not a girl

sam • 26 • they/them • nonbinary butch lesbian

[nuancecomprehender]

my life isnt perfect but at least im not doing a mans laundry

[nuancecomprehender]

reading comprehension questions:

might there be a reason this post resonates with a lot of women?

can you describe the phenonemon of learned helplessness? give an example.

in what ways might the gender pay gap have influenced this post?

in most cultures, women are expected to do the majority of childrearing and domestic work, even if they also work outside of the home. in what ways does this influence the post?

[lowpawly]

disabled cats in warriors: i am...useless...I can never be a warrior...I am a burden to my clan...at least in starclan I will run again...

disabled cats in real life:

[gandalfsbignaturals]

learning to notice an absence of people of color is crazy. you start seeing it everywhere. ill see a random pic of characters or people or whatever and be like "these are all white people. why"

[ze-link]

i miss you season 4 ronance

[ithelpstodream]

[can-i-make-image-descriptions]

[Image ID: Tweet from . (@/ lilNativeBoy) on 11 Jan 18 reading: Native men aren’t breaking gender roles by having long hair and wearing earrings or being in touch with their feminine side you are just colonized /End ID]

[great-and-small]

I am constantly thinking about this

[great-and-small]

This mild Wikipedia sentence is like the understatement of all time

Here are some crazy grasshopper mouse facts for those who are not familiar with the most badass mouse species on the planet

- They are primarily carnivorous, and their diet is made up of not only bugs but also snakes, lizards and other mice.

- They hunt like true predators, slowly stalking and creeping up on their prey before ambushing them. They will sometimes let out a screech as they attack.

- Like wolves, they howl to establish territory and have a specially developed throat to produce louder vocalizations. They will stand up on their hind legs and throw their head back to howl- a sound that can be heard from 100 meters away!

- Grasshopper mouse behavior is linked to lunar cycles and they are more active during a full moon.

- These mice have been hunting bark scorpions and evolving alongside them for so long that they’ve evolved a mutation where scorpion venom that is lethal to other animals is converted into a painkiller in the grasshopper mouse’s body.

[depsidase]

[byjove]

Every time a school shooting is perpetrated by a student, there is this discussion around how they were ‘driven’ to this point by bullying and loneliness due to their snotty peers. The truth is that their peers had every fucking reason to want to stay the hell away from them and often that ‘bullying’ was telling the teachers and other students about the jaw-droppingly violent and bigoted shit the kid was saying. The awkward gay kid with no friends who is intensely bullied is not the kid shooting up the school, the sweet nerd with a heart of gold no one has seen yet is not the kid shooting up the school. It is the angry, vengeful, hate-filled kid who has outcast himself from his peers by terrifying the fuck out of them. There were signs. There were so many signs. But every authority figure is afraid to ‘ruin a young boy’s life’ by intervening and fucking doing something.

[byjove]

I fear school shootings are going to get sooooo much worse and more frequent, especially with this administration and the alt right telling young cishet white boys they’re bullied and oppressed because they’re not allowed to be racist and misogynistic and that their lives are inherently worth more than those of women and minorities.

[hikikomoricomplex]

perhaps as a general rule of thumb you should try to live your life in such a way that the whole world doesn’t immediately start celebrating like the ewoks at the end of Star Wars when you get brutally murdered on live TV

[workmitch]

Absolutely wild that Fujimoto said “In a world where the very concept of nuclear weapons has been erased from existence, America is so hellbent on warmongering that they will literally reinvent nuclear weapons from scratch just to kill more people, and then the American people will cheer for their use even as the bodies burn, causing the manifestation of War itself to fall in love with America” in his Shonen manga about a teen who transforms into a chainsaw-headed man in 2025

[thelawfulchaotic]

When I am appointed to represent a child, my first action is to separate them from their parents and tell them the following things:

1. I am their attorney. I do not work for their parent or the judge or the cops. I don’t care what any of those people want.

2. My job is to listen to them and try and make what they want happen in court. (At this point I make a joke about how most people want me to get them out of trouble but if someone wanted to be in trouble I would do my best.)

3. What they tell me is confidential. It goes nowhere unless they agree to it. (If old enough, I talk to them about mandatory reporters, and how I’m a mandatory non reporter.)

4. I will give them lots of advice because I’ve been doing court for a while and I know a lot about it, and they don’t. It’s all really complicated, and if they don’t understand what’s happening it’s my job to help them figure it out.

5. They will make the decisions. (At this point I usually have to reassure them that I’ll help, I’ll speak for them in front of the judge, and I’ve got their back. It’s scary to have an adult say you’re in charge, most of the time.)

6. I tell them I know it’s absolutely wild to have some stranger come in here and say “hey, you can trust me!” and that I get if they don’t believe everything right away, because I plan to show them through my actions and my words that I’ll fight for them.

7. But nonetheless, I will treat them like a person who can make decisions, because they are living their life and I am not.

I do not:

Pretend to be cool.

Try to be their BFF.

Overwhelm them with detail.

Let their parents in the room until the kid asks for them. (I provide openings for this, and ask if the kid wants their parent to help them remember and understand.)

I want to emphasize I went into this job knowing nothing about how to interact with vulnerable populations, especially children. The training was minimal, and my role means that I can literally walk into a facility and get an unmonitored visit with a minor client one on one.

In my years of practice I have never felt threatened by a child, even one that was “violent” and “unstable.” It turns out just saying “hi, I think you’re a person with thoughts” is wildly successful? Now people treat me like I have special Child Whisperer powers. My powers are that I ask the child what’s up and I’m not scared to say things that are objectively awkward. I know nothing about anything.

[rainbirdsky]

aw hell yeah

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Link.

[bonnetsharks]

ITS THE NIGHT YORB

[aazizam]

no one will come to save you but some will offer you their hand to hold when life gets tough and those are the ppl that matter

[bakwaaas]

to have failed is a sign you tried…. the mistakes, the relationships that didn’t make it, the job you didn’t get, the plans that fell through…. you tried, you lived, you loved.

[pollen]

Mary Oliver, from "Walking to Indian River"

[bakwaaas]

I do feel like this whole self improvement culture thing can go too far where people are never happy with who they are and where they are because they’re constantly trying to be better or do better and they’re always waiting for some sort of glow up or achievement or therapy realisation that will make them feel complete but that isn’t real and life is actually in the every day

[rawjoy]

u know what makes me cry..... that one van gogh quote about life changing for the better..... “many people seem to think it foolish, even superstitious, to believe that the world could still change for the better. and it is true that in winter it is sometimes so bitingly cold that one is tempted to say, ‘what do i care if there is a summer; its warmth is no help to me now.’ yes, evil often seems to surpass good. but then, in spite of us, and without our permission, there comes at last an end to the bitter frosts. one morning the wind turns, and there is a thaw. and so i must still have hope.” yeah..... Crying....