ENFJs I’ve Met (by an INFJ)
What I noticed and observed about them: (3 FEMALES & 3 MALES)
Almost all of the ENFJs I know are extremely approachable and friendly. They’re like a breath of fresh air. Their vibes are just so nice and infectious.
However, two of the ENFJ females I know may seem snobbish at first–probably due to their second dominant function; Ni (which causes them to overthink and not be aware of their face). I highly doubt they mean it though–their caring actions say otherwise, anyway.
When you converse with them, you’ll notice that they have this glow in their face that just makes you want to keep talking. They have the ability to make people feel comfortable and special.
They mold themselves as they talk to people. They know what the other person is into or what the other person is going through–and they will use their interpersonal skills to know exactly what to talk about. And how to act. They are the ultimate chameleons.
They hold onto what they feel is right and wrong, and will feel insulted/disgusted if they see other people not behaving in a way that they don’t believe in–but will keep it to themselves to avoid conflict (unless they are the more assertive ENFJs).
Almost all of the ones I know are musically-inclined and love using their music abilities to gather people together and jam with them; or well, to impress their crushes.
The ENFJ guys I know are the “larger-than-life” type of guys. They really stand out because of their lively, childish, yet determined personality.
Most of the ENFJs I know are charismatic. When they talk, people quiet down because they know that they have something meaningful to say. Or derpy. There is no in-between.
These are the peacemakers. Sure, they have strong opinions– but they’re mostly focused on what’s good for everyone. They don’t like taking sides because they want to be fair; and want to take the time to understand both.
Some of the ENFJs I know don’t really know themselves. They aren’t the most introspective individuals since they focus more on others–so sometimes this may lead to them not knowing much about what they truly like. I remember one of my ENFJ friends was asked what her favorite music genre was by an acquaintance– and she didn’t know how to answer; like she was afraid that she’d end up saying the wrong genre.
They actually rant a lot to their close friends about how they truly feel about certain people–but when they are faced with the people they were ranting about–they act as if they hadn’t said anything bad about them behind their back…and what more is that they act like they’re best friends with them. Their chameleon skills are impressive.
They aren’t as organized as ESFJs, but they have their own way of being organized. They’re just much more chill than ESFJs. And forgetful.
Seeing them in action is so entertaining. Organizing events, talking to people, helping people, reciting in class. It’s like they were born to make the world a much easier place.
Some of the ENFJs I know had a difficult time getting out of toxic relationships. They wouldn’t give up on their significant other even if the bad outweighed the good in the relationship. They really do focus on the good of people.
Some of the ENFJs I know could be mistaken for being flirty because they don’t ever turn off their charm (even when they’re uninterested). And this could lead the trouble if they aren’t single.
ENFJs are softies at heart. I swear, they have a lot of love to share. Even if they don’t show it–you’ll notice it eventually. They love romantic movies! (Even the guys) Such a giveaway.
Well, what do you guys think? Agree or disagree? :)
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