people don't just decide to transition *at random*, there is a whole history of life experience in each trans girl leading up to that realisation "I am trans" and that decision "I should do something about it", and that common history of all these kids would be reflected in some group average differences from the AGAB cohort even long before that realisation took place.

And this is what makes "male socialisation" rhetoric so frustrating. Because the very fact of having all the life history that led up to your realisation that you were trans, the life history that *caused* that realisation, that very history marks you as someone with an atypical social experience compared to your AGAB average.

Literally if you had to select the 1% of AMAB people *least* likely to have had a typical "male socialisation", it would be the ones who come out of that experience thinking "you know what, I'm actually a different gender to all these men". And yet it's trans women who are tarred with the brush of "male socialisation" more than any other group.

[puppygirlarmpitsweat]

little miss memory issues has a really funny joke she wants to tell you

[moetivation]

[japanese-movie-god-at-yahoo]

[ingridgal]

the purple bassist from bocchi of rock is a kind warrior with a strong soul. just as i fight monsters and brigands, she battles alcoholism driven by the evil generals of transmisogyny and capitalism. plus she's got her feet out which is cute.

[mydogtige]

Hands that never touch by kojiro on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/kojiro_337/p/DPtVFF0j8AO/

[ph-cutie]

Hey, I’m just reaching out to people on Tumblr. You’ve probably heard of Jesus and God, but have you ever reached out to Jesus for problems in your life? Big or small. Not to make you uncomfortable, but did you know sin (in your life and other people’s lives) can really hurt you, it make feel like there is a void that is never satisfied. That void could be called a “God sized hole.” Sin sucks and not just in a cookie cutter way, but in a way that it feels like there is a decay within a person. That can be a lot to take in, but I hope it is good food for thought. I hope you’re having an awesome day!! 💕

i got a god sized hole alright