mentally ill and lovesick @thebeastroag - Tumblr Blog

tonysopranobignaturals-deactiva

wow there is so much wrong with you

anons from my therapist

darlingnote

i could just

die <3 but cutely <3

donyokunakodomo-deactivated2022

For the stalking thing, definitely try finding friends/relatives of theirs, their pages might be more open and you can see if they've tagged the person. Older relatives tend to not have their facebook settings too heavily privatised. Also if you have their full name, make sure to google it in quotation marks ie. "John Doe", that way you only get John Does and not other Johns or other Doe's. Good luck, stay safe!

Ur the one of the best persons ever omg thank u so much that’s so smart, I feel dumb lol <3<3 ur amaze

incel-moved-deactivated20210803

my idealized version of you would’ve never said that

i want to murder everyone

#vent

i should be allowed to kill myself when things don't go my way

#and that's on that #fuck accepting that the world doesn't revolve around me and my needs

viinnttaaggee

Do you ever try to be ok with something but the more and more you think about it, it just makes u sick to your stomach

mathsturbation

i am the shyest attention whore ever

such-justice-wow

I want attention!!! If you’re not busy… And you want to…. Its okay if you don’t

headspacedad

how about: I want attention! But if I have to ask for it its not REAL attention because you weren’t going to give it to me until I asked so it doesn’t count to fill the ‘need attention’ meter and now I’ve slightly embarrassed by it

tokillabutterfly

Or my personal favorite “I really want your attention but it has to be ALL your attention like you cant cuddle me and game or scroll social media on your phone I need you to literally sit there and cuddle me and nothing else”

Like seriously how can I ask for that? I usually just send the hint that I need cuddles and if he starts doing something else I pester him until he gets annoyed and no longer wants to give cuddles

softeninglikebutter

lifeafterpsychiatry

Don't get sucked into the "if they really cared I wouldn't have to say something" spiral. No matter how close you are with someone, it's unfair to expect them to know things you haven't actually communicated.

mrmeriwether

BUT!

If you HAVE communicated your wants/needs explicitly, and the other person acknowledges it yet makes no efforts to act on that, it IS fair to hold them to account.

There's a less common but still dangerous spiral where you may find yourself repeatedly communicating the same problem, then giving them the benefit of the doubt each time they fail to follow through.

It's impossible to know every single thing someone else is going through or thinking or feeling, but don't turn that into a "Get Out of Jail Free" card for them. Especially in close relationships, you are allowed to be an imposition now and then. You deserve to be a priority in someone else's life if you both care about each other.