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Self discipline and femininity

Reprogramming my mind set and physical form from masculine and aggressive to feminine and soft has been one of the most challenging and disciplined things I’ve had to endure. The amount of self discipline Ive had to build up whilst starting off living with a masculine mother & sister is incredible and I’m proud of myself for my achievements.

Here’s some things I did to reprogram my masculine mindset:

Constant reminders

Whenever I woke up I could see my white board in front of my bed with whatever affirmation or quote I had written on it along side with goals and I constantly reminded myself why I was doing what I was doing (to better myself & my future) and that I needed to keep pushing no matter what. I also wrote little notes to myself every day and put them everywhere so that I could constantly see them.

Self control

Living with a toxic masculine mother definitely influenced me to be the same way, the constant arguing and screaming in deep voices became routine for me and I couldn’t stand it anymore. So whenever the temptation came to argue back, or do something I knew was aggressive/masculine I would go on YouTube and watch the same video to keep me calm or listen to music, watch a show, remind myself about my journey and how arguing with her or anyone else would only set me back and further destroy my femininity. A big thing I did to get away from her negative masculine self was I stayed out the house a lot, I got a job, made friends, went for long walks, searched up things to do around my city on google, I even learned how to use the bus by downloading an app called "Moovit" Learning about breath control, emotional intelligence, and holding your tounge can get you a long way. Arguing with ignorant people or trying to get them to see the point is a waste of time and you could go make money or paint your nails instead.

Emotional intelligence:

You need to do research about emotional intelligence and master it because in order to deal with life and be happy in general your gonna need it. Honestly in my opinion if you don’t have emotional intelligence you can’t be feminine "on the inside" if that makes sense. It might seem boring but you gotta push through and do some things that you don’t feel like doing if you wanna change your ways of life.

Get a notebook dedicated to leveling up/femininity etc.

Write in your notebook everyday it can be about anything concerning your journey, @2pretty has a dream girl book that comes with instructions I’ve actually purchased it and it’s really fun to use and helpful. (I’ll be doing a mini review on it later) The thing with notebooks is that we/ me often neglect using them sometimes. You have to push yourself to use it everyday or at least read some pages you’ve already written, or use it every other day if you can. Writing your goals, about your day, ways to improve your life can be really beneficial and it still is beneficial to me because it become like a constant conversation that keeps me motivated. Reading pages that I wrote in the past allows me to see my growth and how I’ve changed over time and it’s something fun to look back on.

Practice in the mirror:

One thing that is really important to me is having a more soft feminine voice, I read that Marilyn Monroe would practice her facial expressions for hours everyday in the mirror so one day I decided to practice speaking softly in the mirror. I still practice this in order to master the voice/tone that I would like to have without forcing it or being fake. Whatever you want to achieve see if you can practice it in the mirror, some things you can try are

Conversation

Voice/tone practice

Expressions

Makeup

Flirting

Admiring yourself

Dealing with certain situations (conflict, handling men/ women, saying no etc.)

Something I also wanted to talk about is the fact that your not going to be motivated every day regardless of what your doing. Your not going to be motivated to make yourself up everyday or practice something everyday etc. But that’s why you need self-discipline because even when you don’t feel motivated your self- discipline will kick in and get the job done.

I push myself everyday to improve myself because I know the life I’m striving to live and that I personally can’t continue to live in my masculine energy if I want to achieve my goals. Femininity is something that I actually enjoy and love and I wouldn’t ever trade it to become the masculina that I once was.

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Guys…. I didn’t think it would work but wtf….I just checked my email…

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Fuck it, I need the money 😂

[deadmugen]

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[sensualites]

TO TRULY ENJOY ADULTHOOD:

1. Actively seek out new interests regularly. Refrain from allowing your life to become stagnant, especially in your free time. Prioritize your joy.

2. Search for likeminded people. Debunk the myth that people don’t “make friends” as adults. They can, and do. It makes the journey more blissful.

3. Travel as frequently as you can, even if it’s just a neighboring town/city/state. Do it as a means of constantly reminding yourself the world is bigger than your line of sight. Remind yourself often.

4. Change. In as many areas as you can. Not because what you have is deficient or inadequate, but because life works best when you’re not too strictly attached. Set health/financial/social goals, and work to achieve them. Thrive in your daily life.

5. Prioritize friendships as much as romantic relationships, never allow yourself to feel as though you will crumble in the absence of a lover.

6. Give yourself as many options as you can. Always keep it at the back of your mind that you hold the ability to choose, and you will never settle.

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YOUR WELL-BEING

“To optimize living in the present, you must consider your overall well-being. Which can be described simply as perceiving the different aspects of your life as good. It includes feeling happy, healthy, socially connected, and intentional. When you consciously go through the hours, days, and weeks in a way that honors your well-being, you will be better equipped to become a better version of yourself and live out your life’s purpose.”

Physical

Is your diet rich in fresh fruits, fresh vegetables, whole grains, legumes, and lean proteins?

Do you avoid processed meats and sugar?

Are you meal portions sized appropriately?

Do you hydrate well throughout the day?

Do you incorporate at least 30 minutes of physical activity each day?

Do you get 7-9 hours of good quality sleep per night?

Do you schedule at least two breaks during work hours?

Do you make enough time to rest and relax?

Intellectual

Are you curious to learn about new topics, people, places, cultures, and ways of thinking?

Are you open to new ideas that challenge previous thoughts?

Do you seek activities outside of your comfort zone?

Are you willing to ask questions and risk embarrassment when unsure of a topic?

Do you value growth and learning more than appearing to know what you’re doing?

Do you perceive mistakes and failures as opportunities for growth?

Do you engage in sharing your knowledge as a way of helping others grow?

Emotional

Do you allow yourself to feel the full range of emotions including sadness and anger without trying to escape or numb?

Have you taken the time to understand why certain things or people trigger you?

Do you build in a pause before reacting to stressful situations?

Do you often practice mindfulness by slowing down, engaging your senses, and being present?

Do you combat your negative inner voice and positive self-talk?

Are you able to recover well from disappointments?

Do you make enough time for activities that spark joy for you?

Financial

Do you avoid comparing your lifestyle and financial situation to others?

Do you live within your means? Are your monthly expenses lower than your monthly income?

Do you review where your money goes by tracking your spending in different categories?

Do you have a rainy day or emergency fund in case of a major unexpected expense, disaster, or unemployment?

Do you have a 401K or other retirement account set up for the future?

Would you describe yourself as financially secure?

Social

Do you feel a sense of belonging?

Are you able to be vulnerable, honest, and candid among close friends or family?

Do you avoid isolating yourself and instead turn to friends and family when you’re feeling pain, shame, or loneliness?

Do you make enough time for people who lift you up and bring out the best in you?

Do you take ownership of your feelings and avoid blaming others?

Are you an active listener when friends or family bid for your attention?

Do you empathize and offer comfort when others turn to you?

Spiritual

Do you have a clear understanding of what matters most to you?

Do your life choices align with your values?

Do you practice daily gratitude?

Do you believe that there are certain things beyond your control?

Do you feel connected to something larger than yourself and the stresses of everyday life?

Do you have a good sense of purpose and are walking in the direction of living out a fulfilling life?

Do you feel like your are making a positive impact on others?

Do you make an effort to spread kindness?

[shelbys-advice-blog]

I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants

Getting an apartment

Money

earn rewards by taking polls

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

how to get free therapy

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

how to avoid a hangover

a list of stress relievers

how to remove a splinter

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to knit

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

100 tips for life

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)

How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)

Education

How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)

How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)

Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)

How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)

Finances

How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)

How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)

Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)

What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)

Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)

Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting

How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)

How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)

How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)

10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)

Life Skills

Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)

Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)

Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)

How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)

How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)

How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)

Miscellaneous

What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)

Relationships

Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)

How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple  and catastrofries)

Travel & Vehicles

How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)

How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)

Other Blog Features

Apps for Asshats

Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders

Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)

Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)

Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)

Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)

Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)

Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)

Adult Cheat Sheet:

what to do if your pet gets lost

removing stains from your carpet

how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps

throwing a dinner party

i’m pregnant, now what?

first aid tools to keep in your house

how to keep a clean kitchen

learning how to become independent from your parents

job interview tips

opening your first bank account

what to do if you lose your wallet

tips for cheap furniture

easy ways to cut your spending

selecting the right tires for your car

taking out your first loan

picking out the right credit card

how to get out of parking tickets

how to fix a leaky faucet

get all of your news in one place

getting rid of mice & rats in your house

when to go to the e.r.

buying your first home

how to buy your first stocks

guide to brewing coffee

first apartment essentials checklist

coping with a job you hate

30 books to read before you’re 30

what’s the deal with retirement?

difference between insurances

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. [phone]

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. [phone]

Relationships Australia Tel. [phone]

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. [phone]

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

(source)

Keep me updated? xx

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Life hacks for the win

[culturedbelle-deactivated202209]

Self discipline and femininity

Reprogramming my mind set and physical form from masculine and aggressive to feminine and soft has been one of the most challenging and disciplined things I’ve had to endure. The amount of self discipline Ive had to build up whilst starting off living with a masculine mother & sister is incredible and I’m proud of myself for my achievements.

Here’s some things I did to reprogram my masculine mindset:

Constant reminders

Whenever I woke up I could see my white board in front of my bed with whatever affirmation or quote I had written on it along side with goals and I constantly reminded myself why I was doing what I was doing (to better myself & my future) and that I needed to keep pushing no matter what. I also wrote little notes to myself every day and put them everywhere so that I could constantly see them.

Self control

Living with a toxic masculine mother definitely influenced me to be the same way, the constant arguing and screaming in deep voices became routine for me and I couldn’t stand it anymore. So whenever the temptation came to argue back, or do something I knew was aggressive/masculine I would go on YouTube and watch the same video to keep me calm or listen to music, watch a show, remind myself about my journey and how arguing with her or anyone else would only set me back and further destroy my femininity. A big thing I did to get away from her negative masculine self was I stayed out the house a lot, I got a job, made friends, went for long walks, searched up things to do around my city on google, I even learned how to use the bus by downloading an app called "Moovit" Learning about breath control, emotional intelligence, and holding your tounge can get you a long way. Arguing with ignorant people or trying to get them to see the point is a waste of time and you could go make money or paint your nails instead.

Emotional intelligence:

You need to do research about emotional intelligence and master it because in order to deal with life and be happy in general your gonna need it. Honestly in my opinion if you don’t have emotional intelligence you can’t be feminine "on the inside" if that makes sense. It might seem boring but you gotta push through and do some things that you don’t feel like doing if you wanna change your ways of life.

Get a notebook dedicated to leveling up/femininity etc.

Write in your notebook everyday it can be about anything concerning your journey, @2pretty has a dream girl book that comes with instructions I’ve actually purchased it and it’s really fun to use and helpful. (I’ll be doing a mini review on it later) The thing with notebooks is that we/ me often neglect using them sometimes. You have to push yourself to use it everyday or at least read some pages you’ve already written, or use it every other day if you can. Writing your goals, about your day, ways to improve your life can be really beneficial and it still is beneficial to me because it become like a constant conversation that keeps me motivated. Reading pages that I wrote in the past allows me to see my growth and how I’ve changed over time and it’s something fun to look back on.

Practice in the mirror:

One thing that is really important to me is having a more soft feminine voice, I read that Marilyn Monroe would practice her facial expressions for hours everyday in the mirror so one day I decided to practice speaking softly in the mirror. I still practice this in order to master the voice/tone that I would like to have without forcing it or being fake. Whatever you want to achieve see if you can practice it in the mirror, some things you can try are

Conversation

Voice/tone practice

Expressions

Makeup

Flirting

Admiring yourself

Dealing with certain situations (conflict, handling men/ women, saying no etc.)

Something I also wanted to talk about is the fact that your not going to be motivated every day regardless of what your doing. Your not going to be motivated to make yourself up everyday or practice something everyday etc. But that’s why you need self-discipline because even when you don’t feel motivated your self- discipline will kick in and get the job done.

I push myself everyday to improve myself because I know the life I’m striving to live and that I personally can’t continue to live in my masculine energy if I want to achieve my goals. Femininity is something that I actually enjoy and love and I wouldn’t ever trade it to become the masculina that I once was.

[thehushedhustle]

Oh the accuracy 😂😂

[sugargirlglowup]

Whole Food Diet/Lifestyle

Green All Good!

Fruit Choices (GO!)

Apple 

Apricots 

Blackberries 

Blueberries 

Cantaloupe 

Cherries 

Dates

Figs

Grapefruit

Grapes 

Honeydew melon 

Kiwi

Mandarin oranges 

Mango

Nectarine

Orange

Papaya

Peach

Pears

Pineapple

Plums

Prunes

Raisins 

Raspberries 

Strawberries 

Tangerines 

Watermelon

Fruit Juice Choose 1/2c to 1c of 100 per- cent fruit juice with no sugar

Apple juice/cider Cranberry juice cocktail Fruit juice blends Grape juice

Grapefruit juice Orange juice

Pineapple juice

Prune juice

Natural Sweeteners

Honey

Maple Syrup

Blackstrap Molasses

Vegetable Choices (GO!)

Artichoke Asparagus

Bean sprouts Beets

Broccoli Brussels sprouts

Cabbage

Carrots

Cauliflower

Celery

Cucumber

Eggplant

Green onions or scallions Greens

Green beans Kohlrabi Leeks Mushrooms Okra

Onions

Pea Pods

Peppers

Radishes

Salad greens

Salsa and picante sauce Sauerkraut

Spinach

Squash Tomatoes Turnips

Water chestnuts Watercress Zucchini

Meat Choices and Fish (GO!) No more than 3g of fat per oz (hopefully all grass-fed)

Beef

Eggs

Round

Sirloin

Flank steak Tenderloin

Roast

Steak

Ground beef (lean) Corned beef

Short ribs

Prime rib (trimmed) Pork

Ham

Canadian bacon Tenderloin

Center loin chop Boston butt

Poultry

Chicken

Turkey

Cornish hen

Duck

Goose, Fish & Shellfish Choices (GO!)

Clams

Cod

Crab 

Flounder 

Haddock 

Halibut 

Lobster 

Trout 

Tuna 

Herring 

Oysters 

Salmon 

Catfish 

Sardines 

Scallops 

Shrimp

Cheese Choices (GO!) No more than 6g of fat per oz.

Cheese, low fat Cottage cheese Reduced fat cheddar Parmesan

Feta Mozzarella Ricotta

Organic yogurt

YELLOW-LIGHT FOODS: CAUTION! (CUT BACK)

Carbohydrates: Consume only 5 carb choices per day from this group (1 carb choice= 15 grams Total CHO)

Breads (CAUTION!) Bagel

Bread

Cereals

Crackers

English muffin

Hot dog or HB bun Pasta

Pita

Popcorn

Roll

Tortilla

Baked beans Banana

Corn

Lentils

Lima beans

Peas

Plantain

Potato Squash, winter Yam

Beverages (CAUTION!)

Beer (8 oz)

Wine (3-4 oz)

Hard Liquor (1 oz) Non-diet Soft Drinks (8 oz)

The Best Fat Choices: 6 servings per day

Monounsaturated

Avocado

Oil (canola, olive, peanut) Olives

Nuts

Peanut butter

Sesame seeds

Tahini paste

Almonds

Cashews

Sunflower seeds

Pumpkin seeds

Polyunsaturated: **Avoid saturated fat, which is animal fat found in meat and dairy products; eat low-fat meats, milk and cheeses.

Margarine

Mayonnaise

Oil (corn, safflower, soybean) Salad dressing

RED-LIGHT FOODS: STOP! DON’T BUY

NO additional bread or cereals

NO additional puddings or ice cream

NO cookies (dry or sweet), cake, or pastry unless you drop 2 CHO choices

NO thick sauces or thick soups unless you drop 1

CHO choice

NO sugar, syrup, chocolate, sweets, coca, honey, jam un- less you drop 1 CHO choice

NO additional alcoholic drinks, sweetened fruit drinks, or sugar-sweetened carbonated beverages

[6i]

it takes years to develop your craft. do not romanticize the idea of an ‘overnight success’. be a student. grow organically. get really good. hate your work. start over. find new ways to express the same ideas. the student becomes the master. your time will come.

[thehushedhustle]

Idk about y’all but I needs all 7 👏

1.Resale Profits-Income from buying and selling

2.Earned Profits-Income from working a job

3.Capital Gains-Assets increasing in value

4.Dividend Income-Income from owning stocks

5.Rental Property-Income from renting a house

6.Royalties-Income from others using your idea

7.Interest Income-Income from lending money

[iamalishawhite]

GREAT SPIRITUAL PRACTICES FOR BAD BISHES.

1. Hydrate yourself, drink loads of water 💦 spring, alkaline water is best.

2. Sweat, move your body frequently.

3. Light therapy (red & blue light blockers)

4. Niacin - natural supplement. 

5. Unplug your WiFi and turn off your phone while you sleep.

5. Ground yourself often in nature.

6. Sun Gazing or Moon Gazing

7. Breathe Work (I recommend Wim Hof method)

8. Crystals

9. Juice for 7 day & detox your body.

10. Colon Cleanse.

11. Take short naps to reenergise the body.

12. Tell people to “Fuck Off” when necessary. 

13. Learn to be alone and enjoy your own company.

14. Get to know herbs and essential oils and their healing properties. 

[sk-lumen]

Hi Lumen, first off I apologize if this type of question has already been answered or if I am long-winded. How exactly does one go about changing and improving their life when starting from zero? I have had depression and ADHD since I was a kid and it (and, of course, myself) has kept me behind in life. Now that my symptoms are being treated…I’m unsure of how to go forward. I don’t really have any hobbies, skills, or goals. My apartment is a mess, I spend a lot of time on social media, and I have no structure in my day. I do want to change my life and level up if you will, but a lot of tips I see online are for people who already have a general structure or foundation in their life. I was hoping for some tips for those of us with none. How do you go about developing a routine, skills, hobbies, etc from zero? Thank you. 🤍

Hi darling,

First off, let me say how brave you are for being honest with yourself and making the conscious choice to turn things around!

I was in your shoes 2-3 years ago, before I started my glow up journey, so I can completely relate to the feeling of being lost, finding my life a chaos... and the only certainty I had was that I was absolutely determined to create a better life for myself.

For this reason, I curated a masterlist below for all the posts, articles and guides I've written either on tumblr or on my blog. My advice is right now start with tidying up your home, because a clean, organized home will inspire a clean, organized mental & emotional landscape. It starts there.

Then it's time for reading and research! You should focus on leveling up your mindset, for it will always be your foundation for everything else.

I've ordered each list in chronological order for one's glow up process, building in complexity and experience; and also highlighted the ones that will be most useful for someone starting from zero.

Mindset:

My 30-day mindset glow up challenge (tag)

How to develop a growth mindset

11 Keys to a successful mindset

Traits of successful entrepreneurs and CEOs

Prioritize your mental health in your 9-to-5 job with these strategies

Why you keep failing your yearly goals (and how to fix it)

Why you should stop associating productivity with self worth

Truths that have changed my life

Glowing up:

How to get (and keep) Your Life Together 101

Tips to get started on your journey of self development

Things I wish I knew at 21 (a letter to my past self)

What I wish I knew before starting my glow up journey

The healing power of morning rituals

How to be happy (you deserve the gift of happiness)

How to cultivate inner peace: daily practices

How to be a high value woman

Cheatcodes that will elevate your life

Selflove / Selfcare:

Things that encourage self-love in your journey of healing

The stages of living authentically

The art of being your authentic self

What happens when you embody your authentic self...

A manifesto of selflove

What happens when you practice self love daily...

Ways we self-sabotage & how to stop It

My journey of healing: how selflove & selfcare changed my life

It’s time for you to heal: a guided meditation

Essential selfcare habits for entrepreneurs

Finances:

5 secrets to stay on top of your finances

Tips for smart shopping

Fashion:

How to be classy

My guide for classy nails

Tips to always look polished

Relationships:

Toxic vs. healing relationships

Things every woman should know about love

How to get over a break up: a guide for healing

Why the “ride or die” mentality Is self-sabotage

8 dating commandments of the high value woman

Red flags of low value men (LVM)

Green flags of the high value man (HVM)

High value: misconceptions, what it is and what it's not

High value dating: do’s and don’ts

5 things stopping you from high-value dating & how to overcome them

How to know you’ve found the one

As someone who had to learn these things the hard way, I hope sharing my experiences and advice proves as useful to others as it was for me. 💞✨

You can bookmark this list and go over it at your own pace, by your own rules. The point is to just start. Much luck darling! 🥂

-Lumen

[introverted-sugar]

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[thevirgodoll]

How to have 'dream girl' energy?

Dream Girl Energy

•Create an air of mystery. Never reveal more than you need to about yourself. This generates interest and a desire to be involved in your life, considering you’re not bearing all of it on social media. It’s as if only certain people get access to you, and everyone is aware of that.

•Don’t take things too personally. Know that what others do is a reflection of themselves, not you. Everyone is acting on their own interest. You don’t know their full story, the same way someone doesn’t know yours. 

•Become a woman of substance. Have qualities that are hard to come by. Have talents that are enriching. Have emotional intelligence, as well as academic intelligence. Be well versed in multiple topics.

•Be a queen of socialization. It’s all about being skilled on how to hold a conversation and keep it. Be able to actively listen to the other person. Ask open ended questions. Have a conversation where you both mutually enjoy the topic. Small talk is everything (family, occupation, recreation, dreams, culture). Smile, have eye contact, calm body language, and an inviting voice that keeps them wanting more of you.

•Have a circle of friends that are genuine, loyal, high maintenance, and trustworthy. If not a circle, have one or two reliable best friends that match your level of energy. Everyone else may think they’re close to you, but they’re acquaintances. Let them think they know you. Follow up with close ones you care about. Make it a point to get back to them, and link up twice a month if possible.

•Ignore all negativity from outsiders. Don’t give them your energy. Be aware of what’s being said, but don’t react. Don’t confirm anything or deny. Avoid subliminal messages and petty banter. All of that is beneath you.

•Embrace your individuality. No one else can be you. Fall in love with the way you speak, walk, talk, and operate. Everything is graceful and poised. Your energy is contagious and vivacious. People have nothing but good things to say, because you have the same respect for yourself.

•Growth is your goal. Dedicate your energy to things that feed your soul. Always look to better yourself. Strengthen your spirit and your faith. Look to God before you look to someone else. Never stop learning.

•Have boundaries, and enforce them. Never let someone disrespect your core boundaries. These boundaries are your personal code of ethics. Decide what that means for you, whether with self, love life, friendships, or family relationships.

•Be your own best friend first. The ins and outs of you should intrigue you just as much as they intrigue everyone else. Befriend yourself and date yourself. Acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses. Reflect on a healthy level, and assess what you can do differently when met with challenges.

•Create a signature presentation. Your hair, makeup, perfume, clothing, mannerisms, voice, and overall aura will all contribute to the signature dream girl presentation. Have your aesthetic down pat and be consistent. Only let up in the privacy of your home. When seeing others, always be in character.

•Have a routine. Whether you know it or not, your morning, night, and pampering routine will seal in your presentation and mental health. Be consistent with this, and notice when you need to check in with yourself.

•Take days off. To avoid burnout, center your off days around your mental health. Know what you need and what makes you feel better. Have your down days, so you avoid snapping on anyone or getting out of character. Never let anyone see you slip. Retreat privately, and face your battles privately before revealing them to anyone first. Give yourself time to process before allowing others in your space.

•Put your dreams, goals, and desires first. The outside noise does not matter. It’s about what you think and what you want. Make it happen, no matter how long it takes. It doesn’t matter how far fetched your dreams seem to others, make it a reality for you.

•Live a life of luxury regardless. Know that you don’t need material things to live a life of luxury and bliss. Remember that they are simply attainable perks to your life. Your life is already luxurious and blissful, because you expect nothing less out of yourself. It’s a mindset you’ve fostered.

•Remember that people look up to you. You are an object of desire for many. You have the power, and you possess more of it than you could ever imagine.

•Count your blessings. Be thankful for everything in life. Never feel entitled. This energy is rare in a world full of people who feel entitled to everything. Be humble, all while knowing what you deserve. You’ll be richly rewarded.

[thehushedhustle]

[13chancess]

push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.

push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.

get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.

stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.

buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.

buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.

strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.

organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.

have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.

push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.

message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.

think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.

become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.

lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.

[trishstark]

live your life to the fullest

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