The Room of Requirement

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When I started dating my transgender boyfriend almost two years ago, I had a lot of questions I wasn't sure how to ask. Thankfully, my partner was very open and taught me a lot about what it means to love someone who is trans. If you are new to dating a transgender person, here are some guidelines to make it easier for you both.

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Crying

I’ve always viewed myself as a really emotional person. It’s never taken much to hurt my feelings, to scare me, to concern me. I’ve always wished that weren’t true. I’ve always wished I could be cool, calm and collected all the time but that just isn’t who I am. I can sort of maintain composure in front of other people, but I remember being in third grade and going to the bathroom to cry. I’ve made it through funerals and weddings without anyone seeing me cry despite my high emotions only to fall apart the second I’m alone. For whatever reason, I’ve always had this really intense desire to avoid crying or expressing anxiety in front of others. There is this voice in my head that just says “you CANNOT cry right now.” if I get upset in front of people. It just doesn’t seem like an option, period. 

From the beginning of our relationship @cynicaldom has been an exception to the rule. I let him see me emotional. Or maybe it wasn’t really the very beginning, but certainly early on. I remember being a little panicked the first time he knocked on the door while I was crying in there. 

“Are you crying?” 

“…no.”

“Come on.”

“What? I’m just peeing.”

“No. You aren’t. You’ve been in there too long. And your voice sounds funny.”

Shit. Nobody ever had called me out like that. 

I won’t lie. I kept trying to cry in private most of the time. After that first time, I’d do it in a shower or bath to hide the noise a little better. It only worked sometimes. Other times he’d catch on and knock on the door. But that desire to guard my heart when I was sad was strong. It still is sometimes.  

Entering D/s didn’t make CD more supportive of my emotions, he always was. It didn’t erase my inclination to try to be independent and distant when I’m sad, the instinct is still there, and sometimes it still wins. But having our dynamic structured with rules and daily expectations makes it really glaringly obvious when either one of us is “off”. It’s harder to hide behind my wall of “No, really, I’m fine.” when he can see that I’m dragging my feet on my rules. When I’m not struggling emotionally, I don’t think twice about any of my rules or tasks. When I’m emotional they take so much more effort. I have to pep talk myself into doing what is expected of me, and he sees that shift in me. I find myself wanting to ask for permission to skip rules more frequently. And when he holds firm I struggle with that too, even though the logical side of me knows it’s exactly what I need. 

CD is okay with me not having a smile on my face and a pep in my step when doing chores or tasks. He appreciates that I put the work in even when it’s hard. But he sees the difference between my normal self and my “just going through the motions because I have to because these are the rules” self. I don’t have the acting skills to hide that truth. Sometimes I want to, desperately. 

Recently, I think it was primarily hormones that were to blame. CD woke up, I heard him and went in to join him. He was laying on his back. I climbed over top of him, legs straddled to the sides. He ran his hands over my back while we talked. Then both hands end on my ass. I push my hips, pushing deeper into his hands. 

“I’m horny.” I say quietly, shyly. 

“Yeah?’ he says with teasing in his voice. He raises a knee between my legs. I grind against it. 

He continues rubbing my back, squeezing my ass. We cuddle this way for quite a while. My stomach growls loudly. We laugh and the conversation turns to food. We move to the kitchen. I’m happy. Not just normal happy, particularly happy. 

I stand in front of CD and look up at him grinning. 

“What is it, Toy?” he says. 

It catches my ear because I don’t think he’s ever called me just Toy before. His voice was so sweet. My heart melts. 

I blush and squirm. It was a rhetorical question. He knows I’m horny and just seeking more attention. 

He turns me around so that he is behind me, and dry humps me. One fist in my hair and the other hand around my neck. Then into my ear “Do you like to be used?” he asks.

“Yes, Sir!” I reply, grinding back against him.

“Oh really? You didn’t give my cock any attention. Are you sure you weren’t just looking to cum yourself? Maybe you don’t want to be used…” His voice is the teasing tone again. 

He continues manhandling me and groping me. I push out moaning sounds to try to play along but my heart has dropped and my mind is in a completely new place. Emotionally I’m frozen in panic. Why didn’t it occur to me to stroke him? Or to ask to suck his cock? I’m too selfish. He thinks I don’t care about his pleasure. What is wrong with me? I was so fucking happy 2 minutes ago and now I’m an emotional lunatic. Why does he even like me?

Yet even in the moment I know this is anxiety. I try pep talking myself. We specifically have guidelines in place for the expressed purpose of preventing me from worrying about whether I pleasure him enough. He instigates what he wants when he wants it. That’s supposed to be the end of the story. My anxiety doesn’t always listen to that. 

I try to move on to cooking and eating but the anxious button in my brain is stuck on. My pep-talking isn’t working. I know I need his reassurance but I feel that urge to go cry in the bathroom. He just woke up. He doesn’t want to deal with my stupid emotions. What a terrible way to start his day. Yet I can tell that I'm “faking it” poorly. I’m not looking at him enough or something. His eyes are lingering on me too long, analyzing me. He can tell something’s wrong. Once the food is finished I convince myself to go to him. 

He’s in his chair. I sit facing him, in his lap, my legs straddling his. The side of my face against his shoulder. I try to come up with words but I can’t. He asks what’s wrong. 

“I’m having anxiety.”

“About what?”

It’s a long pause before I find words. “What you said about not touching you. Did you think I was a being selfish?”

“Oh! No. No, no, no. Of course not…”

He says it so earnestly. I feel so much better. The logical side of my brain knew he was trying to tease me. We’ve been on tease and denial for a couple of days. He was just teasing me about being desperate and for not having my pussy used. Yet getting confirmation helps so much. But this lingering emotional heaviness is still on me. I stay sitting with him for a while and shed a couple of silent tears onto his shoulder but I don’t let myself really cry. I don’t want to. I feel like such a pain already. He doesn’t need to hear me cry, too. I decide I have myself together enough to go on about my day so I stand up. He has other plans. He takes my hand and starts walking towards our bedroom. 

When he leads me to the bedroom he’s either going to fuck me or spank me. Logically I know with all this teasing it won’t be to fuck me. Yet I’m hoping it is. Not because I’m horny, but because I know I’ll cry if he spanks me. I don’t want to cry. I can’t cry. I can’t cry. I can’t cry. 

When he pulls me to my side of the bed I know that means spanking. I take a deep breath and make a pact with myself to hold it in. Once I am over his knee he leans over towards the closet and opens a drawer that holds our implements. He doesn’t like me to look at what he’s going to use so I keep my head straight. On the first blow I know what paddle it is. It’s a mean one. I’m a little shocked. Why use a mean paddle when I’m so sensitive today? I know I stand no chance of holding my tears in.  

I try to fight it. I get angry for a minute. Angry that he picked a mean paddle. Angry that I’m not tougher, stronger, that I don’t have a higher pain tolerance. In my bout of anger I reach back to block. He grabs my hand and pins it to my back so fast. That makes me angry too. I’m stuck. It’s that helpless feeling that forces me to let go. So I cave, and I cry. I cry for just a few seconds when he slips the paddle back into the drawer. 

My thoughts go 80 miles an hour again. I stop crying. Did he get weirded out because I cried so easily? Does he think he did something wrong? Why is he ending the spanking so soon? Why couldn’t I hold it together longer? I’m waiting on my two butt pats, which he does to give me permission to stand. They don’t come. Hard swats do.

He lays into me with his hand. 

Occasionally after a paddling he’ll give me a few really hard ones with his hand. But this isn’t like that. This is a solid hand spanking, fast and steady. My brain is too busy trying to make sense of this. He never goes back to his hand after a paddle. I’m confused. He works down to my sit spot, my lower butt and upper thighs. He lingers there. He knows the easiest way to get me to tears with his hand is at that spot on my thighs. Is that the point? Was his point with all of this to help me cry? I don’t know, but it doesn’t matter because it hurts too much and I cry again. 

He spanks me a while and I keep crying. He stops and I cry still. He leaves me over his lap as I finish crying and regain composure. I feel so much better. 

He hugs me afterward and I squeeze him extra tight. As tight as I can, so that my arms start to tremble. Partly to make him laugh. Partly because I want to thank him for helping me cry. He’s not shaken by my crying or my anxiety at all. It doesn’t seem awkward. He’s just his usual self. I shouldn’t be surprised. He’s always handles my craziness well. His demeanor is calm and warm. 

That night as I got ready to go to bed I felt the need to address it. I knew if I just apologized for being emotional he would dismiss it. He never lets me apologize for my emotions. So instead I say “I wish I wasn’t so emotional.” He shrugs. “It might take a couple days but it will pass. You’re okay.” He pinches my cheek, one of his favorite ways of showing affection. I shouldn’t be surprised by how content he seems, despite the emotional waves from the day. It still does surprises me though. I hope someday I’ll stop being surprised, and will accept that he really is just this safe, this non-judgmental, this sweet. I don’t need to cry in the bathroom anymore. He is my safe place.

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POC Bloggers

This is a list of various POC (Person Of Color) blogs that post original NSFW content that fit our own blog description. This list exists so others can find new users to help diversify their blogs.

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@accarahara

@aikosnow

@akindredheart

@alanathegrl

@alondrakings​

@amira-hala

@angelhoneynut

@angelscumx

@aphrodisiac-and-lace

@artlesshoe

@a-smol-cunt

B

@babyhunnibun

@baby-nymphette

@bbyanjou

@bbydruglxrd

@beyourlover

@blkgrlmajic

@blossomvalentine

@boostedlatina

@briaarirose

@bunnytrbl

@bunny-boss

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@canna-britt

@chiana-night

@chocolateeprincess

@ckmcmxcvi

@cocobunnychan

@cutiequinny

@cyberbbgirl

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@daddys-chaton-noir

@deebott

@dippedingodiva

@dizzyfoolish

@druggie-cumcake

@d0wn-for-anythingg

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@earthangelxox

@eessac

@ennollient

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@f0xjaw

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@ghostcx

@gohawaiianbunny

@goldenlittlegoddess

H

@harrykiwiharry

@helloomajesticpenguin

@hfq

@hiighirie

@hisbabygirlsub

@holmesdown

@hornymuslimslut

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@iamkrazii

@incubibaby

@introvert-jane

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K

@kayistemporary

@kindametal

@kittikween

@kittykum

@kitty-and-bun

@keke-hime

@kreamxkween

@krystal-gem

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@lachiquitamala

@larissbeauty

@latalisman

@latinanympho

@latinaxgoddess

@latin-princessxx

@liaslewdblog

@lilarrain

@lilspaceprincess

@lilys-erotica

@lisa-i-am

@littlecuriousprincess

@littlemisskiki

@littlemisstemptation

@littlepetangel

@littlestlittlblr

@lostwhere

@lotusprincess22

@lotusxxxlazuli

@lovemenaughtylies

@l0vesexually

M

@magentaspanks

@mia-darlingg

@missynyx

@misty-skye

@mommaslittleblackbook

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@neurofunkymonkey

@ninahadidxxx

O

@opheliammae

P

@pastelpayge

@pixipup

@prettylil-bunny

@princesa-vanessa

@princesscookii​

@prince-nympho

@prinxcesscastle

@prncesspunk

@punishnikky

@pxssy-cat

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R

@ravenalexus

@rennoir

@rose-lines

@rougejune

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@sailorflorana

@scelestic-intentions

@scribblesonmyskin

@scarlettmoans

@shy-foxxx

@silver-tittys

@sleeping-sin

@smokeandkisses

@softtitlita

@submissivepanbby

@sunmoonsfw

@sunshinebetweenherthighs

@sweetjamacian

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@thechiaesthetic

@thesailorrvenus

@thiccnicca

@thicksluttygoddess

@thorneyheights

@tropikallia

@truthinthebooty

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@uncute-desires

@universalfrea-k

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@valleynymphet

@vintageeherr

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@wetlittlepixie

@whatswhoreface

@willowandtwill

X

@xozacari

@xo-irlgoddess

@xxx-wonderland

Y

@yaponski

@youngebonygirlx

@yourbabyrxnee

@your-pinklilkitten

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Another five page kinky comic I drew last year! This one’s about getting started with wax play. Be safe and have fun!

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I get a lot of questions from people who need to know which household objects are safe to use in place of sex toys. Above all else, I recommend investing in a body-safe toy by a professional sex toy company, such as Tantus. However, I understand that affording high-quality toys is not always an option for low-income folks so the following is meant to help you be as safe as possible when using “unofficial” sex toys.

DILDO

Use a condom! Using a condom makes household objects so, so much safer to use internally. It keeps bacteria from going into your body and also makes clean up so much easier and safer so you’re not leaving bodily fluids on household objects for others to be exposed to. (Be a doll, and avoid shared objects. Use something you personally own if you’re resorting to using household objects for sexual pleasure.)

DILDON’T

Use food as a sex toy. Foods that contain sugar or forms of glycerin (animal or plant-derived natural sugars) are horrible for vaginas and can cause some terrible infections. While popsicles and lollipops may seem like a cute idea to get off with, your vagina will be thanking me for advising you avoid them. In addition, using fruits and vegetables with an external skin may seem like a safe alternative, but we are often unaware of what pesticides or sprays are used during their growth, making them unwise to use internally without a barrier method of protection. (Also, please don’t cut up the used cucumber for tonight’s salad unless your partner has consented to your sexy appetizer choice.)

DILDO

Use something smooth, solid, and non-porous. This means things made of hard plastic, glass, or steel. Using non-porous things will help keep bacteria from growing in the pores of objects that aren’t able to be sterilized or cleaned properly.

DILDON’T

Use something porous or sharp. No wooden objects. Nothing with corners. Nothing with spikes or raised sharp areas. I don’t care if you’re a masochist—tearing up your insides is not a good idea. Stick to something blunt and totally smooth that won’t tear a condom—or yourself.

DILDO

Use a toy with a flange for anal play. This means something with a flared base. Rule of thumb is that the base of the “toy” be wider than the widest part that is being inserted anally. A good example for this would be using the handle of a hairbrush with a large head to it. Because the rectum has no internal “barrier”, like the cervix is in the vagina, things can easily get “lost” inside. By using a toy with a flange, you can avoid the very common, yet dreadful, trip to the emergency room for object removal. That’s not fun for anyone—even if you’re into humiliation.

DILDON’T

Settle for jelly toys. Using a condom on a smooth object with a flared base is safer than using a jelly toy without a condom due to the chemicals that make up the jelly material. Read up on sex toy materials and be sure that if you are investing in a real sex toy, that it’s body-safe and worth the investment. There’s a reason jelly toys are so cheap and are marked as “novelties”!

DILDO

Look out for sales! Just because you want a good-quality toy doesn’t mean you have to pay top prices for it. Tantus offers grab bags, which are the same body-safe, high-quality toys they sell, but in a random, unique, or discontinued color! There’s also tons of sale options at Tantus, EdenFantasys, Lovehoney, and GoodVibrations.

PS: Remember my discount code! V2V gets you 15% off EdenFantasys at any time.

DILDON’T

Share toys without proper sterilization. I know it’s cheaper to buy only one dildo to use in your ass and your/your partner’s vagina, but without proper sterilization, this is highly unsafe. If the toy is silicone, glass, or steel it can be sterilized by boiling for five minutes, washing in the top shelf of the dishwasher, or washing with soap and water, soaking in a 5% bleach solution, then washing with soap and water once again. Any other way of cleaning toys between multiple partners (or from anal to vagina use) carries risk of infection, so if you can’t make time to sterilize them all the time, invest in multiple toys!

DILDO

Find safe ways of pleasuring yourself with household items in a creative manner. Into temperature play? Fill a condom with water, put it in a paper-towel tube, and pop it in the freezer for an exciting ice dildo. Stack a few pillows on your bed and ride them to orgasm. Use the massager setting on your showerhead and go to town. Have a partner use a glove while penetrating you with fingers for some medical roleplay. There’s plenty to do with limited resources!

DILDON’T

Fall for unsafe media tropes. No vacuums, no scalding hot objects. I don’t care how tempting that apple pie seems, it will probably hurt a lot. Be safe and avoid things that will burn or lacerate your skin, for everyone’s sake.

DILDO

Use lube! Lube is super important when penetrating, especially anally, since the anus does not naturally produce lubricant like the vagina does. Be sure to use a lubricated condom and/or lube with any toy you’re using anally to avoid internal injuries.

DILDON’T

Use lube that contains glycerin vaginally if you have reoccurring yeast infections. Many, many water-based lubricants contain glycerin, which is a plant-derived material that may convert to sugar inside the vagina. Sugar, as many people know, is bad for the vagina as it encourages bacteria and yeast to grow, which can cause a host of infections in some people. When shopping for lubricant to use vaginally, look at the ingredients. Try looking at silicone-based lubes if you’re having a hard time finding one without glycerin but remember not to use silicone lube with silicone toys!

Stay safe, everyone!

xx SF

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Aftercare for Neuroatypical Littles

I am an autistic little and speaking from a combined submissive and little position. In my years of participating in BDSM, I have come to realize that my aftercare needs are very different from the aftercare needs of a neurotypical person. When I engage in pretty much any kind of sex, I experience an onslaught of sensory input that can easily send me into an overload situation. This is a double-edged sword. There’s a lot of pleasure and wonderfully intoxicating sensations to experience, but there’s also the risk of it being too much, too quickly. Shutdowns and meltdowns and feelings of panic and depression are a real risk for me, and I suspect I am not the only one. 

These are reasons why aftercare advice for the general kink population sometimes fall flat and do not meet the particular needs of someone who is autistic or otherwise neuroatypical. (Again, I tend to speak from the autistic person platform because that’s my experience.) Here are my suggestions for better aftercare techniques for the neuroatypical little in your life: 

Soothing sensory input in the form of warm cuddles is a personal favorite, but temperature preferences may vary. Adjust accordingly. My Daddy is quite familiar with my need to keep the thermostat at like, 78, and be wrapped up in heavy blankets after a scene. 

Sometimes touching after is really uncomfortable, so talk with your little about where to touch or if you should touch them at all. I don’t think I have ever been in this situation personally, but too much stimulation can certainly make me cringe at even a light touch or kiss. Firmer and more supportive touch can be a solution. 

Cartoons or gentle music, but nothing too loud or too visual or too emotional is often helpful! 

Snacks. Fun snacks that incorporate sensory stimulation that your little enjoys is also really nice. For example, I like Annie’s Strawberry Gummy Bunnies A LOT because they are soft, juicy, flavorful, and fulfill my sensory needs after a scene. Plus, they refuel! 

Ice packs/heating pads can be magical after impact play if your little can handle it. 

Oral reassurance about anything and everything. I certainly need that extra communication to ensure that I did well, I am a good girl, I am wanted, I am loved, and I am safe. My partners and I have this conversation all the time, and it is extra necessary for those of us who are neuroatypical littles. 

Please feel free to add more to this list when you reblog! Remember that this is focused around neuroatypical littles. Just because we have a different way of experiencing the world around us does not mean that we don’t participate in BDSM or shouldn’t! It just requires adjustments and more particulars than a neurotypical DD/lg or CGL-type relationship. 

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Simple wax play tutorial

Safety First

Remember when using any kind of temperature play or fire you need to have proper precautions nearby including cool damp towels, fire extinguisher and have your submissive lie on a a fire resistant area (something that wont be ruined by wax but wont melt or burn itself). You should avoid any material that will melt and burn especially things like pvc, cotton, plastic and make sure nothing your wearing is highly flammable. Be aware that candle wax can spill onto your hand causing a burn or for you to drop the candle, always pay attention to what you are doing and never play under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Don’t tie your submissive down when playing with fire (unless you really really know what you are doing, that dosnt mean you’ve played with wax a few times it means you’ve studied and have around 10+ years experience, im not joking dont do it) and always check in with them and have your established safe word.

Picking a candle

When picking a candle try and get a plain unscented and uncolored one initially. Paraffin is the best for beginners as it has a low melting point. When playing with scented and colored candles it can raise the melting point and sometimes the color can catch alight and burn. Whatever candle you use burn it until you get your wax and see how long it takes to give you a general idea. The longer it takes the candle to burn the hotter the wax will be and you may unintentionally burn your partner thinking its the same as others candles you’ve used.

Play time

Wax is sensual and exciting, the bottom never knows where the next drop is going to land and how hot/cold it will be and the top gets to tease them and watch their sub enjoy themselves. It feels really nice on your skin and is quite relaxing at the same time as being exhilarating. Before you drip the wax on your partner drip it at a little height onto the back of your own hand. This will give you an idea of what the temperature is at each level and give you a guide to go off. You can adjust the height when dripping onto your submissive to make it more exciting and changing for them, try making it hot and cold and different places. Avoid areas with hair and the  face and avoid sensitive areas unless they ask you. Other than that just be safe and use common sense, its hot wax, think about where you wouldn’t want it an avoid those places.

Getting wax Off

Wax will usually scrape of pretty easily and can feel just as nice coming off as it did going on.

(This is just a guide it dosnt replace common sense and your responsible for the safety of you and those around you if you choose to follow it. Remember to always be aware, consensual and safe.)

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Last night’s Impact party was quite the ride. Whereas last time I got to wait until close to the end to get spanked by @theruleset, a certain Miss @on-her-knees-to-please decided she really wanted to see me get beat up early in the evening this time. So, Mr. Savano got a sturdy chair and took me over his knee while all of our friends watched. The hand spanking was just a warm-up for me, though. Steve had newer and more wooden plans in mind.

Rulers hurt. 

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not reblogging this today for any particular reason, nope

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I forgot this existed. Ladies and gents, me being spanked by @theruleset

[deathshands]

Hello friends!

I would like to welcome you all to my super special self-care masterpost for all of you super special cuties out there! Unfortunately, it’s common to dislike ourselves and feel a little lower than usual. When that happens, it can be very difficult for us to acknowledge our worth! But never fear my darlings, because here are many ways to look after yourself, even if you’re feeling a little down. Best wishes and lots of love! ♥♥♥

Note: I apologise that most of the links on the masterpost are currently not working, but until I fix it please refer to the repost here 

Dealing with depression and feeling suicidal

Dealing with depression

6 Steps for beating depression

100 reasons not to commit suicide

50 things to love about life that are free

The best things in life that are free

40 breathtaking places to see before you die

101 most beautiful places to visit before you die

How to help a suicidal person

Reasons to stay alive blog

Adjusting your life for recovery

Natural treatment for depression

Tempted to quit antidepressants?

Relievers for depression and feeling suicidal

The Thoughts Room

The Dawn Room

The Comfort Spot

It will be okay

Make everything okay

Emergency compliment

Changing your life

Gives me hope

KittenCam

PuppyCam

omfgdogs *bright/flashing colours warning*

Cat training

Depression and suicide hotlines/chatrooms

Australia

beyondblue

Helplines across Australia

LifeLine: 13 11 14

Australian hotlines

USA

US and UK helplines

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Teen health and wellness helplines

Hotline list

US hotlines (per state)

UK

US and UK helplines

National links UK

Mental health helplines

Support line UK

DepressionAlliance

UK suicide hotlines

Canada

Mental health helpline

Suicide prevention across Canada

Canada suicide hotlines

Worldwide

CrisisChat

IMAlive

7 cups of tea

BlahTherapy

Mental health chatrooms

Worldwide suicide hotlines

Dealing with self harm

Stopping self harm

20 reasons to give up self harm

Deciding to stop self-injury

Self harm information booklet

Limiting the damage of self harm

fataltotheflesh *trigger warning*

Alternatives to self harm

146 things to do besides self harm

25 alternatives to self harm

Make a happy box

Basic care for open wounds and burns

Self harm safety

Caring for self harm wounds

Caring for cuts

Caring for burns

Fading and covering scars

Dealing with grief and loss

Grief and loss

Grief and loss + resources

Loss & grief

Coping with grief

Grief and depression

Coping with grief and loss

Coping with grief and loss

Coping with grief and loss

Living with grief and loss

Coping with change after a loss

Coping with the loss of a loved one

Coping with the loss of a loved one

Coping with the loss of your loved one

Dealing with the loss of a loved one

Coping with the loss of a parent

Helping yourself heal when a parent passes

How to deal with a parent’s passing

How to deal with a friend’s passing

When you lose a teen friend

Losing someone to suicide

Suicide grief

Dealing with anger and guilt after suicide

Ten tips on coping with pet loss

Coping with pet loss

Understand pet loss grief

Grieving for a lost pet + helplines

Supporting a grieving person

Helping children deal with grief and loss

Helping teenagers cope with grief and loss

Helping a student who lost a friend or family member to suicide

Dealing with loneliness and break-ups

How to move on from someone you’re in love with

The nicest place on the internet

Brownie in a mug recipe

Comfort food recipes

Movie masterposts

7 reasons why it’s okay if you’ve never been in a relationship

Getting over a break up

6 healthy ways to get over a break up

When you’re the only one not in a relationship

27 perks of being single

6 scientifically proven perks of being single

More perks for singles

Is your friend dating your ex?

10 more ideas to help with loneliness

10 things to do when you feel lonely

23 things you can do when you’re lonely

Dealing with loneliness

Making friends

Becoming a magnet for friends

How to cope when you feel left out by friends

Dealing with anxiety and stress

Treatment and care for anxiety

Dealing with panic attacks

Overcoming panic attacks

Progressive muscle relaxation

3 effective anxiety breathing exercises

Anxiety relief

Overcoming OCD

10 things you need to know to overcome OCD

How to cope with OCD

Strategies for managing OCD

Managing OCD at home

How to deal with OCD

Relievers for anxiety and stress

Stress relief games

Rain sounds

Nature sounds

Ocean sounds

Coffee sounds

More calming sounds

Paint with sand

Stress relievers

The Quiet Place

90 seconds relaxation exercise

Weave silk

Rainy day simulator

Create your own forest

Audio meditation techniques

Progressive muscle relaxation meditation

Progressive muscle relaxation with music

Guided meditation and progressive muscle relaxation

Walk along the beach visualisation

Guiding imagery: ocean escape

Forest walk

Guided forest meditation

Sleep meditation

Guided meditation for sleep: floating among the stars

Journey to the stars: 1 hour sleep meditation

Relaxing music with water sounds meditation - 3 hours

Forest rain and birds - 5 hours

Waterfalls and bird songs - 8 hours

Ocean sounds- 11 hours

Dealing with bipolar disorder/ manic depression

Helping your loved one through a manic episode

Helping a loved one with bipolar disorder

Dealing with bipolar mania: help for caregivers

7 ways to deal with a manic depressive person

Dealing effectively with depression and manic depression

Simple tricks to deal with anxiety and mania

5 tips for coping with mania

Coping skills for bipolar disorder

50 natural ways to manage and cope with bipolar disorder

10 small steps you can  take to improve bipolar disorder

Dealing with hallucinations and schizophrenia

Helping a person with schizophrenia

Treatment and recovery for schizophrenia

60 methods for coping with hallucinations

Helping someone cope with hallucinations

Coping with schizophrenic hallucinations and delusions

5 ways to quiet auditory hallucinations

A practical guide to cope with hearing voices

Helping people who hear voices

Strategies for coping with distressing voices

Dealing with eating disorders

Why do we have to eat?

Why you should eat often + strategies

The reality of anorexia and bulimia

Recovering from an eating disorder

Recovery and relapse prevention

The dangers of diet pills and laxatives

the dangers of laxative abuse

Physical effects of an eating disorder

Recovery toolbox

Milestones in recovery

Understanding recovery

Making a recovery meal plan

What to do when you feel fat

Confidential eating disorder screening

Treatment services

Inpatient services (Australia)

Treatment centers (USA)

Treatment centers (Worldwide)

Online treatment program

Eating recovery center website

Different treatment settings

Treatment settings

Dealing with anger

Managing anger

Controlling anger

Dealing with anger and impulsivity  

Dealing with criticism

Gruntle.me

Click rocks

Bouncy balls

Dealing with insomnia/sleep deprivation

What time should I sleep?

Calculating the perfect bedtime + sleep efficiency

42 simple tips to deal with insomnia

10 tips to beat insomnia

How to make yourself so tired that you’ll fall asleep

11 ways to get to sleep and stay asleep

Trick yourself into dozing off

Natural remedies to help sleep

Natural remedies for sleep apnea

Restoring restful sleep

10 steps to recovering from insomnia

Recover after a sleepless night

How to fix snoring

How to pull an all nighter and still do well in an exam

Health benefits of sleep

Why sleep is so important

Audio meditation 

Sleep meditation

Guided meditation for sleep: floating among the stars

Journey to the stars: 1 hour sleep meditation

Dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder

Finding out about BPD

More info about BPD and treatment

Helping a loved one with BPD

BPD Recovery

BPD therapists

Treatments for BPD

Listed treatments for BPD

Self-help for BPD

Three herbs everyone with BPD should know about

Omega-3 fish oil helps BPD

Natural treatment for BPD

Natural treatments for BPD

Info about schema therapy

DBT self-help lessons

Everyday DBT

Self-help course in CBT

10 coping skills for BPD

Coping skills for BPD

Living with BPD

Mindfulness meditation resources

Services for BPD

UK services

USA services

More USA services

Australian services

Finding services for BPD help (Australia)

Dealing with sexual assault

Helping a friend or family member who was a victim

Coping with the after-effects of sexual assault

Man’s guide to helping female victims

Coping with rape

Coping with acquaintance rape

Coping with rape-related PTSD

Dealing with rape

UK helplines for male survivors

UK male survivors

When a man is raped (includes how to help victims)

Understanding and helping male survivors

Survivors Chat

Dealing with domestic violence and abuse

Steps to take if you are a victim of family abuse

Domestic violence and criminal harassment unit of the Vancouver Police Department

Canadian bar association- family violence

Vancouver coastal health services

Victims info

Domestic violence help

ywca domestic violence help

domestic abuse services

domestic violence resources

Places to stay 

Safe house

Napless shelter for women and children

YWCA women’s shelter

Australia:

Women’s domestic violence helpline: telephone [phone] free call 1800 007 339

Men’s domestic violence helpline: telephone [phone] free call 1800 000 599

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

http://www.violencefreefamilies.org.au/help_lines

USA

Crisis hotline: 1-888-7HELPLINE

Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center: 866-USWOMEN

Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD

http://www.thehotline.org/

Canada

Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD

Assaulted Women’s Helpline: GTA 416.863.0511 Toll free 1.866.863.0511 TTY 416.364.8762 Toll free TTY 1.866.863.7868 Mobile #SAFE(#7233)

http://www.hotpeachpages.net/canada/canada1.html

UK

Women’s Aid: 0808 2000 247

ManKind: http://www.mankind.org.uk/

Worldwide

http://www.hotpeachpages.net/

Learning to love yourself and be happy

21 tips to release self-neglect

9 ways to love yourself

Loving yourself

Let yourself be happier than you think you deserve

Who to fall in love with first

7 reasons to shamelessly love yourself

5 ways to love your body

17 reasons to love your body just the way it is

20 ways to love your body

Learning to love your body in 4 steps

Do I deserve to be happy?

100 reasons to be happy

300 reasons to be happy

Had a hard day?

28 tips to relax

Learn how to relax and sleep like a baby

14 ways to live a more relaxing life

40 ways to relax in 5 minutes

20 ways to relax and unwind

Jukebox time machine

Read any book

Colour quiz

Useless web

Pointless sites

Build a squid

Mario sequencer

Seaquence

Virtual Piano

Spot the difference

Internet Explorer 6

Falling falling

Heeeeey

Dealing with substance abuse

11 ways to handle substance abuse

How to quit smoking

Healthy alternatives to smoking

10 tips to quitting smoking

10 unusual quit-smoking tips

Tips to help you stop smoking

Quitting methods and what to expect- smoking

Overcoming drug addiction

How to beat drug addiction

The best way to quit using drugs

Ways to end drug addiction

How to help a friend quit drugs

Caring for someone with a drug problem

Alternatives to alcohol

Alternatives to drinking

Alcoholism-solutions

Alcohol abuse treatment and self-help

How to stop drinking alcohol

Health effects of alcohol

Alternatives to drugs and alcohol for solving our problems

Substance abuse helplines/services

US: National Drug Information Treatment and Referral Hotline: [phone]-HELP (4357)

US: Alcohol Abuse and Crisis Intervention: 1-800-234-0246

US: National Cocaine Hotline: 1-800-COCAINE (262-2463)

US: Al-Anon/Alateen Hotline (for friends and family) 1-800-344-2666

UK: Drinkline: Nat'l. Alcoholism Helpline: 0800 917 8282

NZ: Alcohol / Drug Helpline: 0800 787 797AUS: Alcohol & Other Drugs Information Service (ADIS): Freecall 1800 131 350

Australian helplines

More helplines

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Kitten Play -

Kitten Enchantment - Etsy 

 Pretty Kitty’s Palace - Etsy

One Knotty Toy - Etsy 

Freak Friends 4 U - Etsy 

Naughty Pleasures - Etsy 

Zuallala - Etsy

Kitten Treasures - Etsy 

Delicate Kitten’s Boutique - Etsy 

Little Q’s Oddities - Etsy 

Littlest Pet Play Shop - Etsy

KPP

Frisky Bad Kitty Plug - Amazon

Tavron’s Leather Stuff - Etsy

Kitten Necities - Etsy

Crystal Delights

Uber Kinky

Puppy/Wolf Play

Zuallala - Etsy

Kitten Treasures - Etsy 

Ani Magicka - Etsy

The Dogs Bollo XX - Etsy

Hoshiikins - Etsy

Tavron’s Leather Stuff - Etsy

1 2 3 Puppy Play Hoods - Amazon

Puppy Cock Ring - Amazon

Puppy Tail Plug - Amazon

Dog Tag Collar - Amazon

Silicone Bone Gag - BDSM Geek Shop 

Masquestake - Etsy

Just Fur Kicks - Etsy

KPP - Tumblr

PetPlay-Shop

The Well Kept Pet

Uber Kinky

Bunny Play

Little Q’s Oddities - Etsy 

Littlest Pet Play Shop - Etsy 

One Knotty Toy - Etsy 

KPP

Pocket Foxy - Etsy

Hoshiikins - Etsy

Tavron’s Leather Stuff - Etsy

Kinky Winky BDSM Shop - Etsy

Zuallala - Etsy

Ani Magicka - Etsy

Bunny Collar - Etsy

The Stockroom

Fox Play

One Knotty Toy - Etsy 

Ani Magicka - Etsy

Kyo Work Shop - Etsy

Hoshiikins - Etsy 

Pocket Foxy - Etsy

Trinity Leather - Etsy

13 Tails - Etsy

KPP - Tumblr

Nox Hyde - Etsy

Pony Play

Fet Leather - Etsy

Pony Play Mitts - Etsy

Buckle Down Studio Bit Gag - Etsy

Horse King - Etsy

The Pony Fun Factory - Etsy

The Maid Store

Sub Shop

The Stockroom

Joanna Lark

Fetish Pet Store

Uber Kinky

Tavron’s Leather Stuff - Etsy

Kinky Winky BDSM Shop - Etsy

Blondie Plug - Amazon

Master Series Plug - Amazon

Pig Play

Sub Shop

Nokturne Eclipse Pig Mask - Etsy

Bon BBDSM - Etsy

Silicone Pig Tail - Amazon

Pig Plug - Amazon

Fetish Pet Store

Misc. Animals

Little Panda’s Shop - Etsy - Deer tails and ears

Pocket Foxy - Etsy - Ram and Goat horns

Hoshiikins - Etsy - Instagram  - Deer Ears

Trish Dobson Designs - Etsy - Mythical Creatures

Zuallala - Etsy - Mythical Creatures

Jazz for Dogs Dragon Tail - Etsy

Mouse Ears - Etsy

Mouse Set - Amazon

Bear Set - Amazon

Bear Gloves - Amazon

Collars and Bondage Sets 

Nox Hyde - Etsy

Trinity Leather - Etsy

Pastel Kink - Etsy

Wonderland’s Playpen - Etsy

Liquid Nymph - Etsy

Dreamy Gear - Etsy

Toys

Zeta Paws

Frisky Beast

Damn Average - Etsy

Gespenst Fantasy Gear - Etsy

Primal Headwere

Blue Ritual

Tails and Portholes - Etsy