I think a lot of people are afraid to tell traumatized people especially that they’re entitled to their negative emotions and we never really talk about the next step
so many people take so long before they’ll acknowledge what’s happened/happening to them is wrong and it’s okay to be angry about it or hurt
I’ve seen this as a trend that gained a lot of momentum over my…god I think 9 years of tumblr?
We all want our pain to be valid and unfortunately it’s very easy to stay stuck in that as it’s super reinforcing and it becomes your new normal fast. But staying there at the very least can hurt you, and worst will kill you.
You do not have to explicitly forgive people who have hurt you. You do not have to stop being critical. But you have to choose to seek some form of joy and you do have to try and make your life about more than spite.
I hate the trend telling people to do shit out of spite. Save it. Do shit for you. Succeed for yourself. Heal for yourself. Try new things and treat yourself well because you deserve it. You deserve every good thing you’ve ever hoped for.
Acknowledge pain. Acknowledge bad shit. Don’t stay there.