The FUN in dysfunctional

"Main" blog for our (very recently discovered) system. Originally the hosts kin blog. Still in the process of setting everything up. Check out @theabsoluteshifter @one-eggx @everyones-evil-alter @not-getting-paid-enough for some of our alters' blogs. They don't have a lot on them yet though. We are not endogenic but are fiercely pro endo and will die on that hill.

[median-culture-is]

median culture is 99% of the facets having no name or specific role and just Existing without any solidified identity at all, thus making it nearly impossible to tell when a switch happens or who i am at all times. not helped by the fact there's 0 communication in here. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

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[median-culture-is]

median culture is being forever jealous of systems who can tell their headmates apart </3

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[gnomesofgeroma]

something that worries me very slightly about modern willogenic spaces is the “everybody get more plural NOW!!” attitude, which is culturally pretty new, and while it does promote self-acceptance and highlight the positive sides of an experience that isn’t always positive, it can still have some negative effects on both endo + traumagen systems interested in willomancy. talking about that isn’t an anti endo thing but just a pro-endo-wanting-endo-spaces-to-be-good thing btw. in this essay i will

back in the days when we went through syscovery the attitude was not “have an idea for a headmate? fuck it, make them now!” but “if you’re going to create a headmate, you need to be absolutely 100% certain beforehand that you’re going to respect them regardless of who they turn out to be & whether or not that aligns with your expectations, even and especially if they’re a fictive who ends up nothing like the character they’re based on and/or completely disconnects from them, 100% certain you’re going to be able & willing to give them time in the body [if switching is possible, and back in those days it was heavily desired and encouraged for those who couldn’t switch to build the skill], 100% certain you’re going to spend the necessary time and emotional energy engaging with them, fleshing them out until they can figure out the rest, interacting with them even when you get no responses back for hours, days, potentially many months without giving up and allowing them to dissipate out of frustration, 100% certain you can handle the new existential ramifications of your own new existence as a headmate,” etc etc etc. if you were flippant about thoughtform creation you would get downvoted or disliked into oblivion, some of the comments would be calling you empathyless, akin to a murderer if your thoughtform dissipated because of you

there was definitely a time when willomancy was seen as risky, a HUGE life decision that should be given the same consideration as having a real, physical child (this was a SUPER common talking point), and that wasn’t necessarily better than some of the more relaxed modern attitudes because it had the effect of scaring people away from willomancy who may have benefitted from it but it also meant that a lot of the systems who DID get into willomancy did so with a good sense of the gravity of the situation, acceptance of any and all deviations, with a lot of thought already put into it, a lot of time + energy set aside, a lot of care already generated for a being that didn’t exist yet and may not exist for months to years. you didn’t usually find willo-ed fragments because if you intentionally left a thoughtform half-complete that’d be really frowned-upon (as a thoughtform who remembers bits and pieces of the time other alters were creating me i can attest that this is not a fun state to be in)

but now i do see some willo-ed fragments around who barely are allowed to front or further develop themselves outside of picking stock traits from curated lists online and i feel a bit sorry for them. there are probably some oldheads out there who hate the idea of BAH blogs and i don’t agree, i don’t HATE them, but i do feel iffy about the idea of that being the only method some people use for willomancy and/or fleshing out traumagenic fragments. because even for those of us who do have those traumagenic fragments, trying to flesh them out by choosing to label them aliengender or aggressive or whatever is only going to help you so much. what are the nuances of their aliengender identity? under what circumstances are they aggressive, what triggers do they have, how does their aggression manifest, why & how is it such a fundamental part of their person that they’re labeled an “aggressive person?” if you’re a system with low communication that makes this process much more difficult if not impossible. if you decide a fragment should be a traumaholder and they weren’t before, you could open them up to being exposed to memories & experiences purposefully hidden from them. these are all questions and considerations old school willomancers would make, write both long lists of traits AND explanations/descriptions for them, put their willo in various hypothetical scenarios to test & figure these traits out more intuitively.

i’m worried that we’re becoming a bit too lax about willo creation and that the resultant thoughtforms & systems will suffer for it. i have no way of knowing how people are using these blogs or any of the popular willo methods, and of course there have always been people who didn’t take it seriously and ended up hurting their thoughtforms & themselves even back when we were warned over and over and over about it, but with the modern attitude of “just make your head blorbo, don’t worry too much about it!!!!” i find myself wondering if there are more willomancers like that today than before. who are struggling or maybe should never have become willomancers in the first place because they don’t have the adequate resources to manage the process and weren’t warned about it or encouraged to give it some more thought.

while it’s a net positive that plurality is gaining acceptance & being seen as less of a life sentence of misery and more as another way of life that can be miserable but can also be desirable, fulfilling, satisfying—i don’t think we should allow it to be seen as something super easy, risk-free, harmless. because it isn’t. it isn’t like raising a real-world child but it is like taking care of and nurturing a whole new person, and if you don’t pour into them what they need to grow, they’re going to stagnate and that can cause a wide range of problems for yourself and/or the rest of your system.

i don’t think this means traumagenic & disordered systems should avoid willomancy or endo spaces though. we went through syscovery mainly in willo spaces, working together to build a couple thoughtforms before discovering both long-buried and quietly active traumagenic alters & getting diagnosed. i’m grateful for that because it allowed us to explore ourselves without feeling the shame a lot of syscovering disordered systems feel. systemhood was destigmatized for us way before we discovered we were a system ourselves and we have willo communities to thank for it. that being said, should most traumagenics & disordered systems who already know they’re a system be extra careful about willomancy? fuck yes. we inherently have less resources to dish out and many of us who don’t have well-functioning gatekeepers or gatekeepers at all will have a hard time intentionally allocating body time for the willo. you’re taking the chance that this willo will turn out to be some sort of person who’ll cause problems with other alters, not just whoever they meet outside the body. if you’re very destabilized internally attempting willomancy can further destabilize you.

the TLDR is this: we used to scare people away from willomancy way too much, but now we maybe don’t scare them enough. it’s not always an easy, fun, happy, fast process, and if you’re already a traumagenic &/or disordered system you especially need to be mindful of what willomancy requires from you. BAH blogs aren’t bad but if that’s your one and only method for engaging in willomancy that’s concerning and they aren’t even really that helpful for fleshing out fragments beyond giving you an outline of identity labels to work with, many of which might end up discarded anyway

[blogofhornet]

The fictionkin euphoria of playing a game in which you are the protagonist and control yourself directly as the player.

The fictionkin dysphoria of not being very good at controlling yourself at all, actually.

-A Hornet who sucks severely at Silksong

[goldcrescent]

I also think that the strength gap is at least partially manufactured women would in fact be stronger overall if little girls were encouraged to do physically taxing games and activities and eat their fill while they’re growing vs having to constantly diet and be sedentary indoors (or god forbid do intense cardio while under-eating). The amount of adult women honestly afraid to lift weights bc they think they’ll get bulky as though bulking isn’t a full time job that athletes have to spend all their time on and anyone on earth gets shredded from just using their adult muscles for their intended purpose, girl your bone density 🥀

[median-culture-is]

Median culture is feeling like a blank slate.

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[median-culture-is]

(Sad) Median culture is feeling guilty for being the more fledged headmate. The one everyone resembles in some way. Whether it be their general skin tone, eye/hair color, style and presentation, to all the fictives in our system belonging to MY central interests. It sucks too since we have more of like a P-DID presentation, where I'm pretty much ALWAYS in front. Even when others front with me, I'm always there and they're all reliant on me somehow.

Idk. We've been trying to work on alter separation but, it's a really difficult and long process. And I've been really bad at keeping up with it due to executive dysfunction and lack of motivation. We've made a good amount of progress over the past few months. But, they're still nowhere near the level of sentience/ability as I am. I'm trying my best, I really am. I just wish that I could give them a life outside of my own.

while i understand wanting to be more separate you shouldn't feel bad for the way your system functions or not being able to fight mental illness to work on it all the time

take it slow, do what you can when you can and rest when needed

[median-culture-is]

median culture is two of us showing up to front and like orbiting a planet, there's like, a sweet spot in the gravitational pull where there's orbit, but slowly we're drifting closer & closer until we're an overlapping mess, both people at once (in headspace) until we both leave the host to front alone again after becoming too jumbled together

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[median-culture-is]

Median culture is having a singular thought with multiple wording choices.

Not actually sure if anyone else deals with this but it happens to us a lot! Random example: having the thought(s) “I dislike [x] because [y]” and “I hate [x] because [y];” it feels like and sounds like the same thought but we just have two disjointed overlapping words speak over each other in the [start/middle/end] of the thought. Basically like thinking something and disagreeing on the exact wording choice.

Occasionally yea really fucks up our words akdns

[spirefluxx]

There is more after the cut. I just had to add it cuz I got sick and tired of it clogging up half of my reblogs/posts

Anti-endos are genuinely exhausting because they repeat the same recycled arguments over and over again like parrots and then act shocked when nobody outside their little echo chamber takes them seriously anymore. It is the exact same script every single time: “you’re invading our community,” “you’re stealing resources,” “you’re fake claiming DID,” blah blah blah. At some point it stops sounding like concern and starts sounding like people who are addicted to outrage and desperately need a group to villainize so they can feel morally superior online.

The funniest part is that plurality as a whole is already severely under-researched. People act like psychology has every answer about consciousness, identity, dissociation, and plurality when in reality the field still barely understands huge portions of it. Plural communities and discussions existed before DID was even formalized as a diagnosis, yet anti-endos love pretending history magically began the second medical terminology became convenient for them. Human identity is messy. Consciousness is messy. Trauma is complicated. The brain is complicated. But anti-endos flatten all of that nuance into the dumbest black-and-white worldview imaginable because complexity terrifies them.

And honestly? The “endos are invading our community” argument is one of the most hypocritical and irritating things they constantly scream about. Endogenic systems use tags like #plural because they ARE plural. That tag was never exclusively owned by anti-endos or medically recognized systems. If anti-endos deliberately lurk in inclusive plural spaces, stalk endogenic creators, interact with endogenic posts, and obsessively search tags they already know contain endogenic systems, that is not “intrusion.” That is them intentionally inserting themselves into spaces they KNOW are mixed and then whining afterward because they saw people they dislike existing peacefully.

You cannot knowingly walk into a broad community tag and then cry because the community is broad. That is your own damn fault.

And then anti-endos LOVE to scream about “resources being stolen,” except half the time they don’t even know what the resources themselves stand for. They constantly bring up things like Simply Plural, PluralKit, and Tupperbox as if those are exclusive DID-only sacred spaces being desecrated by evil endos. Meanwhile all three are openly inclusive or pro-endo. PluralKit and Tupperbox have outright acknowledged that even roleplayers can use the bots. Simply Plural allows people to use it as OC storage too. These resources were intentionally designed to be broad and accessible by the people who CREATED them. Anti-endos do not get to override the actual creators just because they personally dislike inclusivity.

That argument completely falls apart the second you look at reality for more than five fucking seconds.

And another thing anti-endos somehow STILL cannot understand despite how painfully simple it is: endogenic systems are not claiming to have DID. If someone believed they had DID, they would say they have DID. That is literally the point. Calling yourself endogenic is already separating your experience from DID/OSDD frameworks. This is not some impossible galaxy-brain concept. It is one of the easiest statements imaginable to understand, yet anti-endos intentionally twist it constantly because pretending endos are “faking DID” sounds more dramatic and gives them an excuse to justify harassment.

It genuinely feels like some anti-endos are less interested in protecting trauma survivors and more interested in controlling who is “allowed” to exist in plural spaces. The obsession is unhealthy. The harassment campaigns, stalking, mockery, dogpiling, misinformation, purity culture, and constant aggressive gatekeeping create more toxicity than the people they complain about ever did. You cannot preach about mental health while acting like a chronically online bully whose entire personality revolves around invalidating strangers on the internet.

And the irony is insane because anti-endos constantly prove the exact point people criticize them for. They claim they want safe spaces, yet they make plural communities hostile as hell. They claim they care about education, yet they spread misinformation constantly and refuse to acknowledge how little plurality is actually researched. They claim they care about respect, yet dedicate absurd amounts of time to mocking, harassing, and dehumanizing people they disagree with. If your movement relies more on aggression, ridicule, and social policing than actual discussion, maybe your position is not nearly as strong as you think it is.

At the end of the day, no amount of screaming online is going to erase people you dislike from existence. Reality does not magically disappear because anti-endos throw another tantrum on the internet.

And before anyone twists this around: this is not targeted at diagnosed systems. This is targeted at anti-endos specifically, because anti-endos can absolutely be singlets too. Being diagnosed does not automatically make someone anti-endo, and being anti-endo does not automatically make someone a system. The problem is the hostility, harassment, and obsessive gatekeeping — not whether somebody has a diagnosis.

[cosmicdisastersys]

Pot calling the cattle black #2 Alterhumanity is (basically) pro-endo. Or it is heavily linked. A lot of endogenic systems coined terms, even terms that suggest being "plural by choice" exist (see copinglink). Alterhumanity has and always will be linked to non disordered plurality and you cannot erase that. I am not saying stop being alterhuman. I'm saying educate yourself.

[nebulabrigade]

Being medically recognised as being plural without having DID was... Not on our 2026 bingo card.

In fact, the more I think about it, the more I realise that it's only ever online that I've seen people doing the whole "YOU CAN'T BE A SYSTEM WITHOUT DID!!!"

Like we have asked multiple specialists that we've seen irl their opinion and they all basically said that was bullshit and sounds like it'a just people online grasping for a reason to cause division, so... *shrugs*

Anyways, the conclusion we've come to is that our plurality is/was caused by a mix of trauma and us being neurodivergent, so I think we may start using traumagenic and neurogenic together or simply just saying we're mixed origins

We also are medically recognised as having a potential disassociative disorder, but the past few specialists we've seen have come to the conclusion that our plurality is most likely unrelated to that

So uhh, sysmeds can yell at us all they want, but this is literally what we've been told by multiple specialists who work with people with DID and we're more inclined to believe them over random people on the internet who don't even know us

[thesolar-system]

(Doubles can still interact, just be careful)

- 🩷🎀

[maxxie-or-smth]

google is it normal to look back on memories and feel as if you're watching someone else entirely

[lag-train]

@isuggestplurality

[our-plural-cafe]

please do more reasearch that isn't pluralpedia because you genuinely seem like the kind of pro-endo that actually has the disorder and is uneducated </3

Hi, sorry for taking months to respond. We are in fact a DID system, what are you getting at?

You can be a DID/OSDD system and accept others. I fear that's common sense.

[cosmicdisastersys]

"If you are going to be pro-endo then stay out of DID/OSDD spaces!! You are invading our safe spaces!!" Alright uuhh...*checks notes* right...anti endos joining pro endo discord servers to take screenshots and post them online..

...anti endos joining pro endo discord servers to pretend to be pro endo then go ahead and harass (pro) endos.. (don't have a pic, if i do find it i will edit the post) ...anti endos creating false endo safe servers to collect info about endos for mother knows what...

..but yes, we are deeeefinitaly invading your precious spaces...mhm...

[median-culture-is]

median culture is: are we all really similar or are we all co-fronting with the host when we front or are we just a singlet who likes different names and pronouns and has different opinions consistent with the name and pronouns change or do we have less members than we thought?? Also who are we???

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