Just because something is painful to a transgender person, doesnāt automatically make it transphobia.
Being turned down because someoneās not attracted to your (pre-op or pre-hrt) body is painful, but not transphobic. It didnāt happen because of your trans label, it happened because people have preferences in what they find physically attractive. Theyāre allowed to have those.
Itās transphobic when you reject someone specifically for their transgender label. When itās due to something else, itāll still be painful for them, but itās not a case of transphobia. Youāre allowed to turn people down for not finding them attractive.
















