having some thoughts about the fact that obi-wan is just as violent, intense, dangerous and insane as say,,, anakin, or quinlan, or any other unhinged jedi - but he chooses to not act with aggression first, he tries option a, b, c and d before that, which is why he is the better jedi, and the more threatening jedi. there are so many examples of obi-wan being scary and menacing, the difference is he hides it better.
he chooses restraint in his life, but-----
he destroyed grievous without flinching and made a snide little remark after, smirking
he left anakin to burn, slowly and painfully in the lava
from wildspace: "Kenobi had made of himself a deliberate target... No fear. No doubt. Instead, a supreme confidence. Curving his lips, the merest hint of a smile... Dazed, Bail shook his head. 'He's enjoying this. He's enjoying this? He really is mad.' Kenobi's lips parted in a fierce grin and he focused his deflections on the weaker machine." smiling mid-battle?! normal behaviour, im sure.
from wildspace again: "No. He'd always needed to be doing something. Making things happen. Seizing the moment by the throat." THROAT!? OBI-WAN there are many other ways that could have been explained.
from wildspace again again: “... I tumbled into a firebeetle pit.” The faintest of wry smiles. He had himself well in hand again. "It must have been … terrible.” “Not at all,” Kenobi said politely. “It was hilarious.” No, you nearly got eaten alive. But he didn’t say it. He wished now he’d kept his mouth shut. No wonder Kenobi had come out of his trance screaming. “Fortunately there was no harm done,” Kenobi continued briskly.”
his ability to completely disconnect, there is some benefit in being able to compartmentalise, but there are many times when he just comes across as completely cold, eg, clone wars gambit: stealth, the constant frustration and dismissal of anakin's slave-history influencing his choices and feelings about situations, and his annoyance at qui-gon for choosing a child with a traumatic history for him to train. there comes a time where compartmentalisation becomes detachment, that is probably the line obi-wan.
the way he can step back to see the bigger picture is a terrifying ability, it takes a strong amount of emotional control and disconnect to be able to dismiss suffering in front of you to analyse a larger scenario.
he is known as the negotiator, because of his ability to manipulate and deceive to obtain the goals he wants, yes he can be diplomatic when he needs to be, or desires to be, but ultimately, he knows how to use his words and his deceptively harmless demeanor to get exactly what he wants.
what about the quote from the empire strikes back: "Yoda: Much anger in him, like his father. Obi-Wan Kenobi: Was I any different when you taught me?" hello?! we know obi-wan was a nightmare as a padawan, do we really think he just 'got better'? no, he got better at hiding it. he chooses restraint every time because the alternative is too terrifying to unleash. he knows what he’s capable of, he’s seen it. qui-gon saw it. qui-gon knew obi-wan was capable of taking on someone as dangerous and powerful as anakin, because he knew obi-wan could be just as powerful and dangerous, and he was right.
he is a flirt, he is a tease, he knows he is gorgeous, he knows he has an allure about him, and he USES IT, he exploits it, it manipulates people with it, he plays and toys with people, not because he is being malicious or salacious, but because he has these gifts, so why not use them when the time calls for it?
in the obi-wan tv, the fact that even after 10 years of disconnecting himself from the force, and no longer practicing with his lightsaber, his raw abilities and power were able to outmatch vader, who had been both practicing his skills and had tapped into the ferocity of the dark side - OP as hell. and that is the point, he IS OP AS HELL, but he exercises a significant amount of restraint and compassion.
he’s the Jedi who can smile while ordering a battalion to hold the line, he’ll bow respectfully to an enemy before slicing them in half.
he’ll soothe you with gentle words, only to manipulate your choices in ways you won’t realize until it’s too late. obi-wan is a weapon wearing the mask of a peacekeeper.
he chooses peace first. he chooses compassion first. but he can go further than anyone else when he’s forced to. obi-wan can kill you and mourn you at the same time. thats what makes him so dangerous. because unlike anakin, he won’t break when he does the unthinkable. he’ll live with it. he’ll ache and grieve and still do it again tomorrow, because it’s what the republic needs. that is his duty. because it’s what the jedi ask. and that is why he represents the perfect jedi, because he will always prioritise these things first, he makes the conscious - and harder - choice to embody the jedi teachings, even when it would be easier to throw them out the window.