May I ask how you became do confident? Like, I mean, do you have any tips for those of us that are also learning to love ourselves? I know it's an on going process and will probably be on going for the rest of our lives but any advice is very welcomed if you have any to share, you look great
Things you can do to start learning to love your body:
Take photos of yourself whether selfies or full body photos
Don’t say anything negative out loud, try and change negatives to positives
Some people find drawing on their bodies helps
Follow some body positive blogs like @chubby-bunniesand@bodypositivewomen which can really help because you see all types of bodies and all types of positive posts.
Slowly work your way up to larger, bigger things, like more of yourself, liking things you don’t usually. You don’t have to like everything, be comfortable with everything straight away.
Work on understanding that your self-worth, your brilliance is not defined by how you look or how someone else sees your body
The only opinion of your worth that matters is your own
Sometimes man handling yourself can help, like playing with your hips and your stomach and realising that actually you like the feel of your hips and actually it’s not that bad.
Think of things about you like your personality or your clothing choice that you like. I.e. you like that you snort when you laugh or that you always have a joke at hand.
Talking to friends, asking friends how they feel about you can help. Friends telling you positives can have more of an impact than you doing that because you might not believe yourself.
Cut negative people out of your life and blog, it might not be anything personal against them, but if you’re dash is filled with other people who say they hate themselves then it can really hurt you, so it might be best to unfollow people like that until you’re at a stage where that doesn’t hurt your confidence but rather makes you want to help them.
New clothes, clothes that make you feel good
Pamper yourself, a bath with lots of bubbles or the nice moisturiser you like.
Try and think about yourself from another perspective, would you say those things about your friend’s body? No, then why are you saying them about yours.
Realise that skinny is not the epitome of beautiful, that weight is not something that should impact your beauty or your worth, and that how beautiful you are depends on how you view yourself. People have all sorts of bodies, big and small and your body is just one facet to you. Having a narrow view of what is beautiful is ridiculous, how is everyone going to have the same body?
Realise that people are attracted to different things and different people, will everyone be attracted to you? No, but there are people who will be. Same way we are and are not attracted to different people.
Surround yourself with positivity, when you look in that mirror say out loud good things even if it’s a few things at first, let yourself build up to saying more and more positive things
Realise it takes time and that that’s okay.
Take pictures, and keep ones that make you feel good to look at. You don’t have to post them anywhere, just have a folder of photos that make you feel good about yourself.
Realising that by listening to nasty people you’re only hurting yourself, only make yourself feel like this. That you don’t deserve to feel bad about yourself, that you can and should feel good about yourself
I’m not all the way there, I probably come across like i’m always confident and comfortable in my body and that’s certainly not true, i’m still working at it, but here’s some of the things that helped me. Its a slow and hard process, and at the start its always hardest but its worth it x
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