HELENA @thegiirlwhogotaway - Tumblr Blog

In case your brain is telling you otherwise: you deserve to feel genuinely good. In mind, in body, in spirit. You deserve to speak up, to be loud, to create room at the table and know you are wanted there. You deserve to ask for help and receive it, and to feel supported. You deserve to have others show up for you, as well as show up for yourself. You deserve one heck of a community.

You deserve to make a big deal out of things that are a big deal to you.

You deserve to give love and feel love and not second guess any of it.

You deserve to be here.

credits: briannapastor on ig

gonzos-humansona

my hips don't lie but they will exaggerate details, misrepresent the facts, and on occasion deceive via omission of crucial information

yorksnapshots

Blossom through the ruins.

stuckinapril

Realizing everyone sucks and that you should just do whatever you want without worrying so much about what they have to say is so freeing. So many people who’ve made me feel small ended up possessing attributes that I don’t admire at all.

stuckinapril

what advice would you give to a 19 year old?

just bc you find someone hot or funny doesn’t mean you should immediately date them, just because someone gives you attention doesn’t mean they’re the right person for you, being 19 is not “old” and you should embrace it rather than dread it, work out now so your future self can thank u later, use your planner, network w your professors because you’ll never know when you’ll need their connections in the future, stop fucking comparing, everyone’s secretly struggling, no one is worth putting on a pedestal, decentralize dating in general tbh, having a crush is fine but don’t obsess, interrogate yourself on what you truly want, explore new things (stop sticking so religiously to your comfort zone), nothing on your phone is that deep, have a plan for the future (it’s okay if it changes), put effort into friendships but don’t chase people, put yourself out there because it really does amount to something, decentralize luxury brands bc that shit is overrated as fuck, journal more, experiment w fashion and perfume and your general style, having social media is ok but spend less time on your phone in general, not everyone will like you and that is okay, you won’t like everyone and that is okay, don’t take people’s reactions so personally, don’t take yourself so seriously, invest in therapy

thegiirlwhogotaway

my bible for the upcoming year

stuckinapril

Aging has been so kind to me tbh bc when you’re in your teens (even as far as your late teens) you truly do think you know it all and you’ll forever plateau at the mental state you’re at and that it doesn’t get “better” from there it just gets more tolerable. And then you get a lil older and you do 180 degree takes on so many topics and you realize that you ARE malleable and that in fact you do change and morph and you’re not doomed to thinking like you did at 17. Change is so very real

stuckinapril

I think this is a marked problem for me bc I do in fact do this thing where I don’t trust the process of change & I doubt things that don’t immediately manifest in front of me. But all I really need to do is look back at when I was like 18 to know that the “good” brand of change I crave is so very tangible & it has happened to me many times before. And even at 22 I struggle w thinking I know it all but genuinely knows how I’ll be like at 25. It’s hard to see myself as being different but I’m viscerally different from when I was 17 18 19 and I would’ve never foreseen that either

tordenvejr

more sensuality, more sexuality, more pleasure, more presence. embracing desire, and deepening intimacy with yourself, the world and the beyond

avicecaro

i want to shake many young women and say you can grow in private. and what i mean by that is that you don’t have to publicly self-flagellate when you don’t know something or when you say something a little insensitive or whatever else. you don’t have to report your Bad Thoughts and Ignorance to the crowd who waits to judge you. you do not have to pay penance. you do not have to issue public statements. nothing more is gained from burying yourself in shame than you could gain by thinking “oh i don’t know about this” and looking it up real quick, or thinking “hm, that wasn’t how i want to behave, i’ll do different next time” and then moving on with your life. no need to choke yourself with it.

whenstherapy

Might be the year I delete all social media…..I’m tireddddd…too much comparing . I forget that I am cool and beautiful and smart and interesting all on my own sometimes. I think that humans were not made for whatever is happening with technology the past few years

joytri

thank you to trees and also rain

pollen

what are you waiting for? someone to grant you permission? the perfect and permanent emotion? a shooting star to magic away every problem you have or ever have had? alright, wait away then. but no one is going to live your life for you while you wait to become someone else