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A question for my gay friends

Today while at work, a coworker outside of my department walked past, and once he was gone, I said in an aside to one of the ladies that I work with, “He’s hot.” She gave me the oddest look and said “He’s gay.”

…Okay?

I was aware of that fact. That doesn’t really change that he’s an attractive man, and it’s not like I was asking if she thought he would date me. Can I not find him an aesthetically pleasing person even if we’re not sexually compatible? I mean, I’m straight and never sparked in any other way, but I’m not embarrassed to say “Holy cow, that woman is sexy”.

Is it odd for me to say it so openly? Is it offensive for me to do so? I mean, I’m not trying to hit on them, and not expecting anything from them. If you’re attractive, I don’t feel ashamed of telling you so unless I feel it will make you uncomfortable.

tempestwakener

This post aged so strangely after coming out as Bi and several years after being married to my wife.

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If you ask yourself “Would Gomez Addams treat me this way?” And the answer is no, move tf on from that situation.

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Also, consider the option of running a rapier through the guts of said situation.

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Everything Is Awful and I’m Not Okay: questions to ask before giving up

Are you hydrated? If not, have a glass of water.

Have you eaten in the past three hours? If not, get some food — something with protein, not just simple carbs. Perhaps some nuts or hummus?

Have you showered in the past day? If not, take a shower right now.

If daytime: are you dressed? If not, put on clean clothes that aren’t pajamas. Give yourself permission to wear something special, whether it’s a funny t-shirt or a pretty dress.

If nighttime: are you sleepy and fatigued but resisting going to sleep? Put on pajamas, make yourself cozy in bed with a teddy bear and the sound of falling rain, and close your eyes for fifteen minutes — no electronic screens allowed. If you’re still awake after that, you can get up again; no pressure.

Have you stretched your legs in the past day? If not, do so right now. If you don’t have the spoons for a run or trip to the gym, just walk around the block, then keep walking as long as you please. If the weather’s crap, drive to a big box store (e.g. Target) and go on a brisk walk through the aisles you normally skip.

Have you said something nice to someone in the past day? Do so, whether online or in person. Make it genuine; wait until you see something really wonderful about someone, and tell them about it.

Have you moved your body to music in the past day? If not, do so — jog for the length of an EDM song at your favorite BPM, or just dance around the room for the length of an upbeat song.

Have you cuddled a living being in the past two days? If not, do so. Don’t be afraid to ask for hugs from friends or friends’ pets. Most of them will enjoy the cuddles too; you’re not imposing on them.

Do you feel ineffective? Pause right now and get something small completed, whether it’s responding to an e-mail, loading up the dishwasher, or packing your gym bag for your next trip. Good job!

Do you feel unattractive? Take a goddamn selfie. Your friends will remind you how great you look, and you’ll fight society’s restrictions on what beauty can look like.

Do you feel paralyzed by indecision? Give yourself ten minutes to sit back and figure out a game plan for the day. If a particular decision or problem is still being a roadblock, simply set it aside for now, and pick something else that seems doable. Right now, the important part is to break through that stasis, even if it means doing something trivial.

Have you seen a therapist in the past few days? If not, hang on until your next therapy visit and talk through things then.

Have you been over-exerting yourself lately — physically, emotionally, socially, or intellectually? That can take a toll that lingers for days. Give yourself a break in that area, whether it’s physical rest, taking time alone, or relaxing with some silly entertainment.

Have you changed any of your medications in the past couple of weeks, including skipped doses or a change in generic prescription brand? That may be screwing with your head. Give things a few days, then talk to your doctor if it doesn’t settle down.

Have you waited a week? Sometimes our perception of life is skewed, and we can’t even tell that we’re not thinking clearly, and there’s no obvious external cause. It happens. Keep yourself going for a full week, whatever it takes, and see if you still feel the same way then.

You’ve made it this far, and you will make it through. You are stronger than you think.

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Always reblog

Music Madness

Does anyone else ever have a really obscure movie song randomly pop up and get stuck in your head, just...cycling incessantly.

And you're talking to your brain, like,

"Just stop. Stop the madness."

(And it's not even the whole song! More often than naught, it's only snippets!)

catchymemes

crossed-quills

OH! This is the first time I’ve seen a picture for it!

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this is my single favorite halloween post in all of time and history

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Within.

Notes: literally just wrote this bc i wanted a) a different perspective on humanity that data’s never really afforded and b) someone to ask before touching him. Rating: very PG, dw. Pairing: if you squint, Data / reader (female) Word count: 2,193

In Spot’s ideal world, there’s cat food and Data and absolutely nothing else. You watch the orange tabby paw at the loose string of your sweater. Her claw catches in the loop and she pulls until the fabric bunches. Moving to untangle her, she sees you as the enemy and her ears go flat. She hisses and jumps back, dragging you along.

“Stop, Spot, stop!” you exclaim, reaching for her paw and trying to calm her down at the same time. The cat has none of it and retreats to the other side of the couch. The string snaps as the doors of Data’s room open with a soft noise.

Now nervous, Spot jumps down off the couch and pads off to hide under the bed. Data walks in, his expression more concerned than curious. His eyes follow the damnable cat as she scurries away.

Keep reading

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Making Home Videos Of The Avengers

Tony: Is this thing on?

Y/N: Yes! Now would you back up, you’re fogging up the lens.

Thor: Should we smile, Lady Y/N?

Y/N: You don’t HAVE to do anything. I was just making a home video so act natural

*Camera pans over to Clint striking a pose whilst lying down*

Clint: Paint me like one of your French girls

Natasha: To be fair, that’s not out of character for him

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human: *is heating up food*

alien: why are you doing that?

human: you see i want the particles in my food to vibrate at just the right frequency

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Human: *is eating ice cream*

alien: wait you forgot to make that one vibrate!

human: well, you see, not with this food

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This one is already vibrating at he desired frequency, but if it starts to vibrate at a higher frequency I lock it back in the cold box.

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Human: *just reheated pizza in the oven*

Other human: *is eating a slice of the same pizza, but cold*

Alien: *exasperated sputtering*

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Human: shots! shots! shots!

Alien: this liquid has negligible nutritional value and, furthermore, contains some molecules that I believe are poisonous to your species.

Human: …look, sometimes we just like to gather in social groups and disorient ourselves

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bucky:

me:

tempestwakener

There is no lie.

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Hello! A lot of you have been asking me where and how I’ve learn multiple languages and well, after a few hours of digging through my browser history and bookmarks, I was able to collect all of these resources. I have personally used all of these, so I can assure you they are useful! If there is something wrong with a website or a link, please let me know. Also, if you have any questions or if you want a learning buddy, my ask box is open. (I speak English and Spanish. I’m learning Korean, German, Japanese, Chinese, Portuguese, Italian, and Esperanto)

Note: Learning a new language requires a lot of dedication, more than you actually think! Especially if you’re learning multiple languages at the same time. It isn’t impossible, but it will take time. And by time I mean months and/or years! So please, be patient. Take your time. Don’t rush. Keep in mind that you will mess up and that’s okay. Practice as much as you can. Practice out loud. Talk to yourself if you can. It doesn’t matter if people think you’re crazy. They won’t be thinking the same when you become a polyglot, so don’t mind them. This is for you and your future.

Get started:

Everything listed below is FREE! Some sites do require you to sign up, but that’s for you to keep track of your own process.

Tips to get you started

Language Hacking tips (blog)

More language hacking tips (blog)

The Polyglot Project (Library with foreign books that lets you translate while reading)

How to Learn Any Language

Effective Language Learning

Ankidroid (flashcard maker)

Multiple languages, one website

Duolingo (Latin American Spanish, French, German, Brazilian Portuguese, Italian, Dutch, Irish, Danish, Swedish, Turkish, Norwegian (Bokmål), Ukrainian, and Esperanto)

BBC Languages (40 languages)

Learn A Language (18 languages)

Conjuguemos (French, German, Italian, Latin, Portuguese, Spanish)

L-lingo (21 languages)

101languages (167 languages)

Languagepod101 (31 languages)

Foreign Services Institute (44 languages)

My Languages (95 languages)

Surface Languages (43 languages)

Lingualia (Spanish)

Linguanaut (16 languages)

OmniGlot (All languages [basic info for some of them])

Memrise (Various languages) (flashcard system)

Livemocha (Various languages)

Polyglotclub

Sharedtalk

Interpals (specify in your profile you only look for language exchange because there can be some creeps in this one)

Couchsurfing

Babbel

Specific Languages

Korean:

Learn to read Korean in 15 minutes! - Really helpful as well

Learnkoreanlp - Focuses on grammar

k-is4korean

Talktomeinkorean

Learn-korean

korean-flashcards - Focuses on vocabulary

Easytolearnkorean

Korean.go.kr/ - Focuses on pronunciation

Lang-8 - Community to correct your entries

Dongsa - Conjugations for verbs

Howtostudykorean- EXTREMELY helpful when it comes to learning hangul and writing structure!

hangulpractice - This blog has some useful posts.

letstteok-korean

Talktomeinkorea (YouTube channel)

fluentkorean

sweetandtasty

seoulistic - For culture lessons

GenkiKorean

Korean Word Game

English-Korean Vocabulary Quizzes

Hangul Keyboard - This is also EXTREMELY helpful with Hangul/romanization. It also converts any romanized syllables into hangul

Korean - Reddit threat

Chinese/Mandarin:

Hackingchinese

Chinese-tools - Pretty helpful with pronunciation.

Chinese Open courseware

Chinese Language - Reddit threat

Chinese Textbook

Chineasy

Learn Mandarin

Chinese Hacks

yoyochinese

How can I learn Chinese

Why is Chinese so damn hard?

Japanese:

Learn Japanese I / II - YouTube

Guidetojapanese

Free Japanese lesson

Japaneseclass.jp

thejapanesepage

Japanesepod101

Tofugu

Erin’s Challenge!

Jplang

Yesjapan

Marugoto - Includes culture lessons

Kana Invaders - Fun game for learning Kana

Another great masterpost for Japanese - So many resources!!!

Esperanto:

Note: I did a research and supposedly Esperanto is an easy-to-learn language that helps you with other languages.

Esperantofre

Esperanto “library”

Esperanto Grammar

Esperanto (Duolingo)

German:

Learn German Online

German Language Guide

Mission Berlin - Mystery adventure game

Basic German

Deutsch Lernen

Slow German

Kids’ Games - For vocabulary

Italian:

MIT Open Courseware

Italian Language Guide

Italian Grammar

Italian For Beginners - YouTube

Latin:

Some Latin grammar

Latin Course - YouTube

Portuguese:

Oneness

Ta Falado

Portuguese (Duolingo)

French:

Learn French Guide

Coffee Break French

University of Texas: Francais interactif

Podcastfrancaisfacile

French Language Guide

Lingopolo/french

Le Journal en français facile

News in Slow French

Francolab

Cliffs Notes

Native French Speech

French Podcast

Spanish:

Spanish - About.com

@spanishskulduggery

Study Spanish

Cliffs Notes

Destinos

One Minute Spanish

One Minute Spanish (Latin America focused)

Thai:

Learn Thai Podcast

Woman Learn Thai

Let’s Talk Thai

Thai 101

Lingopolo/thai

Arabic:

Books to Learn Arabic

Mandinah Arabic

Arabic Verbs (PDF)

al3arabiya

Arabic Pronouns (PDF)

Arabic Alphabet / Also Here / And Here!

Arabic For Language Exchange

Peace Corps

Hindi:

A Door Into Hindi

Learning Hindi

NYU Hindi Course

Quillpad - Great for typing

Namaste Dosti

SU Hindi Course

ispeakhindi

Hindi Script

Vietnamese:

VietnamesePod101

Survival Phrases

seasite.niu.edu

Learn Vietnamese Online

Greek:

Some Greek Grammar (New Testament)

Romanian:

Rolang

One Minute Romanian

Welsh:

Say Something in Welsh

Welsh Vocab

Dutch:

Lingopolo/dutch

Learn Dutch

Russian:

Speak Russian

Russian Alphabet

Taste of Russian

Master Russian

Russian Open Courseware

Russian Handwriting

Swedish:

Klartext

SwedishLingQ

Survival Phrases

That’s it. That’s all I have right now. I’ll try to search for more and will keep updating this list! If you have a request for a specific language, just send me an ask. Have fun and good luck!

genghis-cocks

I wanna add to this!! if you’re learning ASL, the website aslpro.com tends to be really reliable and gives you the signs most used by the community (but signs can vary depending on your location). This is only vocabulary, though. As far as grammar, special signs and facial expression, there are tons of Deaf tutors online, and your local community college probably has an ASL class. BUT if you don’t feel like spending money, using English grammar with signs (minus little words like is, and, or; when separating thoughts, you shift your shoulders) us generally understood by the Deaf community, and you can make Deaf friends who can help you with grammar.

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Visit Original Link

Shinjiro Aragaki comforting you (❁´‿`❁)*✲ﾟ*

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FUCK YES

saiyanheretic

There’s ‘black comedy’ and then there’s M*A*S*H.

randomgifgirl

always reblog MASH, it deserves more on tumblr

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Always reblog War is war and hell is hell

keeper-of-the-flames

Fun fact, the DVD box sets have an option turn off the laugh track and it makes it a much more somber and enlightening social commentary. Cause it may be set in the Korean War, but it’s really about the Vietnam War.

elthara

I feel like M*A*S*H is one of those series that never actually goes out of date. Everyone should see it.

mischief-and-tea-by-the-sea

No, M*A*S*H never does go out of date, and unlike a lot of shows from the 60s up, you don’t sit there cringing because “How did I like that? How was that funny?” like with so many other TV shows that are embarrassingly dated. You watch it, and the humor, the comments, everything is still, sadly, relevant. I still watch the reruns. I was born and bred on this show, and I’ve always watched the reruns, and it always remains a good punch and a good punchline.

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Can you write an imagine about a girl who’s plus sized and gets bullied in high school, and grows up and later on works for STARK industries but still gets picked on and harassed but Bucky comes in and protects her and reassures her and later asks her out/confesses his feelings for her?

There is always quite a few along these lines in the Soft Thighs Series, i’ve listed below the ones I feel fit this:

Stop Talking- Bucky rarely speaks around the Tower…until that moment. Until you need him to.

Just A Joke?-Buck protects and comforts you after someone grabs you and laughs at your weight.

Careless Words- Suggested by anon: You overhear some negativity directed your way in the Tower and Bucky makes sure you’re okay.

They Were Wrong- Suggested by anon: They always told you you weren’t desirable or lovable, Bucky wants to show just how wrong they were.

Family Shouldn’t Hurt-Suggested by anon: Your brother hasn’t changed much, but Bucky’s there this time.

The Person Who Steps In- High School AU: Bullying doesn’t need to be physical for it to hurt. It doesn’t need to be clever or smart. It just needs to be.

The whole of the Soft Thighs Series can be found by the aforementioned link :)