that's what kent said

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[thatswhatkentsaid]

I just tell myself not to think of you every time you slip into my mind. It works.

[mamodartist]

Finally grabbed some photos of this mostly healed ear project (rook is healing). All the major components of this project are from @anatometal. Thank you so much for knocking it out of the park with the special order 4 point piece and all the other amazing pieces. You guys are awesome! @safepiercing

[thatswhatkentsaid]

Thanks so much @anatometal for being awesome & @mamodartist for the amazing piercings!! ❤️❤️❤️ my ear!!!!

[myboyfriendpetebuttigieg]

White dudes: I don’t know who’s worse: Hillary or Trump.

LGBTQ people: Trump is.

Black people: Trump is.

Undocumented immigrants: Trump.

Muslims: It’s Trump.

Women: Trump duh.

White dudes: *shoves head deeper into ass* I just… don’t… know…

[ladysomnambule]

Nope. I’m a woman, they’re both awful. Neither deserve to be president. :|

[roachpatrol]

being president isn’t a special award you get by being a wonderful person who’s never done anything wrong. being president is a job two people are trying to be hired for. one of them is the endorsed candidate of literally actual nazis, and the KKK, and vladmir putin, and will gain access to nuclear weapons if appointed president. his running mate is very open about wanting to roll back rights for women to turn of the last century or earlier. he himself has failed at every single business venture he’s managed and has been sued repeatedly for sexual assault. he’s being sued again this month for raping a thirteen year old.  

the other candidate is a successful politician, who’s got a proven track record of voting very progressively for the times she’s been in office, who openly regrets many of her earlier and more racist positions and statements, and who is working to make amends. she’s lied significantly less than most of her peers. she listens to her constituency way more. she’s almost exactly as progressive as bernie sanders, and has gotten a lot more done than him too, while being a woman under constant investigation for corruption and wrong-doing, neither of which was ever found.  

if they’re both awful, clinton is awful like a stubbed toe and trump is awful like disembowelment. and one of them is going to be president. suck it the fuck up. 

[thatswhatkentsaid]

I tried to kill myself two weeks ago I'm still struggling but I don't want to die I had to dump my girlfriend I still miss you somehow I'm sad.

[craigslits]

[radfem-chronicles]

Transwoman accused of rape violently misgendered in press.

Picture from here Alexander Doering and Jeremiah Horsfall-Steinbrenner of Frontenac Missouri have been accused of luring a woman to their home under the false pretense of repairing her computer, th…

Alexander Doering and Jeremiah Horsfall-Steinbrenner of Frontenac Missouri have been accused of luring a woman to their home under the false pretense of repairing her computer, threatening her with torture and then raping her and recording a video of her rape.

One of the accused rapists is identified in the press as a man named Alexander Doering. This appears to be a gross violation of Doering’s gender identity. Alyssa Renée Horsfall-Steinbrenner is on Facebook and identifies themselves as “she”, living in Frontenac Missouri and “In a relationship with Jeremy Horsfall-Steinbrenner“.

[impuresideblog-blog]

A rapist, “violently misgendered”, men like this are disgusting.

[thatswhatkentsaid]

Unpopular opinion who gives a fuck if they are misgendered they raped someone they deserve to be tortured and killed

[officialhome]

reblog if u are currently A Mess

[thievinggenius]

Tattoo done by Miryam Lumpini.

[jettestblack-deactivated2017080]

This is the first time I’ve seen color tattoos on dark skin that actually look vibrant and pigmented!!!!!

[dinosaurxswag]

Once I was talking to a dark skinned lady who told me that she was jealous of my pasty skin because she wants color tattoos, which her artist said wasn’t possible with her skin tone. I sent her to mine, and he proceeded to go off about how dark skin accepts greens, yellows, and white beautifully, and that her previous artist just lacked the skills to use those 3 colors as highlights to make other colors pop more. If you are dark skinned and your tattoo artist says you can’t have bright colors, find a new one.

[thepoppybear]

Re-blogged again for that added text!!!

[enoughtohold]

“butch/femme dynamics were modeled after 1950s gender roles” ok first of all rude but friend, butch/femme dynamics PREDATE 1950s gender roles

[psych2go]

We assume others show love the same way we do — and if they don’t, we worry it’s not there.

Rumi (via psych-facts)

[thatswhatkentsaid]

I allowed myself to miss you this morning as I was waking up, smoking my bong with the kitten. I'm with someone new and I don't do that anymore. I hear you are moving to New York. I wonder if I will ever see you again.

[temp0raryurl-deactivated2014051]

Anonymously ask me, "Would you..."

[thatswhatkentsaid]

thanks @autostraddle

[dailybunny]

Is Bunny Even Real?

More at today’s Daily Bunny post! Thanks, Denise! Denise writes, “My current foster bunny. Starting weight: 4oz! We’re guessing he’s an Astrex Mini Rex given the curly fur and features. Caution: death by cute is a real possibility here.”

[advicefromsurvivors]

Being abused can seriously affect your ability to distinguish between “not obviously pleased” and “obviously displeased” because abusers go from Neutral to Hostile for absolutely no discernible reason, and eventually you start worrying that everyone is going to be like that and you start feeling this urge to make absolutely sure that the people you actually care about aren’t mad or upset, because to you, “there’s no evidence that they’re not angry” is the same as “there’s evidence that they are angry”

[solitarelee]

I have never heard this put into words before but it explains so much. Even as a kid I was constantly scared my mom was mad just when she was making a neutral expression cause she could go from 0 to 60 with no other warning. 

[ancient-string]

Omg I didn’t realise. I do this. I’m constantly checking that people are ok and not mad.

Because that’s what my dad did. 0-rage monster in a second.

[anguisettesnakedtruth]

Hyper vigilance over other people’s emotional state because of previous / repeated / continuous exposure to volatile people is seriously just…the most exhausting, fucked up, draining, relationship-fucking, driving-yourself-mad thing and it is so rarely explained well or talked about at all and I’m SO GLAD this post is going around.  If someone is even slightly less than being 100% positive/happy/approving of me I pick up on it right away, even if it has absolutely nothing to do with me, and I fret and stress and am on edge. Which is so unfair because other people are allowed to have feelings and they’re allowed to express those feelings and it’s almost never about me anyway.  And then trying to explain that you expect them to be volatile assholes when they’ve never shown any evidence of being that way, and trying to say that it’s not personal, is almost impossible. Because it’s always taken personally and how can they not, really? 

[gwschoolhiatus-deactivated20161]

I wonder what the discourse looks like to people who don’t have this

[audreynical2]

The fucked up thing is that at least at the beginning this hypervigilence helped me at jobs.

I quickly became attuned to the moods of bosses and learned to anticipate their needs and did more/extra to keep them happy. They loved it. But sooner or later they’d learn they could take advantage of me because of it.

[ummzaksbest-deactivated20210928]

Even though I’ve never lifted a hand to my child, I find myself explaining my feelings a LOT, because I never want my child to think, “I’ve done wrong and I don’t know what or how to fix it.” In the top ten most frequent expressions around here, “I’m not angry at you, I’m just tired/worried/in pain/concentrating/in dire need of coffee” has a regular spot. 

[audreynical2]

^^^that’s awesome! A lot of parents treat kids as if they don’t deserve an explanation or apology which is very confusing when the kids are still learning to articulate emotions.

[uristmcdorf]

I have some friends who tend to be overly-quick to apologise for things that aren’t their fault, or to need to check in that things are cool. I dunno their past, and it’s not my business unless they want it to be. But I try to make a habit of being extra-clear about my happiness and appreciation of them. I don’t really know if I’m doing it right, though. Anyone able to point me towards any resources for helping make people with these sort of issues feel more comfortable and less worried? It takes all of a second to say something reassuring and I try to be mindful for people in other circumstances when I know something is particularly important to them. (I mean, I really appreciate it when people anticipate and do low-key things to ease my anxiety, or speak to me plainly and without pretense to help with my occasional social-skills issues, so it’s only fair to do the same in return)

[advicefromsurvivors]

Hi there. I’m the originator of this post, and I’d say you’re on the right track. I’d suggest a few things, though.

If you’re in a neutral mood, make it clear that you’re not angry, upset, or unhappy; you’re merely feeling sort of “whatever” and that has nothing to do with your friend.

If you’re tired, busy, or otherwise in a situation that will leave you giving short answers, explain it. “Sorry I’m giving such short answers, it’s been a long day and I’m pretty tired,” or “Sorry I’ve been giving you one-word replies. I’ve been working on a project today and that’s kept me really occupied.”

If you’re upset about something else and you’re comfortable sharing it, it could help. “I’m probably coming across as a little angry today. I got to my car and there was a parking ticket on it, and I’ve just been frustrated all day.”

If you and your friend(s) are close enough for it not to be awkward, you could just say something outright. “I’ve noticed that you apologize a lot and that you check in often to make sure I’m not upset. If there’s something I could do to help alleviate that worry or make you more comfortable, you can tell me.”

[wordsnquotes]

If I ever let you down, it’s not because I don’t love you. It’s because I don’t love myself.

William Chapman (via wordsnquotes)

[cosmicwizdom]

Psychologically, one of the most devastating things in life is when someone you care about gives up on you.

- unknown (via quotelounge)