What advice would you give someone that likes a trans guy?
Some days he’s gonna be on top of the world. Some days he will walk into a bar like he owns the place just because you’re on his arm. But other days he won’t be able to get out of bed. Some days he will need you to guard the bathroom door in public so he can pee in peace. Some days he will need you to tell him he’s handsome a hundred times as he gets ready to go out. Some days you’ll have to point out that his arms look bigger from working out. Some days he will be angry for no reason because fighting his body takes a toll on him. Some days he may cry in your arms and you have to just let him. Some days he will hurt from binding, rub his shoulders. Some days you’ll have to learn his body, and relearn his body. Some days you won’t be able to touch him there, some days it might be okay. Some days he won’t be able to have sex because it’s too much and his body doesn’t feel right, don’t give him a hard time. Some days he will want to have sex all day, and he will want a blowjob even if he can’t feel it, indulge it. Some days a little “you’re my man” can go a long way. Some days he won’t see a single thing about himself that he likes and you might have to disagree, and he might not care, but insist on what you like anyway. Some days he might be scared, assure him it’s normal. Some days he might have doubts, about himself, about his gender, about life, and it can be hard to stand beside. It can be a lot, and if you can’t handle it you need to try to know that going in. But if you’re up to it, every day he could be your man and you have the opportunity to date someone that is learning to love themselves and grow and change and that’s a unique journey that very few people get to be a part of.
