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Are yall still together???

Unfortunately we are not. I don't go on here any longer, but I leave it up as inspiration because things were great for a long time and we definitely think it could work for other people.

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“There are some people you’ll never see again. At least, not in the same way.”

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Iain Thomas

I did 😊 dump him. Thank you ❤ that relationship was damaging my self-esteem. Yeah I asked the girl from my very first threesome (I've only been in 3) and she said I didn't smell bad whatsoever. I can't believe he would say such mean and hurtful things but his words can't hurt me anymore. He ignored my feelings and needs. Said once we got me a girlfriend, she would give me the affection I needed. I told him that was bullshit. In a triage everyone should feel loved, safe, and included ❤

That is good to hear!! I'm glad you are happy with your decision and I agree with everything you said! Good luck going forward!

If you have a problem with me because my relationship is a sin and I am going to hell because of it, how about instead of yelling at me you pray for me. You can pretend I have a terminal disease and you want me to get the most out of the time I have left.

Me at 4am

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Hi I'm Jess and I'm struggling with jealousy. My partner and I had a threesome the other day and he kept making comments like "best pussy I ever had" and "best tasting pussy" see he went down on her and he nevers wants to go down on me. He has OCD and he's very peculiar with smells and apparently I smell bad. The girl went down on me and she really liked it. Also he never wants to make out and I really like making out. The girl did want to make out with me a lot. Am I making a big deal?

I'm so sorry it took me a while to respond. This is a difficult one. I hate to be too judgemental when all I know is what you've typed, but this just sounds like a sketchy situation. As a guy I can't ever imagine comparing y'all to your face like that. I don't feel like you can have a healthy relationship that way. I mean it's all good to brag a bit about the other girl if y'all are on the same page, but the fact that it seems to be going one way does send up a bunch of alarms. I'm not sure what the best plan of action is especially since you and the other girl seem to be hitting it off a bit. I'm sorry if this seems rushed, but I realized I never responded and did not want to forget again! Please feel free to elaborate or ask more questions if it's not too late. Best of luck either way!

Any suggestions on how people explore polyamory in the Bible Belt?

This is always a tough question regardless of where you are. I pretty much fell into my current relationship so I'm not sure how to lead you there from point A. One obvious but over judged way is apps like tinder. For example, if you are a couple, you can make a profile saying you are looking for a threesome...in more graceful words. While this is not exactly the same thing. You are most definitely going to find a pool of people who are more likely to be into that kind of thing. Also many people never even think of it as an option, so you may should the curiosity of a casual tinder goer. One of us actually had an experience like this before our relationship. Also this may be the quickest way to find out if the two of you can really handle each other being with someone else. Obviously you should always proceed with caution and not force anyone into an uncomfortable and relationship ruining experience. As far as being in the Bible belt, I'm not sure if there is a simple answer. There are all types of people in every part of the country. They just have to hide a bit more depending on where you are. I live in a relatively liberal college town so we do not have to be too secretive, but it's definitely discomforting at times. Hopefully something I said helped a little. Feel free to ask more questions!!

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“I like people with depth, I like people with emotion, I like people with a strong mind, an interesting mind, a twisted mind, and also someone that can make me smile.”

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Abbey Lee Kershaw

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polyamandhellaglam

Adding people in your relationship or opening up a previously monogamous relationship is wonderful and is totally a healthy relationship choice. But you have to remember, this will not fix a broken relationship. If you don’t feel like you love your partner anymore, opening your relationship won’t make you love them more, it will just be a way for you to excuse staying in a relationship that is dead. Adding a third or forth person won’t fix the dynamic or save a feeling of disinterest. New people do not fix relationships so don’t try to make them do it.

You three are so adorable <3

Thank you so much!!! 😁😁😁😁

So I’m in a triad (sorta) My wife is dating someone but that someone and I are just very good friends. We’re about to move in together, we’re very excited. And I was just wondering if you have any advice for things we should think about now that we’re going to be sharing a living space.

So this situation is definitely a lot different and I don’t know all the details, but like you’ve probably heard, communication is by far the most important thing. Jealousy will happen, but it is possible to get past that if everyone knows what to expect from each other. If you do not specifically tell each other what you are expecting to happen then you can not be mad when it doesn’t happen. Obviously everything is circumstancial, but for the most part I think that is the number one rule. I think k your sleeping situation will be very important to figure out if it is more of a “V” relationship. I would love to hear a bit more about the relationship if you feel like sharing

Do you share with your family about your polyfam? My husband and I have been dating a couple (two women) a little over a year now, and we're thinking about moving cities so we can live together. I mentioned it to my mom and she thought it would be weird for two couples to share an apartment, so I'm debating telling her what the situation is. If you told your family, how did they take it? If you didn't, why not?

So this is something we are actually going to have o deal with in the near future. As of right now we have not officially told any of our parents. I think my brother is our only blood family member that knows. One of the major things delaying us was waiting for us all to finish up college which happens soon. We wanted to be at a place where non of us were relying on our parents support before we mess that up haha. We are also trying to discuss who's parents are the priority and who's will take it the best. There is a chance that a couple of them already know something is up, but nothing official. I think we are going to have to cross this bridge pretty soon, so you will probably hear more about it. I think it also depends a lot on you age and stuff like that. Another thing is that some of our parents are pretty religious so that can also be a barrier. Sorry that was kind of a mess but if you have any other questions send them here.

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“Love someone who is kinder to you than you are to yourself.”

— Nikita Gill (via purplebuddhaquotes)

Any advice for a new throuple on jealousy? Mainly I’m having issues discerning between jealousy and an actual problem that requires discussion and problem solving. I don’t want to stuff my feelings away but I’m also scared of causing unnecessary problems.

So I'd say that jealousy is by far the biggest hurdle to overcome. Communication is key, but normally the communication is related to jealousy problems. We still struggle with this often. In our case it varies greatly by person. We have not cracked the case, but it is clear that jealousy is something everyone deals with. You normally have to take it case by case, but you must realize as a group that you all have each other's best interests in mind. If that is not the case then there may be real problems. If you all live each other than there is not as much if a reason to be jealous, so you have to access that first before jumping to conclusions. Feel free to ask me more personal questions if necessary! I hope this helps and bit.